What is a confidante?

The wise "confidante" believes that true love spans the length of life, the width of life and the depth of the soul! A confidante can exist in various ways in a complicated life, but she knows that what a man needs most in this world is his wife; Lover; Then there is the confidante.

The most important thing to be a confidante is to abide by the boundaries.

When you are sick in bed and struggling with pain, the one who holds your hand in panic and tears will be your wife. She is afraid of your pain, afraid of your death, and can't wait to hurt and die for you. She's crying, and she's obsessed with it, which makes you moved and upset. And the confidante didn't. Confidante don't cry. She just stood by the bed, staring at you quietly, reading your heart, and then telling you with her mouth, her eyes and her heart that she knows where your pain is! She understands you and is willing to share it silently for you, so that your soul will no longer be lonely and make you happy. This shows the essential difference between the two: crying because I love you; I don't cry because I understand you.

A man, if there is a woman who loves you deeply and understands you in his life, what else can he ask for?

Female confidantes are extremely clever girls, and they know best: if a woman wants to be eternal in a man's life, she must be his mother or the female confidante he will never get. Understand him, but it just doesn't belong to him. Give him enough care, but don't give him a good impression, don't let him think that you will fall in love with him, and don't let him have the impulse and enthusiasm to fall in love with you. This is the skill of being a confidante.

You went out for a long trip and there was no news, but there was a major natural disaster where you went, and your confidante was worried. You called many times, but you couldn't get through every time because your phone was turned off. When you have lingered enough and stood in front of her unkempt face, she just smiled and asked, "Long time no see, how have you been?" She won't mention her worries, her worries, never. She knows that mentioning those things has nothing to do with her. She doesn't want love, just friendship. She is like a naughty headhunter. She winks at you, and then brings out the naughty, enthusiastic and active elements of all the boys in you. You have no choice but to surrender in front of her. I really can't escape, and I don't want to.

Usually, a wife is a confidante, and a confidante is a listener. She may be gentle and lovely, or she may be like a generous buddy. In front of her, a man can be a tired bird or a prodigal son, tired, lonely, helpless, evasive and lazy, but she can accept your darkness, give you peace and make room for your energy recovery.

If the wife is the sun and the lover is the moon, then the confidante is the star. When the sun and the moon are tired, the stars are not. They are flickering and far away, willing to be lonely but brilliant and long.

No matter how high you are in front of others, you can't look up. In the eyes of your confidante, there is only dignity, not majesty. She can walk into your heart through layers of masks, like nobody's business, and communicate with you in a language that you and she both know.

Therefore, those who can become confidantes must be the best among women. And those who can have a confidante must be wise men.

A confidante is actually the three realms of life.

The first realm is in the Book of Songs. "White dew is frost, so-called Iraqis are on the water side" is a rare opportunity. Because of distance, all the good things are put together. Usually, wives possess men, lovers share men, and confidantes shape men. She fully tapped his potential and completed the mission of "confidante" by perfecting and helping men. Therefore, a confidante is another soul of a man. Sometimes she is close at hand, sometimes she is on the water side, but you can feel her presence in life. She doesn't necessarily agree with your outlook on life and values, but she definitely respects you, trusts you and understands you. A confidante is actually a warm hand that ignites the fire of life with you. Men often become active because of her. Therefore, the confidante is the peerless beauty. Unfortunately, most women are just not smart enough to be confidantes, and the trap of men's desire just makes her unable to be confidantes, which is why many women originally wanted to play confidantes, but later they became mistresses or strangers.

Therefore, confidante is really a luxury for men and an unwillingness for women.

The second realm is the temptation of Song Ci, "Walk with shame, lean against the door and look, but only smell the green plum". In essence, people can't resist the temptation. For example, wives and lovers have no temptation-they make it a reality. The beauty of a confidante is that she keeps the temptation, so she becomes the blue in a man's life. When your wife gives you a headache and your lover makes you feel distressed, a confidante makes you feel no pain anywhere. She is full of affinity and imagination, and brings you joy like spring breeze; It is the comfort of "I may not see you every day, but I will think of you every month, but whenever I see you, I will see my old friend again"; It is your touch. "No matter where you are, no matter what happens, you can feel that somewhere in this world, someone will pay attention to you and listen to you." Although she walks away from you in walk on by, she only looks back occasionally, but you still can't help following her, because her unique way of reading your life is really an irresistible temptation for you in this life.

And temptation, isn't it the driving force to guide people forward?

The third realm is the antithetical couplets. The first part is "come at your call", the second part is "leave when you can" and the second part is "all for your own good". This realm is what distinguishes a confidante from any other woman: the wife can't recruit-in fact, you have to come if she recruits you, and the lover is lingering-she still wants fame, so how can she give up easily? There is also a kind of person-prostitutes can come and go at the call, but "it's all for money." Only the confidante is most willing to give you the initiative. Because they are friends, there is no sex, no love, no pink emotions, and no rainy days that are wronged; Because it is a bosom friend, we can put all the starting points in the perspective of "thinking for you". In the spirit of understanding, support and friendship, she embraces you and is close to you. She really pushed the connotation of the word confidant to the top of the world.

You see, it's not easy to get a bosom friend in life. If the bosom friend is a beauty, how gorgeous it would be.

Sometimes I really don't understand why men must find a "confidante", even if they make a scene at home ... Sisters who really don't understand may have an epiphany after reading the following words. ...

1, having a beautiful "iron buddy" will make people more proud.

Men may long for a confidante. If a good friend is wine, female friends are undoubtedly very intoxicating. Because of their different status, they are more cautious and can help men more than lovers. If she is a beautiful woman full of masculinity, she will even do things more effectively than men.

2, such a gentle hug, how can you not let men move?

If he is depressed, he may get drunk. If he had a little strength and courage, he might find someone to fight with. However, if he has a considerate female friend, he may talk to her and even cry. Male friends are definitely not good. Even if others don't know, he can't be miserable in front of the same sex. Confidante is not terrible. They love men's occasional weakness in front of them, and prefer to truly appreciate this weakness.

3. A bosom friend is a kind of unrequited love.

Xuan is a down-to-earth person, but unfortunately time is not conducive to career failure. His wife couldn't help it, and Xue, his friend for many years, started from scratch again, just like starting from scratch. Two years later, Xuan made a comeback, the house and car came back, and the family resumed their previous comfortable life. In the past two years, Bai Xue not only did what ordinary friends did, but also paid the unique wisdom and gentleness of women. Actually, that's it. For a confidante like Xue, Xuan's happiness and success are the rewards she wants.

She doesn't monopolize you, but she is connected with you.

Once a woman becomes a wife, she no longer looks at men objectively. What they want is possession. Once a woman becomes a lover, she doesn't want him to share it with others. But a confidante won't. She appreciates you because it is a kind of spiritual harmony, and she will not enjoy it exclusively because of your existence. Most people have their own hidden personalities. If a man's other half is a woman, it is more likely to be a confidante.

5. Intimate friends are usually smart.

If a woman wants to be eternal in a man's life, she should either be his mother or be the "confidante" he will never get. After all, a confidante contains many things. Love is too short, marriage is too boring, lovers are too tired, and only confidante can last long. Therefore, women who are willing to be men's confidantes are usually open-minded and smart.

Step 6 satisfy men's vanity

Some women are born friends. They like relaxed relationships and hate bondage as much as men. This is undoubtedly the type of friend that more men appreciate. So even if they are not so "bosom friends", men like to be friends with such women. Enjoying the care and closeness of women other than wives or lovers can greatly satisfy men's vanity.

7. It can inspire men to be more tolerant and understanding.

For example, drinking in a pub, men can fight drinking lawsuits with the same sex, but not with women. Friends of the opposite sex can inspire men to be more tolerant and understanding, and they are willing. This is a gender feature, and the strong like to take care of the weak. So women are loved and men satisfy men's vanity. This is the most fundamental of confidante. Since I am willing, how can I get along beautifully?

8. Smart men can enjoy the "people's blessing"

What if the first confidante becomes her own woman and meets another woman who is equally lovely or even more attractive? A man's possessiveness will not let him go, but bigamy is not only hateful, but also illegal; The lover's lust is too great, so it is better to find her as a bosom friend. Turn love into friendship and give it to her. Love your wife in every way at home and fall in love with your confidante outside.

9. It's hard to get a confidante.

Friends are all over the world, and how many people can know each other? From studying to working now, I have made many friends, but only three people can talk to each other together! We always feel comfortable together, or chatting, or drinking, or traveling, and it is not easy to have a feeling of "but I feel the harmonious heartbeat of the sacred unicorn"! I think the greatest pleasure in life is to have a bosom friend called a friend! My only regret now is that I can't find a confidante! It is still difficult for men to be bosom friends, and it is even harder for men and women to be bosom friends. It is even harder for a man to be a confidant with a beautiful woman!

10, confidante, man's excuse

I'm just your confidante, that's all. Love can be a thorn, and missing can be a delusion. I have always been reserved, because I don't seem to have no self-esteem. I have always liked Faye Wong's Boredom. "No matter who you fall in love with, you have to say that you are in love with his soul. If not, it is dishonest. " I thought I was in love with your soul, so I became the lover of a married man. But I'm tired of tearing it over and over again! I feel very tired, and I really want to find someone who really loves me and wait for a lifetime. In fact, I am neither excellent nor strong, but you have never opened the door of my disguise. It's not that you don't know, but that you never want to know that I am fragile, and I also need your love and consideration.