Don’t be a princess if you can be a queen

There is a saying that is very popular recently, a twenty-year-old girl is a luxury product, a twenty-five-year-old girl is a discount product, and a thirty-year-old woman is a half-price product. Some people also say that a twenty-year-old girl is a princess, a twenty-five-year-old girl is a maid, and what about a thirty-year-old woman? Sorry, it's a female slave.

Hey, I want to say, I don’t want to be a princess, I don’t want to be a maid, and I will never be a slave. No matter how old I am, I am still me, I am the queen.

A man said, I think you are very good, but you don’t need me.

How could that happen? I need you very much.

No, you can do everything by yourself, you don’t need a boyfriend at all.

I used to think that this was all a misunderstanding. The man must not love me or understand me, so he thought I didn’t need him. But if I can take care of myself, do I really not need a boyfriend?

Some male friends said that in fact, what men need is a woman who "needs him". The woman they need is an ivy, entangled with them and attached to them. Without them, these big trees will be gone. You can't live without sunlight. "But you turned into another big tree, even taller than them, blocking their sunlight. You don't need them, you don't depend on them to live."

So, men will be more Willing to choose the woman who "needs them more".

But, I am a tree, I am not an ivy that cannot live without a tree. My mother taught me since I was little that if you can do something yourself, don’t bother others. So I have made my own decisions on everything since I was a child. I have been a key child since I was a child. I have never asked my parents to help me with any homework. I kill cockroaches by myself, buy sanitary products by myself, decide which university I want to go to, and fill out the college student form by myself. Is it wrong to apply for a volunteer form, choose the city where you want to live, find a job by yourself, work hard to make money by yourself, buy a car or a house by yourself? Is this my fault?

I have always believed that a girlfriend who doesn’t give her boyfriend a headache is a good girlfriend, so I never ask my boyfriend to be my caller and be there whenever I want; I don’t think it’s natural for my boyfriend to pick me up and drop me off; if he carries heavy objects, I will definitely reach out to help him carry the light bag that I can carry. When eating, I will help him arrange the dishes and chopsticks before getting what I want to eat. If my computer breaks, I will call a repair company to come to repair it instead of going to someone better than me. A boyfriend who doesn’t understand much; who even takes a taxi to see a doctor when he’s sick; who never loses his temper even when he’s almost dying of quarrels and bickering. If I was really wrong, I would first apologize to him and say I was wrong. In addition to studying hard to improve my IQ every day, I am also working hard to develop my EQ together.

I can be independent, independent, and my own queen, but I can’t be that delicate princess, let alone treat a man as a driver, a slave, or even a cash machine.

Yes, I really envy those girls who are born with the destiny of being princesses. There are men who are willing to peel shrimps when they eat, act as drivers when they go out, and use them as gold cards when they go shopping.

I accidentally grew into a big tree, but I didn’t want to bend down in front of him and pretend I was a grass.

The man said, I really don’t understand, why do you have to make yourself so hard?

Yes, I was born with a lowly life, and I was not born to be a bossy princess. If possible, I also want to be a princess. I also want to be like most girls. When I pout my mouth, a man will do things for me, please me in every possible way, please me endlessly, praise me, pay for meals, and open the door when I get in and out of the car. Closed door, available at any time. Just like a female friend of mine said: "This is what men inherently owe us."

I don't know if no man owes me anything by nature, or if I am born a lowly person and have used all my strength in the wrong way. place.

Just a man, you need to know that it’s not that I don’t want to be a princess and enjoy your diligent care, but because I love you, I hope you don’t have to work so hard.

Just because I love you, I hope that the person who sweats hard is me and not you.

I always love people in the most direct, stupidest and hardest way, and I never expect Prince Charming to save me from the tower, because I will find a way to escape myself.

Actually, I need you, but I don’t know how to ask you.

But my needs are mutual needs, not dependence on you, because I am not a vine, and I will not depend on you.

But I will grow into a big tree, a towering tree like you, clinging to each other in the wind and rain.

I love to be brave. Even if I often cannot open the cap of a mineral water bottle, I will still grit my teeth and move forward slowly carrying a luggage weighing 30 kilograms. I also want someone to be the driver and be there at any time, but I prefer to drive my own car and make the entry and exit decisions myself. I also like the expensive luxury goods in the window. If you ask me if you want to give them to me, I will be very happy, but I hope I can still buy this boutique with my own hands. I can't enjoy a man's kindness with peace of mind, and I can't regard a man's admiration for me as fun. I just hope that when you are giving, I will be working silently.

What if I am not destined to be a princess?

Why should I be a princess if I can become a queen?

There are always girls complaining: "Queen, I can't handle my boyfriend. Queen, I will never be as important in his heart as his friends. Queen, there is another one on his MSN who fights all day long." I am jealous of the girl who is making trouble, but there is nothing I can do about it, because he says she is his god-sister, and blames me for being unreasonable.”

Based on my years of research and scientific reasoning, I found out. There is only one word to win over a man: patience. Once you learn to tolerate, there is nothing in this world that is easier to handle than a man.

Only when you are patient enough can you become a master.

As soon as I heard that I had to put up with men’s bad friends, I was the first to jump out.

"What? Just those fair-weather friends? They drink, brag, play cards, and eat and drink all day long. A group of stinky men get together and don't do anything serious. They don't ban boyfriends. Even if they are good, I still have to tolerate them. Am I, my real girlfriend, not as good as a group of ordinary friends?"

Arrogant MM, please sit down and calm down. Let alone a real girlfriend, even an ace girlfriend cannot replace the position of a good friend. Men are also strange things. Men are all face-loving animals, and the phrase "forgetting friends after seeing sex" is the most shameless thing in the world for men. If "sex" refers to his girlfriend or wife who sees him day and night and sleeps in the same bed, "friend" may be his friend, college classmate, client or club mate who wears crotchless pants. For them, drinking, bragging, and eating with friends is as important as us women going shopping, having their nails done, buying snacks and watching Korean dramas. If your boyfriend didn't allow you to go shopping, buy clothes for facial masks, or talk on the phone with your girlfriend, would you go crazy? Do you want to run away from this man?

But some women just don’t understand this. It’s really boring and wasteful to have to compete with men’s buddies. As long as your man isn't sleeping with his male friends, you don't care who he hangs out with, whether he goes fishing, drinking, or bowling, it's all your business.

Queen, I also want to tell you, not only do you have to tolerate his male friends, but you’d better bring in his fair-weather friends who don’t like you and hijack your boyfriend’s intimate time with you. Your own camp. Develop all the men's best friends into your own best friends.

There is such a joke, called the difference between women’s friendship and men’s friendship.

Women’s friendship: A woman didn’t come home one night, and the next day she told her husband that she slept with a female friend. Her husband called her ten best friends, but no one knew. This thing!

Men’s friendship: A man didn’t go home to sleep one night. The next day he told his wife that he was sleeping with a brother. His wife called his ten best friends and eight of them were A good brother made sure that her husband was sleeping in their house and two others said: "Your husband is still here with me!"

Youdao is a friend of a friend, a friend of a friend is an enemy, and a friend of an enemy is a friend. If you are an enemy, you have to add your male friends to the enemy pile, then the male friends will have no choice but to treat you as an enemy. The best way to deal with an enemy is to drive them away. So they will fight against the injustice and introduce girls who look good to your poor boyfriend, which is really harmful and useless.

If a man’s best friends are developed into your best friends, and even tell you about their worries at work and the success of sex, if they want to pick up girls, they should first come to you for help. I came to you to ask about the aftermath. Are you still worried about not being able to find your husband who didn't come home that night? You don't need to catch him, his best friends will tie up your husband first and deliver it to you personally. This is called strategizing and winning from thousands of miles away.