How to identify "Phoenix Man"

Phoenix man is not a family problem at all, but a world outlook and personality model.

There are too many legends about Phoenix Man:

Rural background, g

Phoenix man is not a family problem at all, but a world outlook and personality model.

There are too many legends about Phoenix Man:

Rural background, general family conditions, male chauvinism, paying more attention to parents, brothers and sisters and even distant relatives than husband and wife, not thinking that his wife has personal property, hoping to take advantage of his parents-in-law's family, and being extremely proud. ...

Two results of meeting Phoenix Man,

Few Phoenix men will succeed.

So in order to avoid meeting such a son-in-law, some families should let their daughters:

These three rules will actually screen out some good boys, and many things that beat Yuanyang are because of these three rules.

In addition, even if these three rules are implemented, they may not be useful-some boys are not in the three rules, but they still behave like "Phoenix Men", and some people call them "straight men's cancer".

In other words, those three criteria can't rule out Phoenix Man at all.

Strange, what kind of person is Phoenix Man?

Some serious people tend to regard "Phoenix Man" as a kind of discrimination against rural youth. Once this theory of discrimination is accepted, this existing topic will not be studied in depth. In fact, there are two social and psychological concept indicators for positioning Phoenix Man.

People who like to emphasize their class attributes and care about their status are socially dominant people. They are eager for a higher social class and like to be at the top of the social class and in a dominant position.

Psychologist Jim Stannis explained that the desire to get ahead will make people with high social dominance like to accept prejudice and discrimination. If you are interested in this, you can read his book Social Domination. )

People with strong social dominance like to blame the weak, and they are willing to engage in the work of defending social classes, such as politics, joining the army or doing business in the sea. They will not engage in social work and other work to promote equality.

Sounds like a nuisance, but it's not. In reality, people with strong social orientation are studious and enterprising, and most of them are more enterprising.

Many are full of charm. As a leader, you will like such subordinates.

The shortcomings of such people are also obvious:

When chatting, I can feel that some people are foreigners in a city, but their words may discriminate against some foreigners (when this happens, I can immediately judge that he is such a person), and their attitude towards a person is closely related to what the other father has done.

On the contrary, people whose orientation is not obvious will describe their occupation, hobbies, family relationships or personal characteristics more.

People with strong social control are easy to be admired, while people with weak social control are easy to be kind.

People with authoritarian personality cannot tolerate weakness. They like to punish and obey the authority within the group.

They generally believe that obedience and respect for authority are the most important qualities that children should learn.

People with authoritative personality are generally subjected to harsh control in childhood, which may lead them to imitate the fuss of the controller, be keen on revenge, be in a dominant or dominant position, and insult others at will.

They will try their best to obey those who have higher power and status than themselves, and then turn their attacks and punishments to those who are lower than themselves.

People with authoritative personality like to criticize each other and use insulting words in the relationship between lovers and spouses.

When the family encounters some crises, such as financial difficulties and unemployment, people with authoritative personality will become more nervous and rude, and cover up their fears with hostility.

People who are good friends and neighbors when they go out, and those who are particularly fierce at home and their spouses and children are basically authoritative personalities.

The man with both high indicators is Phoenix Man.

The number of people with high scores of social dominant orientation and authoritative personality is small, but it is very destructive. Sociologist Altmeier's research shows that these people are the people with the most serious social prejudice and may be fanatical racists.

Similarly, men who meet these two indicators also exist in family life, namely:

Pay attention to their social status, they should be at the top of the food chain (to prove this, they can subsidize their relatives and even villagers at the expense of their own interests, just to let others say that they are powerful);

Pursuing economic status and social status;

Pursuing the obedience of his wife and the support of his wife's family (he thinks he is the hope of this family);

They think that men are superior to women and like to control their wives with insulting language and behavior.

This is the typical phoenix male and straight male cancer.

We can also find that young people from rural areas often grow up to be "Phoenix men", which may be related to "authoritative personality". If most rural youth want to get a college education and come to big cities, they have to accept the high-intensity and harsh education methods of county middle schools. It is easy to form an "authoritative personality".

It should be noted that meeting only one index does not prove that this is straight male cancer.

Many people will laugh at themselves and describe their poor family as a miserable child, but he is not a typical authoritative personality and does not pursue control in dealing with others. On the contrary, he is a person who can tell jokes and has a sense of humor.

If you have seen the movie The Sound of Music, you will know that a sense of humor is the natural enemy of an authoritative personality. So many people feel that they are particularly motivated, but boys who can tell jokes are not as popular as girls. That's the reason.

Having a sense of humor means that the communication cost of getting along is relatively low.

Most Phoenix men and straight men have no sense of humor.

Similarly, if a pure authoritative personality does not have a serious social orientation (the impulse to fly high), it may only put its sovereignty on children and become strict father, but not necessarily a Phoenix man.

postscript

This standard is not only applicable to Phoenix Man.

Because of "Fung Wong-Nui".

I also mentioned in my previous article "To Daughters who are Slaves in Patriarchal Families" that some wives' families are basically a bottomless pit. Some wives can take the initiative to get rid of the exploitation and blood sucking of their families, but some have been conniving at the mother's blood sucking process, and some still bully their husbands. In fact, they are the female version of "Phoenix Man".

If you have such a bloodsucking wife around you, you may wish to observe and analyze it, which basically meets the two standards we said today.

When it comes to bullying, men and women are the same.

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