My nephew calls me "Gulu Bangzi"

My sister-in-law, who used to laugh at me as "Gulu Bangzi", has a son, but now besides asking her for money, I don't go back to see her all year round.

(Gulu Bangzi: The hometown dialect means that if you don’t have a son, you will be alone in the future and no one will take care of you)

I am 74 years old and have three girls. The eldest and second are in the city, and the third is in the city. Married close by, they are living a good life. The three girls are also filial. My daughters rush to buy food for the family. They also take us on a trip every year. The third son-in-law who lives nearby is better than my son. He's considerate. If there's any work at home, he'll come over and get it done without even asking.

It was just because I gave birth to three girls that I was really looked down upon in the village.

My husband's family is from this village, not far from my home. My parents are embarrassed about their daughter-in-law, and they will come to me for any work. I am particularly concerned about my mother's family and my brothers.

My brother is an honest man, and my sister-in-law is not very kind to my parents. However, my sister-in-law is very good at giving birth to an eldest grandson in our family. My parents include me as my aunt. Yes, they all dote on my nephew.

My nephew lived with his grandparents for most of the year at that time, and he was fed everything good in my parents’ house.

It was my mother’s 60th birthday that year. I prepared gifts early and went back to my parents’ house because I had to be busy cooking.

My sister-in-law also went, but her sister-in-law never came. When it was time to eat, my 6-year-old nephew came over and brought 5 eggs, telling me that his mother asked for them. On my 60th birthday, her daughter-in-law gave her five eggs. I was really not happy, so I said in front of my nephew: Your mother gave you five eggs, and you have to eat two more.

Because I don’t have a son, I am very kind to my nephew. Unexpectedly, he went home and told his mother what I said. My sister-in-law was not happy when she saw me, and my nephew said as soon as he saw me. : "Gulu Bangzi", "Gulu Bangzi".

I know that my child is young, but I don’t know what this means. It must be the adults at home who say it, and the child will learn it. I felt uncomfortable for a long time at that time.

My girls are getting a little older, but they are very worry-free, but my nephew married the girl who worked with him before he was 20 years old. After they had a child, the nephew went to work in the city, and his wife I was taking care of the children at home, but later my nephew had an affair outside and wanted a divorce.

In order for her grandson to have a complete home, the sister-in-law used the money she had saved all her life to buy a house for her son in the city, and asked the daughter-in-law to take the child there.

My nephew is not divorced, but my sister-in-law is suffering from cerebral thrombosis. After treatment in the hospital, she can barely go to work. My brother has to do all the cooking, but my nephew and his wife live in the city. Don't go home less, let alone serve me. When you come back, you will cry about your poverty and continue to take away the little money from my brother.

So I think that whether you have a son or a daughter, you must educate yourself well, and you must set an example and set a good example for your children. The children will follow the example, and in the end they will fall on themselves, good or bad. Bad.