Why don't older women want to get married?

When people talk about older women, they always think that they are single because of their high vision and high requirements. In fact, this view is not correct.

Many women who are not married after the age of 30 are often not picky, but have experienced scarred love, which leads to some changes in body and mind and is afraid to fall in love easily.

Their hearts yearn for marriage, but they dare not take a step forward, so they hesitate and delay themselves.

I have seen many older women around me. They are not as picky and materialistic as people understand. On the contrary, they are more reasonable, able to be themselves and know how to be kind to others.

For example, my colleague Miss Su, who is 35 years old, has always been single, but she has a good attitude and treats people politely, which is very popular with everyone.

The reason why I don't get married is because I was disappointed with my ex-boyfriend when I was young, and I have been afraid to fall in love, for fear of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss in my feelings.

Moreover, her three views are correct. No matter who she associates with, she won't be greedy and cheap, insist on AA, and sometimes take the initiative to pay the bill, and basically won't owe others a favor.

For marriage, she said that it is ok to meet the right person. As long as two people are really together, she doesn't care about each other's conditions.

It can be seen that "older women" are single, not because of their high vision, but because of the following four reasons:

First, I have been hurt emotionally and I am afraid of disappointment.

The biggest reason why older women are single is that they are hurt in their feelings, so that they dare not fall in love again and are afraid of disappointment.

In the past, they seriously loved and gave wholeheartedly, and the result was not cherish, but disappointment and injury.

As a result, they have experienced a long period of spiritual healing, and when they slowly let go, they may have passed the marriageable age and were forced to be single.

In life, even if I meet a man who has a secret crush, I dare not confess, so I watched the fate miss.

Just like Miss Su, she met her favorite male colleague at work, but she never dared to talk to him, let alone make friends, and she always liked him silently.

The male colleague didn't notice, and she didn't give a hint. As a result, she was beaten by other girls and missed this marriage.

Therefore, many older women are single, not because of their high vision, but because they are sensitive and fragile, have no courage to actively pursue the love they want, and are afraid of being disappointed again, and eventually miss the fate.

Second, being single for a long time makes them afraid to get along with the opposite sex.

In reality, many older women have been single for a long time, becoming more and more accustomed to a person's life and afraid to accept the pursuit of the opposite sex easily.

Because I am afraid of getting along with the opposite sex, I don't know how to communicate with the opposite sex, and I seem to have no confidence.

Whenever they see a man pursuing them, they will subconsciously protect themselves, and then quietly avoid giving him a chance.

It's not that they don't want to associate, but they worry too much. They are always afraid of saying and doing wrong things in front of men and are afraid to face men alone.

In this regard, colleague Miss Su is deeply touched. When she meets a man, she also wants to fall in love, but she hasn't been in contact with the opposite sex for too long and really doesn't know how to get along.

Many times, she is afraid of men's eyes and always feels that something wrong with herself will make them laugh. This kind of psychological burden is very heavy, which deepens her step of escaping from the opposite sex.

Therefore, to a large extent, single older women are single, and they have lost their ability to get along with the opposite sex. They are not confident and dare not rashly accept men's pursuit.

Third, the circle is too small to reach more men.

Another important reason why older women are single is that their circle is too small to know more men, so that their choices are too narrow.

This kind of woman basically keeps a life of two points and one line. Apart from commuting, she doesn't have much social activities and often stays at home.

We know that a girl who stays at home for a long time will get used to wrapping herself up. If they don't go out, no one else can get in.

In this way, they almost lost the opportunity to associate with men, and it became more and more difficult to get rid of being single.

Although they yearn for love, they never have the courage to associate with men, so they naturally miss the opportunity.

And if you stay at home for a long time, you will become introverted and rarely talk to men. Men don't understand their true psychology, and of course they won't pursue it rashly.

Fourth, it was excellent, because I was busy with my career and delayed my marriage.

There is another reason why older women are single, that is, they are too excellent, and all their thoughts are focused on work or career, and they simply can't care about falling in love.

Such a woman is very enterprising, independent and successful in her career.

In this case, there are two results:

On the one hand, they are getting better and better, with a solid economic foundation and a very high quality of life, and it is difficult for them to be backward compatible.

On the other hand, they are busy with their careers and have little time to think about personal problems. Although they don't exclude marriage, they can't find time to talk about a love.

Therefore, the higher the quality of women, the more difficult it is to find a partner, not because of high vision, but because they are too busy and excellent.

For ordinary men, there is almost no self-confidence in front of such a woman, so that they dare not pursue it.

And those equally excellent men have been in love and married for a long time, and will not wait until now, which has caused women to be unable to match the right object.

Therefore, such an older woman has to be forced to be single temporarily, so she has to comfort herself with a natural attitude and continue to wait for a good marriage.