On which issue was Yun-peng Yue ridiculed?

If a stranger asks to join you for dinner and you have to cook for him, will you?

I believe that 100% people will shake their heads. Please don't disturb them in private time.

What if it is a star? For example, what about Yun-peng Yue and Huang Zulin?

One is PINKRAY Jr, who can make people eat by looking at their faces, and the other is Huang Chulin, who is sweet and clever and makes people laugh. What kind of sparks will he hit when he walks into an ordinary family and asks for food? It's exciting to think about it

The two stars with their own jokes hosted two similar variety shows, The Unknown Table and Dear, Come and Have a Dinner.

By inviting stars into ordinary families, through a series of dates and dinners, people's feelings about life are displayed in the dinners, and the happy collective images of China families are recorded.

For China people, dinner is the most relaxing and warmest moment of the day, and it is also the most important moment of inner softness. When a family gets together, the hardships and troubles of working during the day can be instantly resolved by the family.

The program group can grasp these two points, which is really excellent.

Unexpectedly, however, after the two programs were broadcast, "Dear, Come to dinner" was scolded by the audience, and the Douban score fell like a cliff, with only a miserable 2.5, which was really the worst variety show in recent years.

While "The Unknown Dining Table" received rave reviews, with a douban score of 6. 1, which was more than twice that of the former.

The same kind of programs, and one is in the front and the other is in the back, why do the latecomers come to the top?

After watching the performances of the stars in the program, it is not difficult to find out why there is such a big gap between the two.

In the first issue of "Dear, Come and Eat", the star Fan and the host Huang Zulin walked into a residential area to prepare for dinner. Unexpectedly, the residents I met not only didn't recognize them, but showed a full face of vigilance and indifference.

At this time, instead of introducing himself to ease the atmosphere, Huang Zulin looked shocked and said that there were people who didn't know themselves!

The next behavior is more chaotic, directly press the doorbell of a family, you're welcome to say:

"I am Huang Zulin, I am Fan Tiantian. Would you like to come to your house for dinner? "

When the other person heard that the voice was a strange man, he immediately said, "There is no one at home, just me."

As a result, a very normal rejection, Huang Zulin instead way:

"There's no one at home. What about you? "

You can't refuse my request. Please, a woman was alone at home when she met a strange man knocking at the door and asked to come in for dinner. Is this a wrong answer?

Next, the behavior of Huang Zulin and his party is even more disgusting. Obviously, they are guests. It seems that you owe me. Their sense of superiority is almost bursting out of the screen.

Either dislike the host's bad food or the pot is too bad. It's not a show, it's just a fault.

Look at the unknown table again.

At the beginning of the program, Yun-peng Yue put forward: "We should be a warm guest, don't bring trouble to others, don't add congestion to people, and don't dirty people's homes."

Then there was a knock at the door. Yun-peng Yue doesn't think he has any special advantages as a star, but he feels very embarrassed. He disturbed people's dinner and explained the recording requirements carefully. In order to dispel each other's concerns, he specially showed his green code and nucleic acid detection.

During the dinner, the host warmly invited them to the throne, and Yun-peng Yue immediately replied, "How can we get to the throne? You are the host and we are the guests. "

When eating, while chatting with your family, you can pick up food for your host with chopsticks, so that even the host becomes relaxed and comfortable, and each other is as natural as friends going home for dinner.

Xiaoping Cray's series of friendly actions are really flattering, and his popularity is not unreasonable.

Huang Chulin's superiority in the program is one of the reasons for the direct collapse of the program, while George W. Pinkley's actions make people feel close.

Superiority is a psychological state in which you feel better than others.

It comes from many sources, which can be occupation, education level and the most common self-wealth.

A proper sense of superiority is a good placebo, which makes people feel strong in some abilities and gives people confidence.

However, the excessive sense of superiority is just the opposite, but it reflects a person's sense of inferiority, which is what we usually say, the more you like to show off, the less you want.

Because only by letting what you want but lack be seen by more people can you realize the value of your existence.

Usually, people with excessive sense of superiority have the following performances:

1. arrogant

I feel that I am the most beautiful boy, and no one can compare with me. I despise, despise and look down on others.

2. Egocentricity

I always thought I was the only one who was right. I don't listen and I don't want to know other people's thoughts and opinions. I even think everyone else is an idiot.

3. Self-inflation

Bragging is the most common state, just like a peacock, bragging everywhere.

4. Easily sensitive and nervous

Because excessive superiority is actually a compensatory behavior rather than inferiority, superior appearance can not smooth out inner inferiority. So on the one hand, we must maintain our self-esteem, on the other hand, we are afraid of being exposed.

The consequence of this sense of superiority is not only that others will stay away from you, but also affect interpersonal relationships and even lose the trust of others.

At the same time, because of excessive sense of superiority, rejection of other people's opinions, loss of foresight of crisis consciousness, thus losing the opportunity to rise.

Therefore, maintaining a correct sense of superiority is what we really want to do.

So, how to master the scale of superiority? You can keep yourself confident, but you can't overstretch yourself.

1. Turn your attention to self-growth

Li Bihua, a famous Hong Kong writer, has created novels such as Farewell My Concubine, Green Snake and Rouge Kou. With fame, she can become the focus of people on any occasion, and these works give her enough capital to show off.

However, she rarely shows up and does not give interviews. Few people know what she looks like, and she can even be described as "mysterious".

Some people are curious, why should they deliberately hide themselves?

She replied:

"It's good for me to keep a proper distance from people and things outside. I don't always remember my influence, I don't think about how many people are reading your works, and I don't always regard myself as a beacon of suffering. Only in this way can I really write casually. "

2. Strengthen self-efficacy.

What is self-efficacy?

Refers to the prediction of our possible future behavior, that is, our self-judgment, whether we can complete the work through our own ability.

If the sense of self-efficacy is low, the enthusiasm and completion of the work will be greatly reduced, while people with high sense of self-efficacy are full of enthusiasm for the work to be done and will go forward even if they encounter difficulties.

So how can we improve our self-efficacy?

We can choose a job from difficult to easy, instead of choosing a more difficult job from the beginning.

In this way, every success can help us accumulate a belief that we will succeed.

Of course, everything can't be smooth sailing. Once we meet with failure, we will feel depressed. We should tell ourselves that failure is human nature, and only failure can we know where our shortcomings are, and then we can by going up one flight of stairs.

Of course, we also need to record our work growth, whether it is failure or achievement, record it and review it regularly, so as to remind ourselves how we succeeded or overcame difficulties at the beginning.

3. Improve self-esteem.

Actor Wang once mentioned a past event with his idol Andy Lau.

At that time, he had just become famous and attended a film award ceremony.

When he went to the bathroom to wait in line, he found that his idol Andy Lau was actually behind him. The simple and honest king was immediately replaced by Andy Lau, and humbly asked the idol to use it first.

Andy Lau is not proud because he is a senior and Wang is a novice. Instead, he is more humble to the king.

Wang Xin-ren has never used an automatic induction faucet, and no matter how you press the faucet, no water can come out.

In this embarrassing situation, Andy Lau took the initiative to come over and put Wang's hand under the tap, which solved the problem.

Such people know how to respect themselves and others, and they are never afraid of others saying that they are not good and are strong everywhere.

When encountering problems, people with high self-esteem will focus on how to solve them, thinking that success is achieved through their own efforts, not through the recognition of others.

They will consider everyone's feelings and will not show off everything they have when others don't have it. Instead, I will take the initiative to help others find steps through self-deprecation and avoid embarrassment.

As the online saying goes, "Sex is human nature, but life is to overcome nature and keep moving forward."

Only when we truly realize ourselves can we really grow up and become a better self.