My wife contacted my first love and told me to find something every year. What should I do? What does the wife think?

First of all, this is a very sensitive and complicated issue, which needs to be handled carefully. Here are some suggestions:

1. Communicate frankly with your wife: try to understand her thoughts and feelings. Let her know your discomfort and anxiety, and tell her how you feel. Ask her why, and understand the motivation behind her first love.

2. Build trust and respect: If you choose not to divorce, you need to build a foundation of mutual trust and respect. It takes time and effort. You need to show your sincerity and your willingness to try to understand and accept her past.

3. Seek professional help: If you feel that you can't handle this problem, or your communication is becoming more and more tense and difficult, you can consider seeking professional psychological counseling or marriage therapy. This can help you get to know each other better and improve your communication and problem-solving skills.

4. Consider taking measures: If you find that your wife has inappropriate contact with your first love, you can consider taking measures, such as limiting their contact, or taking other actions to protect your family and marriage.

Most importantly, you need to stay calm, understand and respect your wife's feelings, and try to find a common solution. If you feel that you can't solve the problem, don't hesitate to seek professional help.