In interpersonal communication, "sense of boundary" is very important.

a long article by Wang Ou yesterday <; < On the relationship between fans and idols > > Rush into the top ten of the hot search list.

out of curiosity, I clicked in and took a look, but I couldn't help agreeing with her point of view.

What impressed me most was this passage: Distance makes beauty, and my friends are just my friends. Some people don't cross the line and regard my friend as another me. They're not. Don't lose yourself when you like anything, which affects the normal life of others. This is very impolite!

Everything in the words reveals that you like me, but please stay away from my private life!

There are not a few examples of fans infiltrating into the idol's life, and many stalking fan has done many incredible things for idolize to follow the idol and even buy binoculars to peek at the idol's life.

So when this kind of thing happens, everyone appeals: pay attention to the works and stay away from life.

As Angel said, distance produces beauty, and all likes should have a sense of boundary.

Bottomless interference not only destroys the mystery brought by the border, but also adds a lot of unpleasantness!

Fans' love for idols can be their yearning for her or their recognition of her works. Once you pay too much attention to or read too much about some of her behaviors, you will cross the line.

Schopenhauer said, "People are like hedgehogs on a cold night. If you get too close, you will get stabbed!"

Your liking without a sense of boundaries will definitely hurt others!

coincidentally.

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Variety of recent fires <; < 21 days before marriage > > Designed to convey the sweetness of preparing for the wedding.

In the latest broadcast, the segment of He Wenna being forced to eat braised pork by her mother-in-law once again shows us how embarrassing the relationship without a sense of boundary is!

During pregnancy, He Wenna doesn't like meat and vegetables with strong smell of oil smoke, and even smells a little nauseous.

My mother-in-law said under the banner of concern, "We must eat without discussion. I'm watching. Finish it!"

Mother-in-law pressed He Wenna like a mountain. As a last resort, He Wenna swallowed two pieces of greasy braised pork with boiled water, but her expression was extremely uncomfortable.

With the reaction during pregnancy and the stimulation of greasy dishes, He Wenna soon went to the toilet to throw up.

The messages in the barrage are: "This mother-in-law regards her daughter-in-law as her daughter, so you're welcome!"

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been an eternal problem. Some people say that mother-in-law should be regarded as mother and daughter-in-law, so it is easy to get along well.

but the fact is, when your mother-in-law dumped your daughter, you simply couldn't bear her suffocating love for you.

A mother-in-law is a mother-in-law. Never think of her as your own mother. You can be angry with your mother when you are unhappy, but not with your mother-in-law!

similarly, a daughter-in-law is just a daughter-in-law who will never become her own daughter.

The closer a relationship is, the more it needs to find the right distance and confirm the best boundary between them, so that the care conveyed is comfortable! Otherwise, it is easy to become a bossy commander!

He Wenna said in an interview afterwards: "If my own mother asked me to eat, I would directly say that I couldn't eat, but it's not easy for me to refuse if my mother-in-law asked me to eat!"

He Wenna knows how to grasp the sense of boundary between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so she chose to compromise instead of confrontation.

Imagine that if He Wenna also loses this sense of boundary, she can generously tell her mother-in-law that she doesn't want to eat! Then I am afraid that I will get a more intense quarrel.

you see, the sense of communication boundary between people is so important!

a relationship without a sense of boundary is a loose sand, so it's better to promote it!

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I have heard a saying: "Setting clear personal boundaries is a kind of maturity, a kind of self-confidence, and a pattern of being born as a human being!"

I once had a friend who was a person with zero sense of boundaries.

When we were in college, our beds were adjacent. You helped me get a glass of water and I handed you the earphone. After a while, we became closer.

once my friend and I returned to the dormitory after dinner, and I saw her wearing one of my clothes and sitting in front of the mirror making up.

I felt a drum in my heart: "Is this my dress? Or did she buy an identical one? "

Just as she was thinking, she took the lead in saying, "You're back! I can't wear clothes in these jeans. I just saw your clothes hanging outside. I tried them and put them on! "

"I'm going out later, and I'll come back to help you wash it!" "

I haven't recovered from the shock. She has gone out in that dress!

This makes me feel very uncomfortable. No matter how good the relationship between friends is, you can't wear my clothes without my permission!

The consequence of this loss of sense of boundary is that I began to alienate her slowly.

In interpersonal communication, proper limit without boundaries will invade other people's private space, which makes people feel disgusted!

From then on, we are not as close as before, just a simple roommate relationship.

it wasn't until a job fair that I completely broke up with her!

HR from many enterprises came to the job fair, which was a good occasion to show yourself.

The teacher asked each of us to introduce ourselves. When it was my turn, that friend stood up and said, "She is a crazy person in our class and wants to be a freelancer."

The joke that we usually tell in the dormitory in private was thus shaken out by her in a big way, or on such an important occasion.

Of course, the final result is that I failed to win the favor of any company and lost many opportunities.

at this point, I realized how hateful people who have lost their sense of boundaries are!

Dalev said, "The root of all human sufferings is the lack of sense of boundary."

I am deeply convinced that a good relationship must be comfortable. In a comfortable relationship, it is to keep a good sense of proportion and know how to keep the boundary at the right time.

May we all be free and independent in interpersonal communication, relying on each other without disturbing each other!