The story of buying cigarettes late at night

My friend came to see me and told me his story. I think it's interesting. I wonder if such a story happened to you?

My friend is a heavy smoker. One day, he worked until two o'clock in the middle of the night and finally finished his work successfully. He breathed a sigh of relief, turned off the computer and stretched himself. At this time, he went to get the cigarette case on the table, wanted to smoke a cigarette first, and then had a good sleep.

But he suddenly found that the cigarette case was empty. He looked everywhere in the house, but he couldn't find a cigarette. At this point, the addiction came up and he felt very uncomfortable. What should I do?

So he had to put on his clothes and open the door to buy cigarettes. It was winter at that time, and he was walking in the empty and silent street, rubbing his hands with cold.

All the shops are closed, and everything is silent. A biting cold wind blew, and he shivered and woke up suddenly. He couldn't help laughing at himself.

"At two o'clock in the middle of the night, in such a cold winter, I worked so hard to buy a pack of cigarettes. Is this ridiculous? "

This is not his style. He suddenly realized that he had become a slave to the smoking habit. After he figured it out, he gave up going to the convenience store and turned and walked home.

Then he gradually realized this situation and began to control the number of times he smoked.

He told me that he never thought that smoking had brought such a serious impact on himself. It's just a simple habit, which was originally just to relieve stress, and finally developed into this bad habit of smoking, and I had to buy cigarettes in the middle of the night.

In the process of growing up, people unconsciously formed countless habits. These habits are like wheels rolling all the way forward, with strong inertia and hard to change. People can't help but make certain actions, expressions, behaviors and even decisions with their habits. And the power of habit is like this, quietly affecting our lives.

As Golding said: habit, each of us is more or less its slave.

There are two kinds of our thinking structures, one is intentional and the other is unintentional. The unintentional part is called habit.

We do something over and over again, and when this situation is fixed, we will use the same strategy in the same situation. In other words, when you encounter the same situation, you will always make the same choice as before, and repeat it more often, forming a fixed pattern between this situation and choice, which is what we call habit.

At first, we did everything consciously. When habits are formed, we change from conscious activities to unconscious actions. Once the habit is formed, it is equivalent to entering the fast lane. Generally speaking, it is done directly, without obstacles and refusing to change. This also explains why habits are hard to change.

If a bad habit can't be suppressed, it may eventually make you do a lot of things you didn't want to do, so you will become a servant of the bad habit.

Habit can make or break a person. Cha Ehol said: what kind of thoughts, what kind of behavior; What kind of behavior and habits; What kind of habits, what kind of personality; What kind of personality, what kind of fate.

Habit not only affects people's character, but also affects people's thoughts and destiny. Let the habit serve you and become your servant, instead of being subject to it, being dominated by it and watching bad habits ruin your life little by little.

Habits can be formed in two ways: one is subtle and casual. The other is to form new habits through purposeful training. Good habits are generally formed through conscious training, which is the fundamental difference between them and bad habits. Here I'd like to introduce you to some habits:

First of all, to form a habit, it is necessary to cancel or change the connection point of the original habit. Don't follow your usual steps, you should make some changes on the road of habits and force yourself to notice the difference between old habits and new ones.

Then repeat the new habit. This stage is very slow, and it is not easy to form a new habit overnight. Research shows that it takes you 18 ~ 254 days to form a new habit, so you must be patient with your new habit.

Finally, give your new habit a solid trigger, that is, a fixed pattern. For example, reading before going out every morning and going out to work in the morning are all incentives for reading. At this critical point, the reading mode is started and new habits are formed. Here, I also want to remind you that habits can't be formed overnight, and it takes a long time to consolidate. The formation of habits can be roughly divided into three stages:

1 ~ 7 days, at this stage, I need to constantly remind myself to change, so I feel very deliberate, unnatural and uncomfortable. Don't worry at this time, you must stick to it.

7 ~ 2 1 day, at this stage, you have gradually become familiar with what you want to do, and it is much easier to do it, so you don't need to remind yourself deliberately. However, this stage is a "dangerous period", and perhaps inadvertently, it will "relapse" and return to the state before the change. Many people will relax their vigilance at this stage and eventually lead to failure.

2 1 ~ 85 days, at this stage, you have initially formed a new habit, and all your previous awkwardness has disappeared. When the habit is formed, the movements will become smoother and more natural, and the habit will gradually stabilize. When you enter this stage, the transformation is basically successful. This habit will become a part of your life and continue to serve you.

From now on, cultivate your good habits and make a little progress every day. You never know when you will find your own talent or dream of poetry and distant places!