How did you live after your husband died?

I interviewed many men the other day and asked them what they would do if their wives died. The answer is to express deep affection, but those men who really lost their spouses are not like this. They seem to be "fickle". So, how do those women whose husbands have passed away live?

Let's take a look at what those widowed women did after their husbands died.

A； 32-year-old

"In 213, my father passed away, and two children, the youngest child was only 3 years old. I took care of his affairs alone and took care of my parents-in-law.

everyone thought that I would give up and go away, but I can't. I haven't thought about leaving this house for a moment. The child's father is gone, and I am their mother and father; My parents-in-law's son is gone, so I am both a daughter-in-law and a son "

b; 28-year-old

"My husband died. Apart from feeling that the child is not as pitiful as his father, I really hope that he will die early, be lazy and sleep until the afternoon, and be grumpy and mad as a dog.

This kind of person is living and wasting air. However, even if he is dead, I still scold him, but I am really sad. I hope he is still alive, and I am willing to be a cow and a horse. "

c; 31-year-old

"My husband left me for three years, we have no children, and I have not remarried.

I miss him very much. I wonder why he married me in the first place, since he can't stay with me all his life. I miss him very much. Why are you so cruel? You left me in your thirties. I hate myself more, I hate myself for being worthless, watching him leave, but I can't do anything. 。”

D； 27-year-old

"My husband had a wife before he married me. At that time, his wife was seriously ill. He sold the house and borrowed a lot of money. He stayed with her every day, made her laugh, read her poems, cooked breakfast for her and took her to the hospital. In the end, he was helpless and failed to save her life.

Six months after his wife's death, we got together. Everyone said he was heartless and of course scolded me, but everyone didn't know that he was so sincere. I pursued him on my own initiative. I was his wife's nurse at that time. Now that he has passed away, I don't know why God tortured our kind souls.

What's more frightening is that many people still say that this is his karma. . 。”

E； 37-year-old

"I am a rural woman. Fourteen years ago, my husband was badly hurt on the construction site, and he died after lying in the hospital for dozens of days. At the last night, he was lying in my arms, holding my hand, and his tears kept flowing. . .

more than ten years have passed, and I often think of this picture. When my husband was alive, he was the pillar of the whole family. When he left, I took up the task of plowing the fields. I am strong and alive during the day, and we meet in a dream at night "

f; 32 years old

"When my husband left, I wanted to die with him, but the child was only three years old. The child has no father, and he can't be left without a mother "

g; 26

"When I married him, I was seventeen and he was eighteen.

this marriage is a joke in the eyes of the whole village, saying that it is the monkey business of two dolls. That's the truth, too. We often quarreled, and then I went back to my parents' house. We don't have a marriage certificate. If we are separated, we can only be regarded as breaking up, although we already have two children.

After we separated, he drank all day. A few days before the Spring Festival last year, he drank in the middle of the night and rode a motorcycle, and died on the side of the road from the county to his home. I only regret it. Their families may never forgive me. My children may never forgive me. They will think that I hurt him, but who knows? . .

if I am not willful, if he can grow up. . Maybe there wouldn't be such a tragedy. 。”

H； 43 years old

"43 years old, my husband died. He really died before his death. I have served him for 2 years, and I am tired. I don't want to serve others anymore. Now that my child has grown up, I will live a quiet life.

In fact, despite this, I still dream about him often and still miss him very much, alas "

i; 43-year-old

"Now I sometimes want to boil water to make tea at home. When I boil the water, I think it is cold water, and then I pour it out; Sometimes I just forget something, and I feel that my brain is not enough. The whole person's brain is often empty.

Being widowed in middle age is probably the biggest tragedy in life, and people around me think I'm stupid "

j; 29 years old

"It's been five years since my father left, and I'm 29 years old. During these five years, I didn't look for any man and didn't do that except to go to a net friend to do things in March last year, and I had a late-night relationship.

It's not that I'm determined to be widowed. Her father doesn't deserve me to be widowed, and other men don't deserve me to serve. I just want to earn money, let my children eat well, get a good education, and stick with her often. I think it's also very happy. "

k; 28-year-old

"My husband has been away from us for almost four years. He is the only child in their family and has no relatives. Since I got married, my parents-in-law treat me as their own daughter, even dozens of times more than my own parents treat me.

My parents are also very kind to me, but my parents-in-law are very kind to me beyond description. I decided to raise my son by myself and honor their parents. They often advise me that I am still young and so beautiful, and they are also very supportive of finding another one and will treat me as a daughter, but I refused. I think there is nothing wrong with going on like this for a lifetime. < P > The above is the widowed woman's answer to "How do you spend the rest of your life after her husband died?" Although they are answers from different women from all corners of the country, if you read them carefully, you will find that many of them even say the same thing, which is different from men's answers.

At this point, four interviews about "How do you spend the rest of your life after the other half dies" have officially ended. From the comparison between men and women, imaginary and real, we can draw a general conclusion:

When the husband and wife are healthy, men will appear very affectionate when they imagine this problem, but if their wives really die, they will appear very fickle;

For a woman, when facing her husband's health, she doesn't seem so affectionate, but when her husband really passed away, on the one hand, she couldn't get out for a long time, on the other hand, she showed a strong and tenacious side.

I feel very deeply myself: not only can women hold up half the sky, but women can even hold up a sky.

after the disaster of fate, women appear very great and strong. But as a man, it's too difficult to take care of yourself and your family and not to show your wife her "great" side easily.

It's not a bad thing to work hard, but I still hope that readers and friends will pay attention to their health, and health will always come first. If anything happens to you, the people behind you will have a very difficult life.