Can you accept that your child will not get married or have children in the future?

I saw a post on the Internet. A newly married couple thought that having children was troublesome, stressful, and energy-consuming. They decided not to have children and decided to become "DINKs." Unexpectedly, they were criticized by both parents. There was strong opposition from the elderly people who could not accept the young couple's decision, saying that they were too selfish and did not consider the elderly and would regret it when they grow old.

The parents of both parties worked for the young couple from time to time, telling them all the disadvantages of not having children. The old people were so soft-hearted that they finally said harshly: If they don't have children, they will cut off relations with them. !

The young couple was so upset by this incident that they posted a message complaining, "Whether we have children or not is our own business. I don’t understand why the elderly care so much? What do they think?"

The so-called DINK refers to those families who have the ability to have children but choose not to have children, either for active or objective reasons. In life, there are relatively few DINK families. After all, they have to face pressure from their parents and the outside world, unless they insist on a strong DINK concept or get understanding and support from their family members.

What would the old man think if the young couple did DINK? Let’s take a look at the thoughts of the three mothers-in-law. Aunt Liu, 52 years old

I definitely can’t accept it. Marriage is to carry on the family line. Otherwise, why get married? Our ancestors have passed down the incense like this for generations. It is impossible for them to stop it. How can we explain to our ancestors if we don’t have children?

My son has been married for two years and still has no children. I am urging him every day. I don’t know what young people think. He always says he is busy with work and has no time. I just can’t understand it. The most important thing after getting married is to give birth to a child. I keep putting it off. It becomes difficult to have a child as I get older. If I give birth earlier, I will have the strength to help take care of the child.

If they tell me one day that they don’t want to have children, I will definitely have the heart to die. As long as I live, I have to have grandchildren. Only then can I be worthy of my ancestors. We can’t stop here. Got incense.

Don’t call me traditional in thinking, I don’t think any old man can accept DINK. It is the obligation of husband and wife to continue the incense. If you don’t have children, you won’t be laughed at, and you will be laughed at because you can’t have children. Aunt Wang, 50 years old

I don’t quite accept it. Although parents cannot interfere with their children, if their children want to DINK, I will definitely dissuade them.

I think they are just impulsive and will definitely regret it when they get older. When young people think about DINK, they just want to be free in a world of two. They feel that having children will take up time and energy, and they want to spend their time on what they want to do.

I think they will regret it as they get older. By then, their friends around them will be full of children and grandchildren, enjoying family happiness, but they will be lonely and desolate.

Besides, as the couple spends time together, the passion and freshness will fade away, and they will enter a boring and dull life. Without children to support them, the two of them will be bored except for looking at each other.

Children are the bond and hope of a couple’s relationship. Children are not only the crystallization of love, but also the continuation of life. Children are also a concern, a comfort and sustenance for the soul and emotions deep in the heart.

I heard that 90% of families without children will get divorced after ten years of marriage. Therefore, a family still needs to have children. In your later years, maybe your wife will leave before you. At this time, you will not be lonely because you still have children to take care of you.

I am older now, and I feel inexplicably envious when I see people holding their grandchildren. No wonder they say that old people like children, even if they are married every other generation.

If my son and daughter-in-law don’t want children, I will dissuade them and explain it to them. If they are still unmoved, I will not insist on asking. Anyway, I have said everything I should say, and I will regret it later. Don't blame me for not reminding you. Aunt Sun is 53 years old

Do you want to be a DINK? I think it’s okay. Whether they have children or not is their own business. Why do we care so much? Just two words: don’t care.

Besides, even if parents raise their children, even if the task is completed, we don’t have the energy to take care of other things.

If you don't have children, I won't have to spend time taking care of them. I will have this time to travel and relax with my friends, and be free and at ease. How great!

I am open-minded. Unlike other old people who think that marriage is about continuing the family line, why bother so much? The next generation has nothing to do with us. We should care more about ourselves throughout our lives.

If you give birth, I will help take care of you; if you don’t give birth, that is your business and has nothing to do with me. Conclusion:

Regarding DINK, our parents’ generation has traditional and conservative ideas. They believe that marriage is about continuing the family line and continuing the incense. They cannot accept their children becoming DINK. I think most parents cannot be as open-minded and free-spirited as Aunt Sun.

Although whether to have children or not is a matter between the couple and has nothing to do with others, we must also consider our parents’ ideas and suggestions. After all, our parents have more life experience than us. Besides, not having children by your side in your old age is also a very lonely thing, and not everyone can bear it. You must think carefully about Dink and don't regret making a hasty decision.

If their children decide to be DINK, even if their parents object, they should not interfere. They can be rational and emotional, but do not force them to death or cut off contact. This will only make their children feel You are selfish and unreasonable.