Why is my sister better than my sister?

Because my sister is not confident and insecure, influenced by the adults around her, she has the psychology of keeping up with the joneses. Recently, I watched the TV series House of Cards. To my surprise, people's desire for power is so strong that even if they have high social status and social achievements, they can't give up their pursuit of the highest power even if they are faced with the possibility of going bankrupt.

People will have some wishes that can never be fully satisfied, because these wishes are strong, primitive and compulsive. A person whose wish was seriously hindered when he was young, this primitive wish will be stronger, and the sense of lack caused by setbacks will become more and more obvious. The sense of scarcity is torturous, and people can escape it by constantly seeking the strongest sense of satisfaction (and its possibility). This sense of scarcity is not only the driving force of human achievement, but also the source of human (and its individual) pain.

The key is scarcity and unfulfilled wishes behind it. People with obvious sense of scarcity can hardly be satisfied with reality. Then, trying to realize your ideal is the way to deal with the unsatisfactory reality (behind which is your dissatisfaction). These people have a strong sense of comparison. But this is just a kind of psychological defense, which makes people avoid facing their own truth. These people live in lies or fantasies and dare not face their inner reality.

For a person with a strong heart to compare with others, if one day he can feel fun, meaning and value from a dull life, then he can begin to face the comparison with a normal heart. At this time, he did not stagnate, but opened a constructive road to self-realization, which is worth pursuing. Underwood, the hero of House of Cards, can become a great figure in American history by his own ability if he can face himself squarely and overcome his inner lack, instead of being a politician who makes everyone despair of him.