What do men fear most when they are down and out?

When a man is down and out, what he fears most is being abandoned. I think that when a person is down and out, even his beloved parents betray him, which should be the most terrible thing.

There is a man in his forties. Let's call him Feng for the time being.

Starting from scratch, working hard in the city, achieved his own career. I am famous in the village near my hometown. So it was recognized by parents.

Feng is the third in the family. According to his parents, A Feng shouldn't have come to this world, it was an accident. In that era when people didn't have enough to eat, A Feng would have been an outcast if it hadn't been for grandpa's intervention. My parents' love was all separated by my eldest brother and second brother, and I didn't have any.

Afeng, who didn't finish primary school, chose to come to Guangdong after he was eighteen. Like many bloody dramas, A Feng, who hasn't been home for more than ten years, has made great efforts to make his own career, which can be regarded as a small achievement. He proved himself to his parents as soon as he got home, and his parents accepted him. It's just that parents have become the conduit for big brother and second brother to suck Feng's blood. The old house at home, the house in the second brother's small county, the wedding dowry of the eldest brother's son ... all the money was borrowed from Afeng by parents, but ten years later, every time I went home for the New Year, I didn't see the slightest intention of paying back the money.

The year before last, A Feng's business failed and the company went bankrupt. After trying his best, A Feng chose to go home and ask his second brother for help. All kinds of expenses and big items at home are almost Feng's expenses, so there should be some savings at home.

My mother met a Feng that day. She is polite and elegant. She just thought Feng was free to go home and see her elderly parents. But the next morning, Feng was seen walking away like a dog on leave. His face was haggard, his eyes were dim and his stubble was messy. He has never seen such a decadent and depressed peak. As a result, various versions of the village gossip spread.

I haven't seen a Feng come back in these two years. I don't know what A Feng went through. I think that when a person is down and out, even his beloved parents betray him, which should be the most terrible thing.

When a person is down and out, he is afraid that no one will understand him, and that the people he trusts most and the people closest to him will not understand him. When he is down and out, he must have failed. He must have no money. The winner is defeated, the tiger falls in Pingyang and is bullied by the dog. Besides, we are not necessarily tigers. After being down and out, there is a big gap between our incomprehension and psychology.

I don't know how to answer you, just talk about my own experience, I hope it will help you. I started my business in 2009 and ended in failure. The consequence of failure is the destruction of the family. I am currently in debt of 8 million, and my family is in debt of 2 million. The original intention of doing business is not mediocre, not mediocre all my life, but I graduated from primary school with low education and limited ability. I have no business experience except that I have learned something during my five years as a soldier. The biggest pain you face after the failure of starting a business is the accusation and incomprehension of your family. I admit that most of the reasons for the failure of starting a business are because of myself, but after the real failure, the blame of your family makes you very painful. I even thought about committing suicide in exchange for accident insurance and extra money, but thinking about my children, my wife and several people who have always supported me, I feel really irresponsible. If a person lives for himself, he may choose to commit suicide, because there are so many worries that you dare not even think about death. This is what I fear most after I am down and out, and now I dare not face my family at all. I can bear the pressure from outside, but this really nearly collapsed several times.

Secondly, the quality of life of my wife, children and elderly parents has seriously declined because of my failure. The child is only six years old and doesn't understand many things, but the invisible harm already exists. Running from house to house all day has an impact on children. My parents are sixty years old. Because they owe me debts, they have to go out to make money and share it with me after retirement. This smell really makes people feel like living in purgatory. My wife can't live a normal life because of debt collection. All these thoughts make my soul tremble again. I haven't said much about this topic, and I don't want to mention it or think about it.

Another is the gap between psychology and life. 15 the best year for business, with a monthly income of 10 million. The 300-square-meter house with three cars BMW, Volkswagen and Land Rover is respected and envied everywhere, and even the envious eyes are a kind of enjoyment. After being down and out, the current means of transportation is a broken tram. I didn't run away from reality. I still face the person I should meet, but that kind of look and attitude makes you feel very uncomfortable. Look down upon, look down upon all kinds, and even speak with indifference. There is even more irony in the remarks of those villains who hate people being rich and think people are poor. There are always people who say that you don't have to care too much about other people's opinions, and I try to comfort myself, but how many people can really do it? It will be better to adapt to it for a year, but that kind of inferiority has been printed in the bones. This is a kind of demon, which can only be overcome by standing up from an early age. These are the things I fear most when I am down and out.

Being down and out is something that everyone has experienced and everyone will experience. What you can do is to change the status quo, stand up from a new position and take on your own responsibilities and liabilities. I wonder if there are any friends like me. Down-and-out people should communicate with down-and-out people, and we can warm each other and create the future together.

When people are down and out, they are most afraid of losing confidence.

Most people will be down and out at times. But don't be afraid when you are down and out. You must firmly believe that you can turn over and that you are not a beggar. I was once down and out. After the company closed down eight years ago and all the assets were disposed of by the court, I still owe nearly 20 million. I firmly believe that I have the means to lose more than 1000 million in a few years and earn more than 1000 million in a few years. I just want to earn a little money and live an easy life. After a long period of huge debts, he forced me to go to places where there were many opportunities to make a lot of money, and forced me to become a multimillionaire and billionaire. So I never regret what happened before. There are consequences, and I won't be brilliant without being down and out. Water is a waterfall everywhere, and people are reborn everywhere.

If you lose confidence, your will will collapse and you will not make progress. Creditors will lose confidence in you, so will relatives and friends, and no one dares to help you. If no one helps you, you will really be cornered.

With a strong will, iron bars can be ground into needles. Full of confidence, good mood and good luck, the nobles will naturally come.

I hope all the down and out people can see the light again from the darkness!

I think this question is very suitable for me to answer. About two years ago, due to investment failure, I was heavily in debt and didn't know what to do if I had a job. At that time, people were very contradictory, afraid of things in the city center and didn't want to worry so much, just like living alone and thinking nothing!

If you want to say what you are most afraid of, I think it should be that parents don't understand themselves and blame themselves. Rural children like us, once they fail, are hard to get up again. People in the village love to watch jokes, and their parents will definitely feel ashamed. At that time, they were afraid that their parents would not understand themselves. Fortunately, their parents are reasonable and unaffected by the world.

Second, I am afraid that my wife and children will leave me. There are countless examples of people in debt leaving their wives and children. I am afraid that I will become a lonely person, so I really have no direction;

Third, I am afraid of being laughed at by others. First, I am afraid of being laughed at by my relatives. The second is fear of being laughed at by villagers. In fact, the countryside is not as simple as before, and even relatives can't wait to see your jokes. However, it's really inevitable, it's all after dinner!

I'm afraid I have no direction or goal. I really didn't know what I could do when I first came out. I'm still like that. I can only wander around at work, but I firmly believe that I will always get ahead as long as I don't die. If you meet someone, can you give me some advice? Thank you here!

Men are powerless when they are most afraid of being down and out.

I don't know what is the most down and out. I have been down and out, but I never told my parents that it was in 2005, when I was an intern in our university. I worked in a real estate company in Chengdu for three months (not to mention the specific company). The first one didn't get any results, and the second one wanted to go out for a walk by himself, so I made a big decision and went to Shanghai with my friends. We didn't have much money on us at that time. I only had 600 yuan. At that time, I decided to buy a train ticket to Shanghai the next day.

We came to Shanghai full of hope. When the first morning light lit up the train that was about to arrive in Shanghai, I remembered the song "Did I tell you?"?

"When the train enters this strange city"

"That's a neon sign I've never seen before."

I feel that my career has started. Our first stop in Shanghai was the talent market, but it backfired and there was no suitable job for us. Our first consideration was the housing problem, so we found several food and accommodation packages and found that all of them needed health certificates. We didn't understand this when we first came to Shanghai, and then we passed it again.

Finally, I saw a KTV recruiting people in a recruitment newspaper, and it also included food and shelter. So I tried and passed, but they had to try for a week before they could arrange accommodation. We counted our property, and I have one hundred dollars left, and he still has five hundred dollars. We thought that if we insisted on sleeping in the bathroom at night and eating two meals during the day, we would be fine for a week.

In the end, I didn't persist. I remember those five days. We slept in the bath center for two days and survived in the park for three days. We had two meals during the day, steamed bread at noon and porridge at night when it was better. I think it was the most depressing time for me so far and I was not worried about the future at all. What I am worried about is how to eat the next meal today.

I won't talk about it later. In fact, there are many stories that really happened to me.

People are most afraid of giving up on themselves. Speaking of which, I am very sad. I was cheated by my friend today and got six or seven hundred dollars. My own company broke the RV and sold it, and I still owe my relatives and friends and the bank one or two hundred dollars. Wife divorced, family dispersed. I've been dragging my feet since I found him last year. People who ask me for debts outside are driving me crazy. Every day, I don't want to stay. Now I'm hiding in a construction site in another city to drive a tower crane, but I still haven't changed my phone. Although I don't answer the phone, it means I'm still alive. Even if it is a few thousand dollars a month, I still want to pay it back slowly. Last year, I was alone on New Year's Day, and I almost walked alone on December 30th. But I still can't bear to think about my old mother and son. Spring Festival is coming this year, and I don't know what to do. I don't know if I can't go on this year. Can I get the money I borrowed from him back? If so, I can at least give the rest back to others.

When a person is down and out, he may be most afraid of meeting the person he wants to protect most.

I'll tell you a story of my friend.

Although he is more successful now than before, he has always chosen to be single.

If you ask him why, he will just smile and say, My favorite song is Ronghao Li's Young and Promising.

Maybe you will be shocked and wonder why you answered irrelevant questions.

Then let me tell you his story.

When he first started his business, he was like all entrepreneurs. Live in the worst house and eat the worst things. I'm too busy to touch the ground every day, let alone eat something.

Then he met her.

At that time, she was at her best.

She said, I admire you.

He replied, I am unable to give you happiness now.

She said it's okay.

Then they started living together.

Living in the basement, cockroaches crawl every day, and it is cockroaches who open the door to meet them.

Humidity made her skin get eczema, but she still accompanied him to get some investment in the sun.

She has been suffering with him.

But later, because of some things, he still lost her.

Later, his career improved. But still choose to be single.

I always start cycling this song.

I am most afraid that I can't see hope, and my eyes are dark.

The first time I went to Shenzhen, my wallet was stolen and I had no money to call back. I clearly remember rummaging through bottles in the trash can and selling them for 4.60 yuan. I called back and asked my family to call back 500 yuan.

Many people say that Shenzhen is a city with many opportunities, but it still hits a wall everywhere in job hunting. Stay in a Datong store 10 for one night, eat twice a day, go to Sanhe talent market for vegetarian food in the morning, then get the entrance fee of 10 and rest in Sanhe at noon. In the afternoon, I started to go to the factory for an interview by car. When I came back from the interview, I bought two bags of white elephant instant noodles, asked my boss for boiled water, and told me by the way.

It was a hard time. I went to interview for a job with hope every time, but the last sentence was to go back and wait for the notice, knowing that there was no hope. I often dream about home at night, eat delicious meals cooked by my mother, sleep comfortably under the covers, and often wake up in the middle of the night, sometimes hungry and sometimes frozen. Who later said that there was no winter in Shenzhen, I was anxious with him. Alas, I can't see any hope at all these days, and I'm very confused.

There is always sunshine after the storm.

With brothers and sisters who worked hard in Shenzhen before and now.

I have a buddy who came out to work and met him. It has been more than ten years now. I saw with my own eyes how he stepped into glory and fell to the bottom.

My friend learned to do business several times, and once came back from other places, saying that he would quit his job and go out to do business. He took a fancy to fast food and found a companion. Because of his ability, he didn't want to invest with him. As soon as he opened, he opened more than a dozen stores, and everyone believed it. At that time, he talked about a girlfriend and thought he just wanted his money. He talked to him several times, but he didn't believe me.

I lost contact with him for various reasons. Three years later, my friend contacted me and asked if I could arrange a job for him. Before two people were drinking at a roadside stall, I helped arrange a job in the company.

My friend works hard every day to find a shop around the venue. As a result, his girlfriend came with his partner and kept taking my friend's money. Finally, my friend was kicked away by his partner because of the contract and various reasons. Of course, his female ticket was also abandoned.

When I was drinking, I kept saying, how can people do this now? Now I feel too young.