When chatting, the other party says hehe, oh, etc. How to reply...

How to reply when the other party says hehe, oh, etc. during chatting. The following uses specific examples to explain how to chat online and what are the skills of online chatting, such as:

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I am 20 years old, a science student, and have never been in a relationship. I have seen people chatting with girls on QQ or face-to-face for a long time, talking about anything. I speak plainly, use words rigorously, have strong logic, and use punctuation marks accurately. I am used to chatting in a question-and-answer style. I often don’t know how to continue after I start. Some people say I am boring, while others say I am a nagging person. Nao, I generally feel that others don’t like chatting with me. Ask for some common chatting skills including opening remarks, topics, jokes, rhetorical techniques, word choice and understanding the other party's psychology and taboos. QQ chat records are also available. I know that chatting requires sincerity and listening. I often think for a few minutes to answer the other party's question. I feel that the efficiency is too low. I don't know how to guide a person to talk to me, even if I am happy to be a listener. Ask for guidance. . . . . . . .

Answer:

1. Haha, you are a naturally smart and rational person! This is your advantage! Of course there will be negative effects!

Nowadays, girls like boys to be humorous and interesting, but they can’t be too poor or devoid of content! Obviously you are very knowledgeable! But try not to let yourself think too much while you’re chatting! Even if you say some ignorant and embarrassing things in front of girls, don’t take it too seriously! That’s good! You are too rigorous and serious in what you do and what you say! That’s why girls don’t know how to answer you! For example, if the girl you like asks you if you have eaten? I guess you will say: Did you eat or not? If it were me, I would say, I am thinking about something delicious. What do you like to eat (or what do you usually eat)? This way you just throw away the words! By the way, I also got information about the other party’s preferences! Remember not to be too literary! This will slowly make the atmosphere tense! Use plain English as much as possible! Way closer to spoken language! I wish you success!

2. In fact, you should start with a humorous way. You must not show off yourself in front of girls, nor say some boring words. In fact, it is good to speak in a relaxed tone, don't be so rigid. .

3. Be humorous, don’t make the atmosphere too tense, talk more about content that girls are more interested in, and praise more (praise requires skills, logic is very important, it is better to use more allusions in praise sentences) , this will make you appear more knowledgeable and the chat time will be longer, but remember, don’t be wordy). Affirm more and listen more

4. The first level of skills. Focus on the chat itself, not the chat topic. Many people don’t know how to chat with girls. They often run out of topics while talking. But I think: there is no need to prepare topics for chatting! Topic chat method: When we chat, we always want to focus on the topics we have thought about in advance, but do not pay attention to the chat itself: so we often encounter the following situations:

For example:

Me: Have you eaten? (Raise a topic)

MM: Eat me: What are you doing? (Bringing up another topic) MM: Going online Me: How is your weather? (Bringing up another topic) MM: That’s okay. Me: Are you busy lately? (Bringing up another topic)

MM: I’m not busy:. . . .

(There is no more topic to talk about, because the topic will always be finished) Me: Oh, that’s it. I just want to call you and ask you what you are doing. Then you can continue to work. Bye MM: Bye

Because at this time, what you are thinking in your mind is always, what should I say? What topics do you talk about with MM? This often leads to a dead end. When you finish talking about the topic you prepared in advance, you will find that you are dumb! The correct idea of ????chatting is:

Focus on the chat itself, not the topic of the chat, not what to talk about, but how to chat. Keyword method chat:

Example:

Me: Have you eaten? (Bring up a topic) (Keywords: eating rice) MM: Eaten. Me: What did you eat? (Triggered by the keyword "eating") MM: Beef noodles

Me: Did you make it yourself? (Caused by the keyword rice)

MM: I don’t know how to cook, so I bought it (keyword: I don’t know how to cook)

Me: You don’t even know how to cook. As for food, if a girl doesn’t even know how to cook, it depends on how you get married (the keyword “not knowing how to cook” triggered the emergence of a new keyword “marriage”)

MM: I don’t want to do it. My mother used to make it (keyword: former mother)

Me: It was in the past and now it is now. You have grown up. Girls have to learn how to cook. You are my wife and you don’t know how to cook. ? (Triggered by the keyword "previous" and the new keyword "grow up" appeared)

MM: I haven't decided to get married yet. . . (Keyword: getting married)

Me: Your mother loves you very much, right? (Triggered by the keyword mother, a new keyword appears: pain) MM: My mother loves me very much. I am the youngest. Of course you love me (keyword: smallest)

Me: Are you the youngest? Do you have any brothers or sisters? (Triggered by the keyword "minimum" and the new keyword "brothers and sisters" appears)

MM: My sister is BLABLABLAL. . . . (A lot) When I got here, I found that the keywords here are almost used. I immediately returned to the keyword "marry" in the earlier conversation. You can use the keywords that appeared in the conversation of "upper upper layer" to start a chat!

Me: Haven’t you thought about what kind of person you want to marry yet? (Triggered by the keyword "marry")

MM: I haven't decided yet BLABLABLAL. . . . (A lot) (Keywords: not thinking clearly) Me: So what are your standards? (Triggered by the keyword "haven't thought about it") MM: That's my standard. . BLABLABLAL. . . . (A lot)

At this time, I found that there are no keywords in what she said, or the keywords here are not conducive to you to expand the topic. Immediately return to the keywords in the earlier conversation to start chatting! For example, the keyword in line 6 is buy

Me: Do you like to buy things, do you like to go shopping? (Triggered by the earlier keyword buy, the new keyword shopping appears)

MM: I like it, I like it very much (keyword: like) Me: Then what else do you like to do? (Triggered by the keyword "like")

MM: I like singing, swimming, and traveling (new keywords appear: singing, swimming, traveling) Me: Oh, you like singing. Whose song do you like to sing? MM:. . . . .

Me: Oh, you like swimming. Can you swim? How is your swimming technique? Where do you usually travel? MM:. . . . .

Me: Oh, you like traveling. Which places have you traveled to? How does it feel? MM:. . . . .

Don’t dwell on a keyword all the time. Grab a keyword and start chatting. When the chat reaches a certain level, stop! Return to the previous keyword and start chatting. Chat to a certain level. Stop! Return to the previous keyword that was halfway discussed and continue the conversation. Stop! Return to the previous keyword to start chatting. Chat to a certain level. Stop! Return to the previous keyword chat. . . . . .

You will find that during the entire chat process, you did not prepare any topics, but the chat itself will bring you countless topics! You don’t need to prepare. You can start chatting anytime, anywhere. You won’t be stressed. You won’t be racking your brains to think about what should I talk about? Because you will have so many topics that you don’t know what to choose to talk about. The important thing is that you have something to say,

and you have entered a good chatting atmosphere. It doesn’t matter what you talk to MM about. It's not important. What's important is that in this atmosphere, it's fun, teasing, and humorous chatting. Of course, this series of long-winded words seems to have no focus and no nutrition at all. What I want to say is that this is just an example, so that AFCs who only have a few words to talk to girls can have something to say, no As for the cold spot, I won’t just keep asking. This process should be interactive. I can only say that this is just a skeleton of a chat. To make the chat interesting, you must add frames, push and pull, cold reading, and DHV Stories and routines flesh it out and make chatting meaningful.

The second level of skills is to maintain the frame. During the chat, the girl will consciously test you. How should you face the girl's test? The correct way is to give her a trap and ask her to jump in first and then you jump in. If she doesn’t jump, you won’t jump.

The simplest example is what I saw in Mi Nan’s video tutorial:

MM: How old are you? (MM tests you)

Me: 28 years old (I jumped into her trap. At this time, her strong frame absorbed my weak frame and I became boring)

MM: How old are you? (MM tests you) Me: What do you think? (I gave her a trap) MM: I guess you are 26 (MM jumped into the trap)

Me: Actually I am 30 (she jumped first, so I jumped again)

MM: How old are you? (MM tests you) Me: What do you think? (I gave her a trap)

MM: I won’t guess, you tell me (MM won’t jump)

Me: You definitely can’t guess (I won’t jump into MM’s trap) ) Me: How old are you? (I tested MM and gave her a trap)

MM: What do you think? (MM tested me, and she returned a trap to me)

Me: Do you want me to guess lower or higher? (Don’t jump into the trap and continue to set the trap) MM: Guess the high (MM couldn’t hold on and jumped in) Me: I guess you are 24 (MM jumps first and I jump later) MM: I am 26

Extended example:

MM: I want to eat hot pot, please treat me (MM tests you)

Me: Okay, if you go shopping with me tomorrow to buy clothes, I will treat you (don’t jump into her I'll give her a trap) MM: No, I'm very busy tomorrow. I'm so stingy. Is it so difficult to treat me to a meal? Can you please do it? . (If you continue to set traps for you, if you jump, it will be a weak frame)

Me: Are you busy tomorrow? Then after finishing the hot pot, you can accompany me to the night market to buy clothes (if you don’t jump into her trap, I will give her another trap) MM: I have to go back in the evening. It will be too late after eating. . .

(Let’s see how long you can hold on if you continue to trap you, MM?) Me: No, I’ll treat you next time. I’ll find someone else to accompany me to buy clothes. (Persevere! Don’t jump into her trap.) MM: Just treat me to a hot pot. It's so laborious. How about waiting for me to have time and then go shopping with you to buy clothes? (Continue to trap you, MM wants to use such vague rhetoric to deal with you)

Me: When will you practice? Do you have time the day after tomorrow? Accompany me the day after tomorrow (persistence! Don’t jump into her trap and continue to trap her)

MM: Okay (MM jumped first and MM couldn’t hold on first)

Me: I might It may be a little late for dinner after work. You should reserve a seat and order food first. Then call me (continue to trap her)

MM: Okay (MM frame is completely absorbed by you. MM is completely defeated. )

The maintenance of the frame makes the MM feel that she can't hold you. Your strong frame will eventually absorb the MM's low frame in the chat, thus making the MM feel dependent and attractive.

The third level of skills is push and pull

I think the so-called pull: means that you like MM, praise MM, and deliberately bring the relationship with MM closer

The so-called push: I just don’t like to suppress and ignore MM, and use it flexibly to make MM’s feelings ups and downs, so that MM has so-called feelings for you

Example 1:

Me: You were in the class before high school So beautiful, there are so many people chasing her (pull) MM: Haha, of course, why didn’t you chase me? Me: I also liked you back then (pull)

MM: Haha, it’s true, you won’t always be Have a crush on me Me: That was before now, not now (pull away)

MM: Oh, how are you doing recently? We have time to sit out and chat. Me: Haha, I’m very busy recently, maybe I don’t have time (pull away) MM: Let’s talk about it when we have time

After pushing and pulling, use the obedience test to test whether it has an effect

Me: If you treat me to something delicious, I might go (obey) Sex test) MM: Then I will ask you tomorrow. Example 2:

I don’t know if you have seen the scene in Du Lala’s Promotion in which Wang Wei (Huang Lixing) is a master of push and pull. Du Lala (Xu Jinglei) walked very closely, chatted and watched the sea together. She snuggled up with Du Lala and caught fireflies and had an intimate fight (Wang Wei used the pulling technique). Then when they were about to kiss, Du Lala suddenly pushed away. Lala ignored Du Lala’s intimacy with other beauties in the next party (Wang Wei used the pushing technique). At this time, Du Lala’s heart had emotional fluctuations. Then Wang Wei sent a text message to Du Lala: “I Come out outside!" (Wang Wei used the obedience test technique) Du Lala pulled out and took Du Lala's hand and went to open the room (Wang Wei's previous push was for a deeper pull, not a TD kiss).

The fourth level of skills: telling the story of DHV

1. Tell other people's stories. Tell other people's stories. I think the key point is to tell them with a sense of humor and pay attention to the way you tell them. I won’t go into specific examples. You can read Puppy’s post about Lao Wang. Carefully appreciate the way Lao Wang tells stories.

2． Telling your own story Telling stories undoubtedly plays an important role in chatting with girls. Everyone has many, many stories in their own experiences, but if you just tell stories and tell your own experiences, there will be no When adding any DHV elements to the story, it can only bring you into the friendship zone. As for people who tell stories well, you won’t be able to tell that there is any intentional “bragging” in them. In a story, cleverly tell your DHV points.

The fifth level of skills is to describe the sources of thoughts, opinions, and speech conventions. You can look at other people’s understanding, or you can understand it yourself and form your own opinions on some things.

This requires me to think a lot and form my own opinions. In fact, in the process of interacting with others, I can absorb good opinions and use them for my own use. Read more newspapers and some comments on the Internet. After thinking and absorbing it myself, I can discuss it with others, absorb other people's good opinions and use them for my own use, and gradually improve my own opinions.

Example 1:

Song asked Haizao on the way to Dingshan Lake

Haizao: "Secretary Song, can I ask you a question? Why are you sitting there?" What about this car? I think when you ride in the car, you have to have a slave stand on tiptoe to get up."

Song Siming: "I'm talking about seaweed. This is a special car for the British royal family. It's called LUHU. You think it's ugly? I think it is the best-looking car among all the cars." - Commentary

Song Siming: "Every man who drives a car wants to own a LUHU, which can last for a long time in the city. They all hope that they can grow up on the grassland like a group of wild horses, with a mane blowing in the wind. LUHU is a man’s leg, the wind blowing in the air.”——Talk about the point of view

Song Siming: “You can’t see this car in the city. . . "

Song Siming: "This man should have a good car, a confidante, and another in his life. . . . "----Tell your opinions

When you express these opinions, MM can only look up to you.

The sixth level of skills arouses MM's curiosity

I think the first impression that should be given to MM when meeting her is curiosity. What is the story of this man?

Example 1:

Song Siming and Haizao met for the first time. Song: "Have you gotten married yet?" "Hai: "Not yet" Song "has a bright future"

This is the key point. What did Song Siming want to show when he met Haizao for the first time? Humor? No, it was the first time he met a girl. , I think, you have to give her a clue, you can say something strange. , wonder why he said such a thing? 2: Everyone has secrets (Korean PUA movie)

When the male protagonist meets his third sister, his first sentence is: "Hello, I have heard a lot about you. " Say hello, everyone will say it, but what about the last sentence? The curiosity aroused makes every woman think about it. When she first met this man, he said he had heard many things about me. What was it?

The seventh level of skill is to keep the MM a certain mystery

When a woman becomes curious about you, congratulations, you will be lucky. The next thing to do is to continue to keep this curiosity until... The best way to keep a MM curious is to maintain a certain degree of mystery about MM! It can't be too light or too light. If it's too light, she will know everything about you in three or two days: Tsk, that's it. OVER, I don't feel it anymore. Of course, it won't do too much, as that will make her feel that you are not alone. The distance between them is wider than the river between Cowherd and Weaver Girl. What's the point of playing in that way? There's no need to play.