Who said that companionship is a deep confession? Why is accompanying homework a battle between father and son?

It is said that "companionship is the longest-lasting confession", but parents who are pleasing to the eye at ordinary times will often be angry from the heart when accompanying their studies and homework. "If you don't do your homework, your father will be kind and filial. If you do your homework, you will fly like a dog."

This sounds like a joke, but how many parents who have studied with their children sound only with a wry smile.

Xiaowu is a freshman in senior high school. As soon as school started, my father made up his mind to study with Xiaowu, and then "break through" the primary school, and never let his son lose at the starting line in primary school.

However, from the first day when two people started doing homework together, learning became a battlefield.

After a few minutes, I heard my father's roar: "Xiaowu, can you be careful!" " Focus! "

"Small arms, how much is 4+3? Think again! If you can't, use your fingers! "

"Small arms, can you sharpen a pencil before you do your homework? You have sharpened the pencil for ten minutes! Do you still want to write today's homework until midnight? "

Dad is angry, but Xiao Wu, who is usually lively, can't seem to find a network signal. His movements are getting slower and slower, and his handwriting is getting worse. His homework is often written after ten o'clock in the evening.

Just halfway through this semester, Xiaowu's father was called to school by the class teacher to talk.

There are two main topics: First, the quality of Xiaowu's homework is so poor that both Chinese teachers and math teachers have a headache. I hope Xiaowu's father can grasp Xiaowu's study, and must give guidance after class, and can't give up; Second, Xiaowu is listless and inattentive in class every day. Didn't he have a good rest at night? Children's rest should also be arranged at home.

Xiaowu's father had a wry smile and could only nod repeatedly, but he couldn't say a word.

What he doesn't understand is that he made up his mind from the beginning to accompany Xiaowu in his studies and his son in his homework. Why did he go back to cram school?

I'm so angry that my child doesn't do well in his homework and sleeps late every day. Now it also affects their study during the day and enters a vicious circle.

What's the problem?

Xiaowu's father is a responsible and good father, who can study late into the night with his children at ease and point out their problems in time.

But the crux of the problem is that Xiaowu's father is too anxious and unbalanced in the process of companionship.

Without a peaceful atmosphere and mentality, learning has become a battlefield, and children are trembling. How can they do their homework?

All parents who can sacrifice their personal time to tutor their children are good parents and are "parents" and "mothers". But when tutoring homework, only parents can bring peace of mind to their children and improve the efficiency of homework.

Parents should forget their origins first.

Imagine if you go back to school and start doing your homework, there will be a grumpy parent next to you who will growl at any time.

"You, this is not right!" "You, that's not right!" How would you feel?

Can you still do your homework?

Are you afraid that your parents will cut a 20-meter-long broadsword at any time when you do your homework?

So, dear parents, please forget your identity. At this moment, you are just a "companion".

What is a "company"?

The child is the subject of learning, and you are just the one with him!

Don't be angry, don't be arrogant, and don't interrupt his study at any time. A qualified partner is first and foremost a silent person. Tell him that dad just studies with you, and I want to study, too. We are together.

Parents should give their children room to grow up.

In fact, most parents are grumpy in the process of accompanying their children to study because their expectations for their children have failed.

I hoped that the children would be excellent in all aspects, but they turned out to be other people's children.

When I arrived at my home, how did I find out that my child was the legendary Xiong Haizi? What do you think of them?

The so-called care confusion also has reasons for high expectations.

First of all, parents should know clearly that since there are no two identical leaves in the world, it is impossible to have two identical children.

Other people's children are excellent. Should all children be excellent?

Be prepared to accept that my child is an ordinary child.

Even if they are all great poets, Li Bai is a poet, and later generations can't learn; Du Fu, the poet sage, wrote poems with bitterness, which is also an example for later poets to follow.

This is the difference between genius and successful people who work hard the day after tomorrow.

We can't expect all children to be geniuses, but we can try our best to make children learn to learn and fight for their ideals.

Secondly, parents should also realize that children are highly malleable.

Some children are gifted, that is, the children of other people's families in legend. I didn't go to remedial classes much, and I didn't have too many parents to accompany me, but I am a proper schoolmaster and I can develop in an all-round way.

But more children have an adaptation process and stage after entering school.

Don't parents need an adaptation stage when they graduate from college and enter the society?

Therefore, in this adaptation stage, it is understandable that children are at a loss and can expect progress.

Moreover, many parents always point out their children's bad study habits and mistakes in learning too "timely", which is actually an interruption to their learning and thinking.

And parents who accompany their children often have a sense of self-sacrifice. Once a child is found to have made a mistake, it is often thunderous and brings a high-pressure atmosphere to the child.

When I was studying, I was constantly interrupted and the atmosphere was depressed. Will such companionship be effective?

Why do children need company in their studies?

It is because children need their parents' emotion and support when facing such a strange learning road.

When children adapt to school study, cultivate good study habits, set lofty aspirations and lay a solid learning foundation, the companionship of parents has actually succeeded.

Create a learning atmosphere.

In the process of learning, learning environment is very important. This is not to say that we should create a luxurious environment for our children. On the contrary, the more such an environment, the greater the interference caused to children.

Quiet study, or quiet desk, undisturbed time is the key to learning concentration.

Parents are forbidden to pour tea and arrange all kinds of fruit snacks when their children start learning, which makes it difficult for children to study at home and makes them lack due seriousness.

When children are studying, you can also read books, or your professional books, or a magazine or periodical. It's time to relax after a day's work.

But you have not been eliminated.

When reading, you can observe the child's behavior and remember it.

Summary after the company.

At the end of the study, tell your child about your observation, about improving learning efficiency, about writing posture, and about how to do the problem.

And observe again at the next company, has the child made progress? You should praise his progress in time. You should bring up the unfinished improvement again.

Xiaowu's father and teacher thought for a long time after a long talk. He suddenly thought of himself as a child, and his parents were busy with work and had no time to accompany him.

I stumbled on the road of completely self-study.

What would I have been like if my father had accompanied me as violently as himself?

Grumpy companionship is negative companionship. Xiaowu's father decided to change his attitude first.

After all, this is Xiaowu's study, and himself, he doesn't want to bring negative influence to Xiaowu.

In a relaxed and effective learning atmosphere, the greatest value of companionship can be reflected.

Please remember, dear mom and dad, you are children's companions in learning, but at the same time, please learn to be calm and expressionless at the learning scene.