How to treat people who are cremated within 24 hours after death and buried directly without informing relatives and friends?

My classmate's father, who was lying in ICU for a week, relied entirely on ventilators and other instruments to maintain his life. The doctor's advice was to give up, and the classmate persisted for several days. Finally, he had no choice but to make up his mind.

After he came out of ICU, he squatted on the ground and shouted, as if crying instead of crying. Then he quickly stood up, wiped his eyes and said that's it.

After a while, ICU informed us to pick up the body. A worker is pushing a car, and the body is in the car, which has been wrapped.

The staff is a middle-aged uncle. It is commonplace. No expression. Yes, for him, this is just his job.

My classmates and I, in groups of four, escorted the cart to the morgue, and we helped push the cart. It feels as if we are pushing the patient back to the ward, as if we don't realize that the old man has left, and there is nothing sad.

Anyone who has experienced this kind of thing should know that at that time, at that moment, people really didn't feel too sad, so they were busy dealing with things, that is, the feeling of doing what they should do after finishing one thing, as if nothing had happened.

When will you be sad? After a while.

We were pushing the car all the way to the morgue. The morgue is an independent place. In another yard, we helped the staff carry the body from the car to the bed in the morgue, and the medical staff tidied it up again.

I subconsciously touched my uncle's body with my hand, and there was really no temperature.

After everything was handled, we walked out of the morgue.

The flow of the second day of communication between students and medical staff. When will the funeral home car come, it will be delivered directly to the crematorium without any other ceremony. ...

Because the process is simple, it will be clear in a few words.

Before leaving, I stopped them and said, let's kowtow to uncle here.

So at the entrance of the morgue, we knelt on the ground and kowtowed three times at the entrance of the funeral home.

The classmate insisted on not holding a ceremony, and only someone at home accompanied him to the crematorium and had dinner together in the evening.

I think this is also good.

I think it's very simple. If you treat me well and do your best before I die, it doesn't matter whether you have a ceremony or not after I die.

Students are filial and friendly to their parents and elders on weekdays, and their work is also excellent. They are young and promising, adding luster to their parents' faces. In order to treat my father, I spent 200,000 to 300,000 yuan in less than half a month. Later, it was no longer a question of money.

Some people don't treat others well when they are alive, but they can do great things after they die. What's the point?

What's the point of spending money saved by the living on the dead?

So I don't think it really matters whether the ceremony is held or not.

What is really regrettable is that the son should be filial and never give up.

Grandpa next door died early in the morning. I heard that all his children have come back, saying that grandpa has passed away.

I have lived in this area for more than ten years, and my grandparents next door are familiar with it.

Grandparents are 80 years old and in good health. They grow a lot of vegetables in the green belt and often bring them to us to eat. I will also bring them some flower seedlings. Neighborhood relations are still quite good.

Grandpa's two sons both run shoe stores. They don't live here. They live in other communities.

This is grandpa's old house. Grandpa said that it was the house he had worked so hard for, and he was guarding it for the old people.

I always thought that Grandpa and his wife could live to be over 90 years old, because Grandpa has always been in good health, and the old couple grow vegetables and exercise together.

But I didn't expect grandpa to leave. I think I should be his neighbor. I want to give him a funeral when I come back from work. My neighbor only gave him 20 yuan.

Originally, I got off work at 5: 30, and I got off work earlier that day. It was not five o'clock when I got home, but I saw that there was no one in grandpa's old house. The red couplets in front of the old house have been pasted, with red silk hanging on the door and two oranges and evergreen branches hanging on both sides.

Hanging red couplets and red silk in front of the door shows what grandpa has been buried. I'm a little surprised.

Although our side advocates simplifying the funeral, doing filial piety before death and having nothing after death, I didn't expect it to be so simple that I didn't arrive for a day.

I thought the funeral was simple when my father left last year. It takes less than 24 hours from death to cremation, and then a funeral will be held the next morning, not more than three days before and after.

I didn't expect grandpa to be simpler, and it didn't take more than a day before and after. I heard that after Grandpa's death, two sons came over. Grandma dressed Grandpa in a shroud and waited for the funeral home to come to the car, pulling the cremation and bringing the urn back. In the afternoon, I went straight up the mountain on my back, without even informing my relatives and friends. Only two sons, two grandchildren and three great-grandchildren went to school as usual and didn't ask for leave.

It's been a month since grandpa died. Every time I see grandma, she says, it's getting easier now. People die with a sieve and are sent straight up the hill. Be kind to yourself when you are alive, live well when you are alive, and know nothing after death.

Funerals are getting simpler and cheaper now, but there is always a feeling that something is missing. People die quietly.

It suddenly occurred to me that there was a poem in the past: people can only announce their existence to the world at the time of birth and death.

Now I don't need to tell the world about my death. I feel a little sad.

In the past, when there was a big funeral, scaffolding was often used every seven days. All kinds of funerals made the neighborhood restless and extravagant. It is common for the last few children to fight because they share the funeral expenses. Those relatives and friends came from afar, exhausted and didn't come to see them alive. They're dead. What's the use of coming?

Within 24 hours of cremation, it is forbidden to hold any form of funeral activities in bereaved families, including funeral drum bands, wreaths, burning paper, etc. This is really simple, good and less wasteful.

Walk quietly, without taking away a cloud.

I quite agree with the practice of not telling my relatives and friends when I die. When I was alive, it was a great favor to be cared for. When everyone is gone, the tea should be cold, so why bother others? To this end, I made a rule for my family not to inform anyone after death, to be cremated quietly, and then to scatter the ashes into the sea or bury them under trees, and not to erect monuments.

My father died on New Year's Eve. What should I tell my relatives on New Year's Eve? Even if I come, I can't bear to part with it. My eldest brother was in his fifties and was in the hospital. My father was seriously ill and my brother was discharged early. My mother is heartbroken, too. On the night of my father's death, my mother had a nosebleed, and the bleeding was connected to a basin. She was sent to the emergency room on 120, and my mother has no memory at all. Chinese New Year is the coldest time, and my brother is in poor health. It's not worth the loss to freeze my brother or my mother at the wake, so my mother said that we were all very filial to my father when he was alive, and he wouldn't blame us if he was cremated within 24 hours. It's better than those who live unfilial and pretend to be dead.

This is too hasty.

Mencius said: "It is king to keep people healthy and lose their lives." It means that ordinary people have no regrets when they are buried in health, so that this country can dominate the world. When you are alive, live and work in peace and contentment and be happy; It's solemn when you die. Such a country must be stable, rich, prosperous and healthy. On the other hand, bad styles prevail and people are at a loss. Chairman Mao also said: "In the future, no matter who dies in our team, whether it is a cook or a soldier, as long as he has done some useful work, we will hold a funeral and a memorial service for him. This should become a system. This method should also be introduced to the people. Everyone in the village died, and a memorial service was held. In this way, we will mourn and unite the whole people. " Why should he be given a grand funeral after his death? That's because he did something useful for the people and society before his death. For such people, we use funerals to express our grief and nostalgia.

When a person dies, it is of positive significance for future generations to hold a memorial service and review what he has done in his life. It is disrespectful to bury a dead person hastily, and it is not enough to alert and educate future generations. Or, the deceased is a bad person and hiding something.

That's good! The funeral should be simple! Notify relatives and friends and bring trouble to them. Maybe I'm a cool thinker. If my husband and I plan to do the same one day, my brothers, sisters, colleagues and classmates are old and can't stand such occasions, so my nephew is very busy, so I won't bother.

Yes, I do. Each has its own reasons.

An uncle and a third sister. My father died early and my mother remarried immediately. The elder sister caressed her two younger brothers. He suddenly got a serious illness and was relieved for a year and a half after the operation. I invited my brothers from other places to play for half a month. I told him that in the future, I would leave you and not come. I have to ask for leave again. It's far.

After the relapse, my sister stayed with her until she left. Because I arranged early and had few relatives, I finished everything in one day.

Another neighbor, who was old and never got sick, suddenly got sick and felt that his days were numbered, so he called his son and nephew from his hometown to say goodbye. His own brothers and sisters have been dead for decades, so there is nothing to worry about.

Leave a message, don't knock, don't believe it all your life, play songs, the more the better. I borrowed several tape recorders at that time, which was really festive.

People who came to pay their respects praised the old man for his happiness all his life, which is quite good!

Life is full of plants and trees. Especially in the city, I really don't have that condition. I only show a little more care and filial piety before I die, and the latter things are not important! Thick support and thin burial!

I have a colleague whose sister has been in poor health. As a result, her sister died the day after his business trip. When her wife went to work in the morning, she called the leader and said that the old people in their family meant that her sister was too young and all the old people in her family were still alive. She is not going to leave for a long time. She will go to the funeral in the afternoon and wait for her brother to come back.

Later, another of our colleagues on a business trip said that this colleague received a phone call and burst into tears. Her lover said, it's no use coming back now. My parents decided to cremate my sister this afternoon. We don't understand either. When people have husbands and children, their parents will make decisions.

I have never seen or seen such a way to treat a deceased relative.

According to the regulations of the hospital, people who died of illness in the hospital are sent directly to the funeral home, especially those with infectious diseases. After the cremation, the urn will be brought back and put in the mourning hall at home for relatives and friends to mourn. The funeral will be held step by step at home, and the trumpeter will be invited if the funeral is happy or not. At the same time, the informed relatives and friends will try their best to inform in place and not miss …

As the topic friend said, it may be that I am ignorant, rare and strange, or it may be the funeral customs in some places. In short, the bones are cremated in a hurry before they are cold, and buried directly within 24 hours without informing relatives and friends. This practice is hateful and pathetic, unreasonable and even more unacceptable.

What's wrong with it? I must be as simple as possible.

Later generations have enjoyed filial piety and unfilial, so why write those articles after death?

I despise those descendants who are unfilial before their death and have a big funeral after their death.

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