"Kitano Takeshi's Bistro" boring life, I don't want to die

after reading Kitano Takeshi's bistro, I feel a little more about Kitano Takeshi. He has been saying that he pursues a hot life and a boring life, and he would rather die than die. When I first heard this sentence, I had a feeling of "no zuo no die". At the age of 72, he divorced his wife and left home with a lover 18 years younger than himself. He used to be more and more famous, and he was on the verge of death because of drunk driving; He never shy away from his desire for sex, but at the same time he also maintains a persistent and passionate love for movies; He has worked as a cleaner, elevator operator, worker, comedian in a strip bar, and a versatile actor, actor, director, writer, painter and host ...

For some people, this life is too noisy, ups and downs, full of twists and turns, but this is the hot life that Kitano Takeshi pursues and longs for, and he has the right to make a choice. It seems that dance academy is taken seriously. No matter whether he is a director, a painter, a writer or an actor, you can see his true love and fearless persistence under dance academy. He has won numerous awards and experienced countless stories. In his books, he always says, "God spare me, be kind to me". His dramatic life has made him suffer, but at the same time, he has placed his free and interesting soul.

? Back to Kitano Takeshi's bistro, Kitano Takeshi mainly expresses himself from five aspects: life and death, education, relationships, rules and movies. Many viewpoints in the book are somewhat limited by the times, and I don't fully agree with them, but it is not difficult to see that Kitano Takeshi really thinks seriously about these issues related to people's livelihood, which is enough to show his responsibility of "the rise and fall of the world, and every man has a responsibility". This is why some artists have been sought after by people. When they remove the halo from their heads and fade away their brilliance, what you can see is the effort to influence people's thoughts, behaviors and concepts through themselves.

★ Although it's hard, I will still choose that kind of hot life!

At the peak of his career, Kitano Takeshi suffered an extremely serious car accident. It is rumored that he couldn't wait to find his girlfriend after drinking, so he drunk a motorcycle and almost went to the jaws of death, which finally led to his facial paralysis and became a big joke in the industry. This car accident also brought Kitano Takeshi a lot of thoughts, which is why the first chapter of his book discussed the issue of life and death.

When discussing the issue of life and death, Kitano Takeshi said:

? “? The car accident made me realize that fate is beyond my control. No matter what fate awaits you, you can only accept it silently "

? "However, I now think that the reason why I was so afraid of death at that time may be because of this in the final analysis. Because I am bound with my hands tied, because I have no choice in my life, so I can't feel alive "

? "Not afraid of being forgotten by others, but afraid because my life is empty"

? "What I yearn for is the kind of living method that has nothing to do with real interests and is willing to risk my life purely for learning. Because I feel that if I can live this life, I can truly realize that I have really lived in this world. "

? "Although hard, I will choose that kind of hot life. Even if I have the opportunity to start my life all over again, I think I will still choose the kind of life that will burn at a high temperature of hundreds of millions of degrees. "

When I read these words, I suddenly saw Paul in the book How Steel was Tempered. Kochakin's sentence, "Life is the most precious thing for a person, and life is only once for everyone. Therefore, a person's life should be spent like this: when looking back on the past, he will not regret for wasting his time, nor will he be ashamed of doing nothing; In this way, when he is dying, he can say that I have devoted my whole life and all my energy to the most precious career in life. < P > I think many people yearn for a hot life, but can many people touch it? Are our qualifications, efforts and beliefs strong enough for us to touch? It is simple to yearn for beauty, but the pursuit of beauty requires a price. Do we really have the capital and belief to pursue it?

What should we choose between reality and dreams, between the moon and sixpence? What are the key factors that determine our choices and make us responsible for our choices?

★ No matter how hard you try, what you can't do is impossible!

? Kitano Takeshi was greatly influenced by his mother since childhood. His father was a handcrafted carpenter who drank all day long, while his mother was a well-educated intellectual. She hoped that through her own efforts and hard work, her children would live a good life. Therefore, Kitano Takeshi always loved and feared her mother, and her mother was always strict with Kitano Takeshi. She expected Kitano Takeshi to become an engineer. In her senior year, Kitano Takeshi suddenly felt bored and decided to pursue the life he wanted and dropped out of school. Therefore, they once broke off the mother-child relationship.

on the issue of education, Kitano Takeshi thinks

? "Father should be the first stumbling block for children in their life" < P >? "A father should not be afraid of being hated by his children"

A father should properly and appropriately tell his children what his real abilities are, what goals he can achieve and what he can't. In Kitano Takeshi's view, it is better for parents to tell their children truthfully than to give them an illusory illusion and be beaten to pieces by reality after their pursuit. I can only partially agree with this aspect of education. I agree that in the process of children's growth, parents need to constantly guide their children to increase their self-awareness and constantly locate what they can do and what they lack. But I don't support Kitano Takeshi's saying that "as long as we work hard, we will get results. Let's not say such hypocritical words to our children again. We should educate our children from an early age to recognize the reality. People are not equal. You don't have that talent. This is the reality that parents should tell their children. No matter how hard you try, what you can't do is impossible. This is what parents must teach their children. "

? Children and adults are the same. In the face of the unknown, they need some encouragement and support to persist. If they face the reality at first, so much fear will make children shrink back. We should encourage children to have unlimited possibilities, but on the other hand, we also need to help children establish a clear self-awareness in real situations. Now there are indeed many people who have not established a good self-awareness and know little about themselves. Some people think that they should be more advanced or better people, but they can't stand rational scrutiny. Some people give up choosing from the beginning and live a life of drifting. My shallow life experience tells me that people are not learning to get along with the outside world and others, but learning to get along with themselves. When you get to know yourself more and more, when you become more and more clear about what "I" looks like and what "I want" looks like. You naturally learn to get along with the outside world and others. "No one can hurt you except you." This is the truth. When you don't care, then the tangled things are just a cloud in your eyes.

Of course, I support what Kitano Takeshi said. Parents need to help their children find themselves correctly and objectively, and tell them in time and objectively that your dream is a bit "ambitious". My experience tells me that the damage to your heart after the slapping of reality will far exceed the damage that we mistakenly thought came from parents' "questioning and contempt" at that time, and the price is not just the damage to your heart.

In the last three chapters, Kitano Takeshi talked about relationships, rules and movies. From the relationship chapter, I saw Kitano Takeshi's awe of "competitors", feeling sorry for his opponent's failure, feeling happy for his opponent's success, and being a general is a pity and respectable. Kitano Takeshi thinks that the so-called rules are basically thinking of others. The real rules don't need you to bite the bullet and learn. I quite agree. Now more and more people in our society only think of themselves. Not only that, but they also ask others to think of themselves. If you can't learn to respect each other and love each other, it's really hard to learn the rules, and it's hard to stand in the social order. The part about movies once again proves the Japanese craftsman spirit.

For this book and Kitano Takeshi, my feeling is that when people learn to be self-aware, to be responsible for their own choices, to take responsibility and to think, they will naturally feel bored with a boring life, and it will become a natural thing to pursue a hot life, but in this process, some people will be beaten down by the negativity of things, while others will persist and become what the public yearns for.