What do you think of "inviting people to dinner as an excuse to pay in the toilet is more comfortable than in person"?

What do you think of "inviting people to dinner as an excuse to pay in the toilet is more comfortable than in person"? I have personal experience.

Last May or so, my son talked about his girlfriend and the two young people got along for a while. Both of them have a good impression on each other and formally establish a relationship.

The other person lives in the city, 50 kilometers away from us, and we all know each other's parents. Since the two children get along very well, as the parents of the man, we can't ignore this matter, not to mention that we all know each other. Of course, we must take the initiative.

So, I called the girl's parents and got together when I had time. The other party readily agreed.

Rural conditions are limited and there is no convenience in the city. I left the hotel reservation to the girl's parents. Soon, they also replied to me, what time, what hotel and what box were arranged.

At the appointed time, we arrived at the hotel on time and made an appointment with the introducer couple, a table of about ten people.

Soon, the party began. I seldom drink, and my mind is focused on the feeling of the party. Take the wine after drinking, pour the water after drinking, and be a waiter.

After three rounds of wine and five flavors of food, everyone said they would stop drinking and start serving staple food. It is estimated that there will be no more wine and vegetables, that is, no more consumption. I went out quietly, pretended to go to the bathroom and finished my meal at the bar. I casually returned to the box.

After a while, everyone was dismissed. Walking out of the box to the hall, the girl's parents said, "haven't you paid the bill yet?"

I smiled and said, "I bought it early."

Afterwards, the girl's parents praised me more than once for handling things properly and having quality.

In the past year, the relationship between our two families was very harmonious. I went to his house for dinner and brought some gifts. He came to my house and brought many gifts. That was not the case. During the Spring Festival, the couple came to my house and brought tea, eggs, Wuliangye wine and other very expensive gifts.

I think many details in life can often reflect a person's cultivation and quality. If you pay attention to these details, you may have unexpected results.

As the saying goes, high-profile work, low-key life. This is my usual working style. It's certainly more comfortable to invite people to dinner and pay for it on the pretext of going to the bathroom than to come in person. I can't hide some empty heads in my life. There is only one way out for people who are rushing to pay the bill in dresses and have no actual actions, join the blacklist and kick out of the circle of friends.

You can know the whole leopard at a glance, but you can know the whole situation at a distance. A person's character is shaped, not shouted.

Years ago, I went back to my hometown for the New Year, and a dozen uncles, brothers and sisters came back from all directions for the New Year. Brothers and sisters who seldom meet each other at ordinary times have not been so neat together for many years. Everyone suggested going to the hotel to celebrate. As the boss, I booked a private room by phone in advance, with WeChat transfer 1000 as the deposit. Push a cup for a change. After three rounds of drinking, some people said they would pay the bill, but the proprietress said she had already given it.

Many years later, my brothers gave some fish when they went fishing near my home. Although I have never fished, there are always endless fish at home.

The so-called low-key life is to be generous, aboveboard, dare to do it, and never tolerate it.

In my experience, this kind of thing often happens. Sometimes I do, sometimes my friends do.

Last year, during the National Day holiday, I sent out an invitation to invite some friends I haven't seen for a long time to get together in the evening. Theoretically, it should be my treat, but when we went to the bar to pay the bill after eating and drinking, the waiter told me that the bill had been bought by my old friend Chen for more than ten years.

Inviting people to dinner, except for things to ask for, or business activities, the rest should be family and friendship, and no one will invite a bunch of unrelated people to dinner. Of course, the first two are paid by the host. As for relatives and friends, I don't think it is necessary to make it so clear. He paid the bill this time, so you can get it back next time. Eat well, no one wants to pay the bill. You look at me, and I look at you. How embarrassing is this scene? Is this meal still interesting? We can't be under psychological pressure because of who will pay for the meal. It's better not to eat. Why bother? Don't get upset because you buy a meal yourself or are bought by others. Some people are distressed by what they owe others, while others are distressed by what they owe him. It is better to be a bigger and freer person. what do you think?

Money is a good thing that everyone likes, and no one will hold a grudge against it. So if it's a dinner party for friends in the circle, it's best for everyone to take turns to check out. Don't go to the party if you don't want to check out. There is a saying that muddling along will be paid back sooner or later. Dodge once, twice and three times, and you will probably confuse yourself. Gains and losses always coexist, and those who take the initiative to settle accounts in advance are mostly people with requirements, except for their sense of responsibility and character. Therefore, when you meet such a friend, you must cherish it. You can't lower your character, ruin your reputation, and even lose your precious friendship because of such a trivial matter as checkout. With you and me, mutual benefit and mutual respect are the way to make friends and last forever.

I also personally experienced the "excuse to pay for the toilet"

It was last September, and my best friend and I traveled to Chengdu. Before we went, we contacted our friends in Chengdu. He was very enthusiastic and said that he would take us to play together. On the same day, he pushed things off, met us at the airport and took us to the hotel. I am so embarrassed! Then go to dinner together. Chengdu hot pot is delicious. It's fun to talk while eating.

Friends in Chengdu are very hospitable. Go to Chengdu for a few days and don't want to disturb your friends. In order to thank him for this meal, I used the bathroom as an excuse to pay the bill without authorization. For us, this is a kind of etiquette, which is more decent than rushing to pay the bill in person. Be a man and behave yourself!

When he paid the bill after eating and drinking, he said he bought it. My friend was very angry when he learned that he looked down on him. When he came to them, he wanted to do his best as a landlord and do as the Romans do.

My friend's words and deeds are also the embodiment of his life, and he is enthusiastic to help, so no matter what the occasion, he still needs to know how to do things with emotional intelligence, and he can't be looked down upon by others and don't understand the world!

Such a friend is worthy of deep friendship, and can be considerate of others everywhere, generous and considerate.

It is said that drinking depends on friendship and spending money to buy character.

There are a lot of people around me who have temperament and are honest and frank, and they are scrambling to pay the bill after dinner. But it's hard to tell whether it's true or not, but I personally don't agree with this way of rushing to pay the bill.

Pandering in public is also easy to be regarded as a joke. Rushing to pay the bill means not knowing some rules before meals, giving them room to play, and being embarrassed not to rush.

However, if it is really robbed, it may not be true. On the contrary, you will feel lost, and you will experience it yourself.

So I agree with the following three payment methods:

1, before meals, make it clear who will treat you and arrange it, with priority. Don't eat in a fog, pay the bill in a fog.

2, AA is also good, everyone forms a tacit understanding and consciously abides by it.

3. finally, it is the situation that the subject said. Those who get up early and pay the bill silently are the ones who make everyone comfortable and calm, avoiding a lot of embarrassment and discomfort.

Such people are generally responsible, responsible and generous in life.

I see through the psychology of everyone who treats me to dinner. I am willing to pay more in the circle and generally win everyone's respect.

But such people are also the most principled and equal. They can see through the people who pay the bill and see through the tricks in the dinner. Usually after a few times, I won't come back.

After all, no one's money is blown by the wind, and no one is a big head.

I usually invite friends to eat and drink when I'm free. When I invite friends to dinner, I will book a hotel first, pay some money in advance, tell the hotel to refund more and make up less, and then call them.

Once I invited a friend to dinner. At first, there were only six people. Just after serving, my friend received a phone call saying where to eat and asked him to come and eat together. He didn't say how many people came. As a result, six or seven people came, and I didn't know anyone. At dinner, my friend's friend didn't say anything to us at dinner. After eating, my friend kept asking the waiter to pay the bill. When the waiter came up to him, he didn't move again. I also took it. When I saw him like this, I said I had paid the bill. I wonder if you have ever met such a friend.

During the World Cup, my friends and I went to drink all night and watch a football match. I gave my boss some money directly, saying that I was afraid that no one would pay the bill if I got drunk in the future. I said if it wasn't enough, my wife would pick me up and ask her for it. At this time, the boss said that you are really free and easy. I said that you must be smart when you relax. This is the way of life.

Eating and drinking with real friends and paying the bill in advance are really nothing. First, you may have better living conditions now. Second, there are not many friends who can share weal and woe.

What do you think of "inviting people to dinner as an excuse to pay in the toilet is more comfortable than in person"?

I couldn't agree more.

Because such people have very high emotional intelligence,

Why is EQ high?

If we pay the bill on the right, the other party will think that you are showing off your wealth or showing how much sincerity you have paid.

The most terrible thing is that it will embarrass the other party. Do you have anything to say? I want to buy it. I want to buy it. It's embarrassing to say or not)

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I believe that many people have this situation, and I am also such a person.

I usually go out to eat with my friends, and most of them pay the bill in this way. At the beginning, my colleagues and friends and I ate at work. Because the relationship is not too deep, I don't want to owe anyone anything, so I settle accounts in advance. However, everyone knows it. Later, every time we had dinner together, we would adopt AA system. Everyone agreed that they were not embarrassed with each other. They like this way of getting along.

When we have dinner with good friends, we are more casual. Whoever asks us to go out for dinner usually pays the bill, and the people who invite us have to pay for it themselves. We will also find an excuse in advance, such as going out to make a phone call or something, and settle accounts in advance. If you can walk together and become good friends, the three views are the same, and everyone will be tacitly aware.

Hello, I'm Hongbo. Have dreams. The subject asked, "It's much more comfortable to invite people to dinner and pay the bill in the bathroom on an excuse than to come in person." I think this is very suitable. Why? There are several reasons.

First of all, the title here shows that this is inviting people to dinner. Inviting people to dinner, as the name implies, means paying for it yourself. Since you pay the bill, don't wait for the last meal, so people who eat it will be unnatural. It is possible that he will check out before you know it, so you won't invite people to dinner.

You invite people to dinner, and everyone eats in the same mood. Whether it's the daily dinner or what you want someone to do, it's all entrusted by you. Since people entrust you, you need to make the guests you invite more natural. If you can pay the bill inadvertently, or when you borrow the toilet, when dinner is over and people are ready to get up and pay the bill, you tell them that you have paid the bill. In this way, customers will look surprised and then praise you for your speed, and people will appreciate and praise you for it!

If you didn't pay the bill before, in the end, the waiter came to the table and wanted to pay the bill. Because the waiter didn't know who paid the bill, she would try to ask: Who paid the bill? In this way, the guests present will be unnatural. Wouldn't it be looked down upon if they didn't pay? This may lead to people scrambling to pay the bill. Even if you are not in a hurry to pay the bill, then everyone will be unnatural.

Therefore, since we invite people to dinner, we should pay the bill in advance when everyone is not paying attention, or when we go to the toilet on an excuse, so that everyone is comfortable.

I am Hongbo Youmeng, welcome to pay attention.