How to be a humorous and talkative boy?

ten ways for you to use humor effectively to find fun in your life

NO.1

It is very important to constantly find fun in your life. There are many ways:

1. Don't take yourself too seriously, but help others more. Do you need any help? Read How to Win Friends and Influence Others, a classic by Norman Vincent Peale.

2. Laugh more-it is said that children laugh 4 times a day, which is 1.5 times that of adults. Just plan to laugh 4 times a day, at least 1% of your old one.

3. Read some cartoons often, and look for interesting comments and witticisms when reading.

4. Even if you encounter a challenging situation, try to search for something funny and humorous.

No.9. Find out why you laugh

If you want to laugh 4 times a day, you should know what makes you laugh and find out why. List 17 things that make you laugh, which is unrealistic? Hardly! Why 17? Because 17 is much more fun than 1, because 17 is much more fun than 1! Here is a trick to teach you how to easily identify and list things that make you laugh:

13 movies

11 TV dramas

5 words or phrases

19 celebrity anecdotes

5 cartoons

7 audio or video

11 comedians

7 TV characters

7 funny pictures.

NO.8 Use your own comedy material

Personal experience is the most authentic source of humor for executive leaders, and look for humorous scenes in your life:

1. Funny things you said or things others told you

2. Your embarrassment, whether psychological, communicative or physical

3. Every time you change or learn

5, the difficulties in your life (yes, these can also be used as a source of humor)

When you use your personal experience as comedy material, remember what we learned from childhood humorous games: knocking at the door. These simple jokes are popular because the links in these games emphasize the familiar scenes, and by using keywords and phrases, an opportunity to make people laugh is clearly outlined. They also show how a sense of humor germinates from surprise. They laugh not because they know who or what is behind the door, but because they are puzzled by the initial question "Who is there?" The response.

No.7. Adapting other people's stories

In addition to your own experience, there is another saying: "Borrow and adapt" (I don't mean stealing) other people's interesting stories. That's why my old friend Milton Berle, a comedian, is called "the thief of funny stories."

Some borrowed jokes can easily work, because many people have never thought of this humorous way. In addition to simply searching for "jokes", witticisms, definitions, pictures or videos in GOOGLE, the following are two other common adaptation resources:

Cartoon-you can show it in different ways in front of everyone, tell the story of this cartoon (in fact, describe yourself as one of the characters), without any pictures or extract quips from it as the opening remarks of your humorous jokes.

comedian-borrow the humorous jokes of those comedians or others and modify them to suit your style or your work environment. Watch more comedians' performances, and you will understand how experts do it well.

No.6. Understand your audience

If you want to be a humorous leader, you must understand the scale of your jokes. All this starts with your real understanding of the audience:

1. Observe the attitude of top managers towards the sense of humor.

2. Understand the temper of the audience-this is directly related to whether your humorous style is appropriate

3. Love your audience as much as you tease them

4. When you are not sure whether others have the same sense of humor as you, try to make fun of them.

5. If you are going to improvise humor, you must first know that your audience doesn't mind. Improvisation may have serious consequences, because the audience will misunderstand. In fact, it is very useful to rehearse impromptu humor in a planned way. This may sound strange, but in the ordinary work situation you will encounter, think about where mistakes are often made, or what may be the source of jokes. Prepare some "safe" funny words as "spare" impromptu humor.

NO.5 know what to say and what not to say

Even in a workplace where everyone welcomes comedians, it is obvious that some jokes are not allowed. During work, we should avoid malicious jokes or pranks, sarcastic remarks, ridicule of religious beliefs, gender, nationality or racial issues. Do you think your sense of humor is good enough to be fearless? My advice to you is: don't do this. Humor in this way will make your colleagues feel that they are in an unpredictable and high-risk situation, and your career is in jeopardy.

through the following points, see if your workplace humor is actually safe. To pass this safety test, all the positions related to your jokes, comments or imagination must be true

1. I can tell my mother/I can show her

2. If I become a laughing stock, I won't be angry.

3, this will not violate the regulations of the Federal Communications Commission of the United States.

4, everyone present can understand what I said.

5, even if the other person's answer is a little wrong, skillfully change and adjust your original idea or make it better, and forget about it and start over.

NO.4 don't be self-righteous

Executive leaders never take themselves too seriously. They will laugh, and others will enjoy it. Leaders should be good at self-mockery, in other words, self-directed humor plays down your own talents, status and achievements.

You may not want to use self-mockery on any simple question, but in any case, it is the most effective and appropriate in the following situations:

When you are comfortable and confident,

Your prestige and ability have been clearly established

The current situation is just in line with your personality and emotions

But remember-when you want to borrow others' self-deprecating humor, you should talk to them. If not, it is really self-mockery! I once heard a man who was obviously not the president of technical marketing call himself a geek in front of everyone. But that's what they call her, and she doesn't belong to their group. Her words were originally intended to narrow the distance, but they failed completely.

No.3. Do you need humorous inspiration? Look around

The workplace is full of comedy. Humor comes from exaggeration, pun, misunderstanding, ambiguity, contradiction, specious, painful and inconsistent. If you work in any type of enterprise or organization, you will find such a situation everywhere!

As a leader, your task is to use appropriate opportunities to boost morale. How to use humor successfully, you must ensure the following:

Your sense of humor makes him realize that he is very good

Malicious fun will not keep you in the organization for a long time.

don't joke when people are in turmoil, because it will lead to despicable behavior

NO.2 Let yourself enjoy pleasure all the time

If you are looking for more fun and want to be approachable as a leader, then stay with those happy people. Those who are interesting and like to laugh, those people who are often cheered by them.

Cultivate feelings with this type of people, spend time with them, learn from them how they use humor, and then extract what suits you from their methods.

In addition to getting pleasure from these guys, choose 3-4 people to form an informal comedy team as your comedy team, solicit their opinions, guide and improve your sense of humor, and they can also put forward some humorous material views of potential problems, which will make you pass the safety test, but it may still not be suitable for colleagues in the workplace.

NO.1 is in fun

Finally, the most important thing for a leader to successfully use humor is to really share it with others in the workplace. Here are the last few points to remember:

Use humor when appropriate, and see how it works in a low-risk situation before you try to face more people.

it's also a good way to let people get "permission" to laugh at work by revealing the signal that you want to laugh from your words, actions and tone.

Finally, be sincere when using humor; Don't be too busy laughing, it dies like lightning, but add more fun to your work.