Excuse me, what do you think is the reason why women insist on divorce through the court after giving birth?

I have experienced this problem first hand. I got married in Sichuan, Xinjiang. In the second month of marriage, my in-laws showed their true colors. I had a conflict with my in-laws. The whole family attacked me together. The man pointed at me and apologized to his parents, right or wrong. I didn't listen. Everyone has a cold war and doesn't want to live anymore. Later, I found out that I was pregnant. The man said that he would treat me well and hope to live for the children. My heart softened, and I thought I could live with my children, just like a lubricant. A few months before pregnancy, I was calm. I bought maternity clothes in the third trimester, but my mother-in-law said she didn't want to buy them. I just sewed old clothes into big clothes. It is too expensive to buy children's things, and the young couple interfere in everything they do. The man didn't dare to resist. He even complained to his parents that I spent too much money and didn't have to check it often. I'm still healthy without an examination before. I was glared at, and the man scolded me regardless of the willy-nilly. Asked what I really want to do, I put up with a lot, and I don't want to be noisy or angry. My whole family has a cold war with me, and there is still one month left. My in-laws directly said that I was melodramatic every day, but I was pregnant and ate and drank. Does someone have to take me to heaven? I can't stand it, just say I don't want to live it. The man said I don't want to live. I said divorce. The man said that divorce would abort the child and there was no need to give birth. I agreed. The man told me to get up early the next morning and go to the hospital. My in-laws said that marriage was free and we could drive to the hospital. The man asked me to pay for the abortion myself. I don't agree, saying that he will pay, but who will pay for my physical injury? I was the only one left in the hospital, and I consulted the doctor. I couldn't have an abortion for 9 months, and then I took a taxi home by myself until I gave birth to a baby. I naively thought that when the children arrived, all contradictions would fade away. My mother-in-law came and gave birth to a daughter by caesarean section. The man bought milk powder to buy a breast pump, and her mother-in-law said it was too expensive. My mother and I were in a bad mood at that time. My mother-in-law didn't take good care of me and my baby, and she didn't allow me to use diapers. My mother-in-law also complained that my mother didn't do a good job, and the man said nothing and couldn't make a decision. My mother can't stand watching all this. She felt that I had been wronged a lot, so she quarreled with his family. I didn't quarrel with my mother. Let's just say divorce. My in-laws said they were leaving, and my son was in good condition and couldn't be found. The man didn't want to leave, saying that for the sake of children, I couldn't stand strong in-laws. There is no need to say more. I said I wanted a daughter, but the man disagreed. He told me to clean the house. I want to go to court, but the next month, I can only mediate. I was torn and helpless in a different place. I didn't want to continue pestering, so I agreed to clean up the house and went to the Civil Affairs Bureau the next month. I wavered at first, and the man's attitude was not good. Finally, I got divorced. Finally, I scarred my daughter. When I went back to Sichuan for the Spring Festival, I was told to go back to live for my children, but his family could do nothing, change nothing, and said nothing soft. His family just asked me to go back and continue to be a free nanny, thinking that I would be soft-hearted for my daughter and men would go on blind dates everywhere. Five years later, he has a successful career, and some women will marry him after seeing his conditions. I heard that they often quarrel after marriage. The current wife is a local, so she is not easy to mess with. After giving birth to a son, my in-laws are very happy. After all, it's the second marriage, and my in-laws are afraid of being laughed at for divorcing again. As they grow older, they are troubled by diseases, so they are no longer as rude as before and their lives are calm. Now my daughter is 7 years old, and my family won't let me see her children, telling me not to contact and not to appear in her world. I also have a new family of my own, as long as my daughter regards her stepmother as her own mother and her stepmother treats my daughter.

Under normal circumstances, it should be a huge gap between postpartum depression and psychology, which will make women divorce through the court just after giving birth to children.

In addition, the intensification of the contradiction between a woman and her husband's family when giving birth, or the problem of her husband's derailment, will cause a woman's mentality to be unbalanced and do something regardless.

I have a female colleague in the same situation. Shortly after she gave birth to the baby, it was reported that she was going to divorce at work. At that time, the unit trade union organized everyone to persuade her, but no matter how to persuade her, she wouldn't listen, just kept crying. Later, with her sleepless insistence, her husband reluctantly agreed to divorce.

To say that her husband is still a good man, although divorced, he often comes to the unit to care for her and help her. I asked her husband the reason for her divorce, and he said that he didn't understand it before, but only after the divorce did he understand that it might be caused by postpartum depression. He said he was contacting a psychiatrist and wanted to treat her. A year later, perhaps because of the psychological doctor, my female colleague gradually returned to normal, and her face became rosy, and soon she remarried.

Therefore, when a woman encounters this situation after giving birth, both her husband's family and parents should understand the woman's emotions from all aspects, care for and help her resolve her inner depression. Especially when a husband, he should always pay attention to his wife's words and deeds, judge where the problem lies, diagnose and treat earlier, and help his wife get out of the haze and get through this critical moment.

I have read an answer: men still want to live like their fathers, while women don't want to live like their mothers.

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The most important reason is that in the second month, my husband couldn't bear loneliness, spent his heart and cheated. Women are sad, desperate and miserable, so they want a divorce.

She was badly hurt, and her heart was broken. There is no other reason or explanation.

I have witnessed two marriages before, both of which were divorced after confinement. The worst man is still a former good friend. He cheated his wife when she was pregnant, and eventually he wanted to divorce soon after the baby was born.

He complained about how his wife became incomprehensible, tender and grumpy after she became pregnant. Later, he knew nothing about it, because after the divorce, he basically broke up with such people.

There is also a couple I know in the same situation, all because during pregnancy, my wife has a bad temper and is a little depressed. She always quarrels with her husband and doesn't know how to be considerate and patient. As a result, the woman divorced in a rage.

After seeing these two things, I began to feel a little scared, worried that my wife would be like that after pregnancy. I've been careful since the day my wife started to get pregnant.

Just pregnant, I really feel much worse, moody and grumpy. Because I have always been psychologically prepared, I am not too surprised. No matter how unreasonable my wife is, I hold back my anger and never lose my temper with her.

Strange to say, my wife vomited every day for the first three months of pregnancy. She had a big temper and many things, and she was always angry with me. Then suddenly, I was ill in the hospital and needed an operation. During that time, my wife took turns to take care of me. All of a sudden, she didn't throw up, and her state seemed to return to normal. She takes good care of me before and after running every day.

Later, she was discharged from hospital after surgery and took care of me with a big belly for a long time. During that time, her temper was much better. Anyway, now I'm thinking about it for a while, and we can take care of each other. She helped me down the steps with a big belly, and now I can still remember the scene.

Now think about it. From the day my wife was pregnant to the years when my daughter was weaned, we never had a fight. During pregnancy, I was almost a different person at first, but after the child was weaned, I gradually returned to normal.

It is estimated that this is the reaction of women when they are pregnant. Men have no choice but to tolerate and endure. Some men may not understand this and always feel that women have changed.

I didn't think it might be because of pregnancy. If I hadn't seen the two couples I knew before, I might not have thought of them. I might have been quarreling with my wife all the time.

In short, communication between husband and wife is very important. When things happen, it is impossible to say who is right or wrong. Don't talk too much about truth between lovers, talk more about feelings.

There is a girl and a girl on our land. She doesn't take meals, and she doesn't have a boyfriend, but she is pregnant.

My parents knew about it and scolded it, but there was nothing they could do but choose a random person and marry their daughter.

The man is an old bachelor, in his thirties. I'm very happy when someone comes to visit my relatives. Let's have a blitzkrieg and then marry the girl and go home.

The old bachelor's family is poor, and he feels that he can't get a wife all his life, so he earns one yuan and uses one yuan, and there is nothing to store at home. The old bachelor is lazy and his clothes are dirty. Without a plan, it is useless to work hard all day. Such a family, such a man, such a woman in your heart?

But I only blame myself for not getting back a little bit of life and accidentally getting pregnant. In order to avoid this kind of right and wrong, women have to keep silent. She doesn't intend to live long, and she can go after giving birth.

Six months later, a boy was born. The man and the mother were so happy that after a month, they didn't see the child's mother. A few days later, the woman sent a divorce agreement and asked the man to sign it.

There must be a reason for a woman to divorce after giving birth to a child. It may be because she met her first lover and then they had feelings again. Or maybe it's the same as what I said before?

How else can you explain such a short wedding date?

If a woman desperately wants a divorce after giving birth, she must be desperate to the extreme.

Many husbands can't understand the pain of a woman during pregnancy and think that a woman is so sentimental after giving birth to a child! I think women may be made of reinforced concrete, and they still have to take care of their husbands, old people and children during pregnancy, and they should!

There are also some husbands who have no moral bottom line, cheating during pregnancy and having an affair with the opposite sex, which is a great blow to women.

What's more, after the wife is pregnant, she is not only inconsiderate, but also disgusted that women are deformed, obese and ugly because of pregnancy! Such a person has no conscience!

Part of it comes from the malice of the husband's family, such as son preference, waiting until next month, and the conflict of parenting ideas, which may be the last straw to crush the camel!

After a woman gives birth, her hormones are unstable, her mood fluctuates greatly, and she is fragile and sensitive. If she is not taken care of by her family at this time, she will suffer both physical and psychological harm, and then she will despair and ask for a divorce!

A fellow villager of mine married far away and was subjected to domestic violence during confinement. She went to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce as soon as she was born.

A fellow villager of mine has married far away, and her husband's family is very patriarchal and just gave birth to a daughter.

No one took care of her during confinement, and she was also subjected to domestic violence. My mother-in-law also scolded her for eating too much. She said a few words. Her husband dragged her directly to the second floor and punched and kicked her in front of her parents-in-law.

She said that from that moment on, her heart died and she rode back to her mother's house with her baby under the full moon. Fortunately, her parents accepted her and supported her.

Her husband called to apologize, but she didn't accept it. She said she knew from the moment he laid hands on him. She is a devil, and she is also chilling for that kind of family.

Because she refused to go back for confinement, the man's face was about to go, so she went to her parents' house to make trouble. Finally, after confinement, the two went to the Civil Affairs Bureau.

Maybe your daughter-in-law is treated coldly by your parents, and you are dissatisfied with your husband, such as eating and treating guests. I am dissatisfied and angry with my family's life and work, so I want a divorce.