My husband cheated me. How can I get back at him?

There is a line in Perfect Stranger:

"The mobile phone has become our black box, which contains all the secrets."

For men who cheat, they are most afraid of their wives asking "give me your mobile phone". Because they cheated on each other, they were unsure and worried about the exposure, so they would protect the mobile phone with all his cheating secrets hidden.

The next stop is happiness. Shen Fanfan cheated his wife Yang Xiaoyu during her pregnancy. In order to cover up, Shen Fanfan changed Xiaosan's remarks to his father. Every time the phone rings, he is extremely nervous and rushes to another room to answer the phone.

You see, for men who have cheated, mobile phones are very important. They often take their mobile phones with them, and even take them away when they take a shower, because they are afraid that the secrets in their mobile phones will be exposed.

What they don't know is that the more they take precautions, the more they will expose their fears, the more they will make their wives suspicious and sow the seeds of distrust in their hearts.

For a man who is cheating, when facing his wife to check his mobile phone, he often suddenly changes his face or raises his voice, then criticizes his wife from the moral high ground and refuses to check his mobile phone. They will attack their wife's behavior with words such as "distrust" and "disrespect", and then cover up everything.

They thought that their actions would make their wives not check their mobile phones, but they didn't know that their boycott would only make their wives more curious and suspicious, and then more distrustful.

For men, the only way to avoid being afraid of this is to be loyal to marriage, to be honest and not afraid of shadows, and to show everything generously even if his wife suspects.

2. Bind your salary card to my mobile phone.

Men want to have fun outside, so spending money is inevitable.

As the saying goes, "the smell of women knows men through their money." Men will definitely spend money for outsiders in order to show their charm and attract more people of the opposite sex.

For a cheating man, the most feared thing is that his wife asks to "bind your salary card to my mobile phone".

A man who has cheated is most afraid of his wife cutting off contacts or supervising his economic contacts.

Because when his salary card was tied to his wife's mobile phone, she knew his source and expenses like the back of her hand, so he had no chance to have sex outside. With his wife's supervision, he dare not take any more risks.

Although a woman can't break her husband's whole economy, because a man needs money when he is away, money is a man's face and capital, whether it's work, entertainment or friends gathering.

But a woman can supervise the property of husband and wife together with her husband, which is the power and responsibility between husband and wife.

Whether a man is cheating or not, his money can tell a lot. For most ordinary men, cheating requires economic costs. Without money, there is no way out.

If a man can generously bind his salary card to his wife's mobile phone, it shows that he loves his wife with a clear conscience and is loyal to his marriage.

Why don't I go to the company?

A man's secret may be difficult for his wife to know, but where he works, he can find many clues.

For example, his usual commuting time, the objects and expressions he usually chats with can completely reflect a man's psychological state.

It may be difficult for a wife to know this, but colleagues who live together day and night know a lot of things.

Because cheating men will deliberately disguise their wives, but they will not deliberately disguise their colleagues around them.

This is why, after a man has an affair, the first thing he knows is usually not his wife and friends, but his colleagues around him.

The competitive relationship of office gossip often reflects many real things, and these things are often the things that derailed men are most afraid of.

Most cheating men are afraid that their wives will go to their own companies. They often use various reasons and excuses to prevent their wives from visiting their own companies, and then make friends with colleagues.

Men are most afraid of their wives doing these three things when looking for lovers outside.

1. After marriage, * * * owns the same property.

In front of men, money and status are sometimes more important than marriage. Most men, in particular, will regard the property after marriage as their own, because they are the main source of income for the married family. So it is hard for them to accept giving half of their married property to their wives.

And because he betrayed his marriage, that is to say, his fault led to your divorce, and you can get more married property, which is his achilles heel. As long as you use this to negotiate with your husband, they will definitely agree to return to the family immediately.

2. Custody of children

For most men, although he will betray his wife, the custody of children is very important to them. Even he is not afraid of being betrayed by his wife, but he is afraid that the child will know and affect his physical condition.

So even if he wants a divorce, he will win custody of the children. Therefore, if his wife really wants to save this marriage at this time, she can start with the children. After all, most of the children in the family are brought up by their mothers, so they are closer to their mothers and want to be with them.

3. His reputation and future

Everyone knows that it is a bad thing to have an affair, so even if a man can't help betraying his marriage, he will do it secretly, for fear that his reputation will be affected when others know about it, so he is also afraid that it will make a big deal.

Once this incident gets serious, first of all, his relatives, friends and colleagues around him will look at him with new eyes. Secondly, some jobs will also examine personal qualities. If this incident becomes serious, his work may stop here.