What happened to the patriarchal family around you?

For a long time, in the eyes of many people, Chaoshan people are patriarchal, so as a Chaoshan person, there must be many examples of patriarchal around me.

Just like a colleague of mine, she has a younger brother besides her at home. She is from Jieyang city in Chaoshan area, and her family is very patriarchal. She said that when she got married, her mother asked the man to give 65,438+10,000 yuan as a bride price. Although it doesn't seem like much now, it was when she got married several years ago. Then her husband discussed this issue with her for a long time. Finally, the two of them worked together and saved the bride price of 654.38 million yuan.

Originally, my colleague's idea at that time was that after the bride price was given, her parents also gave back some as her dowry. Unexpectedly, after her mother received a bride price of 6.5438 million yuan, she returned a little money as a dowry (not much). Then, she told her that you have been married there, and you should help your family more, so there is still a younger brother to get married at home.

She said that when she heard this reason, her heart was almost broken. They are all creatures. Why is the difference between men and women so great? So up to now, she has also told the truth that whenever something happens at home, she will only care about it on the surface. She thinks that her brother can solve things, she will not intervene, nor will she help pay.

Therefore, in a patriarchal family, men are often not satisfied when they get a lot, and women pay a lot, but their parents are still not satisfied. Then in the end, when something happens, women will be unwilling to help. After all, in their view, their existence is "redundant".

Therefore, the more backward families are, the less they can get along with each other.