What should I do if I am nervous and dare not speak on stage?

Fear can never be eliminated. It will always be with you. It is important to learn how to stay away from fear.

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There is such a joke about public speaking and confident expression. Although it is a bit of a spoof, in fact, we can find that workplace learning is like playing a monster. The first level needs to be advanced: "The workplace is not as good at writing Word as Excel, and Excel is not as good as PPT."

What we need to pay attention to is that you may feel that you don't need to make a speech or express yourself now, just do your job well. But everyone must know that anyone who is awesome starts with Xiaobai.

If you are still a little white, you can't really exercise yourself and consciously improve yourself, then I'm afraid it's too late for you to be a cow, or you have no chance at all.

So even if you are still a little white, start acting now.

A successful speech is based on two elements, the first is sincerity and the second is empathy. These are the two most important foundations of real communication, and also the expression, speech and market work under communication.

Sincerity and empathy, please think about its significance.

Many people feel that they are very introverted, nervous when giving speeches, and feel insecure during the speech, and don't know what to do. In recent years, after a lot of practice, I have sorted out the theory of speech.

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Before any speech, you need to put aside this topic. I simplified the basic methods of McKinsey & Company to solve problems, starting from four points: problems, causes, countermeasures and actions.

The question is why people are afraid of speaking, whether they are afraid or not confident about speaking. As can be seen from the chat, many people have this problem. Then, we should understand the root of the matter, and at the same time understand the countermeasures, and finally rise to action. If we don't take action, everything will go up in smoke.

A few years ago, I shared it with many entrepreneurs and friends and some GYL friends. An entrepreneur once said that before he took office, he had made full preparations, done everything he needed to do, learned everything he needed to learn and practiced all his skills. However, at the moment he stepped onto the stage, he felt that fear overwhelmed everything.

Many people must have encountered such a problem. During the speech, did anyone feel that their hands were shaking with fear, or that their hands holding the manuscript would vibrate regularly and they couldn't stop if they wanted to?

Some people shake their legs when giving a speech. In the worst case, their legs shake together. Some people wrestle as soon as they get on stage. Others feel dry when they go on stage. Drinking too much water is useless. These are actually manifestations of fear.

Do you have these questions?

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One kind of person will say, what I fear most is to see a sea of people. When I saw them, I felt terrible. There is also a kind of person who forgets his words as soon as he takes the stage and suddenly feels that he has been forgotten on the stage.

Don't worry, you're not the only one who's scared. Most people get scared when they go on stage. People who say they are not afraid basically do not exist, but this fear can be packaged, which is the routine learning method we are talking about today. Even the former president of the United States, Mr. Roosevelt, said, "The only thing we are not afraid of is fear itself." It's good that you know this is a common phenomenon. No big deal.

Only when a person knows why he is afraid and what he is afraid of, and finds this point accurately, can he cure this serious injury. Knowing where the scar is, and then building a box on it to isolate it from the outside world, this method can make you say goodbye to the fear of words, and there is no better way.

What is the truth? The first person to reveal this is psychologist McLuhan, who put forward the role-playing theory. Why are people afraid? That's because role-playing, the role you play is not suitable for you, so you feel scared and uneasy.

Mr. McLuhan once said that people are all role-playing species. So you said, I live a real life, I am a real person. Actually, it's not. For example, in your industry, are you a student, a professional or an entrepreneur? These are the roles you play.

Others, such as mothers, fathers and children, are also role-playing. Or you are a teacher or a parent. The human being revealed by McLuhan is a very good role-playing species.

Many people will ask, why can't I say it well, or what does this have to do with the speech?

A good speech expert is very good at playing his role on the stage. When everyone comes on stage, he must first think clearly about who I want to play, or what kind of role I want to play, just like when I speak to everyone on the podium, I am everyone's cute sister. If I can't play the role in the speech, then I'm dereliction of duty.

But people are often nervous because the role he plays is particularly strange to him. For example, many friends feel that they can't speak several times a year, and there are not many opportunities to speak on stage. At that time, stepping on the stage was to play a strange role for you.

Think about it. Aren't you nervous about playing a strange role?

According to McLuhan's definition, this is not fear, but because you have not adapted to your role. Just get used to it.

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Freud, I believe everyone is familiar. When talking about why people feel fear, he emphasized that human beings are born naked and helpless. When they were babies, they were full of fear of the new world. In what form did humans express their fears? Yes, express your helplessness through tears and crying.

But will people grow up like this? No, because human beings have been domesticated and generally express their emotions by crying loudly or quietly.

Every speech is exposed to other people's eyes. Exposure means that when others look at you with their eyes, like a spotlight shining on you, you will feel the original fear from infancy. He called this behavior "the behavior of returning to the baby".

What is the behavior of returning to baby? This is actually an escape mechanism. When others see you, you feel threatened and you want to move to a particularly safe place.

Freud said that the safest place is when you are young, in a quiet crib where you are just born, or in your mother's belly. Therefore, many friends feel that they can't wait to find a place to drill down during their speeches. Do you feel this way? This is interpreted as a psychological escape mechanism.

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Mr. alfred adler put forward the projection theory of fear. When people talk, they are exposed to others' eyes. In fact, a person is made up of energy. For example, your initial energy is 100%. When you give a speech, you are actually consuming your own energy, just like a battery. The more you talk, the more you consume.

So where did the energy go? Energy is transmitted to the audience. By sharing constantly, your energy will be reduced or even lost. When you lose energy, you will feel uncomfortable and particularly vulnerable.

The second half of this theory says that once people's energy is reduced, they will begin to feel uncomfortable. What do we do? This discomfort just makes you feel the need to increase your energy, so you start to have this fear, and the fear of losing energy immediately exists.

At the beginning of the 20th century, these three psychologists began a series of large-scale studies on language fear. This is a practical research method. Only by choosing a psychologist's theory and combining with one's own practical scene and theory can one understand and know why people have fear and try to understand it in this way.

Our goal is to understand why people are afraid and then learn how to stay away from them. Know that fear can never be eliminated, it will always be with you. Fortunately, we found a beautiful box, which can cover up the fear and prevent it from spreading.

The way we learn is to find this box that can cover up your fears. This box is the way to let you really say goodbye to the fear of speech, so that you can be isolated from these fears during the speech and express yourself comfortably, smoothly and confidently.

As far as phobia is concerned, you, I and he both know very well that everyone is equal in the face of phobia. Everyone should pay attention to the characteristics of verbal expression, be good at putting themselves in a situation where they have to exercise, and force themselves to constantly improve themselves. This is an effective method.

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Warren Buffett is a well-known billionaire and a famous investment expert. He has an unknown past.

When he was in college, the school offered them a series of courses, but he especially wanted to take the course of speech and eloquence, because he was particularly afraid of speaking in front of people and had to give up the course at last. He said the reason for giving up was lack of courage in class.

Later, he even reached such a stage. When choosing courses at the university, he tried to choose courses that didn't need to speak in front of people, and he tried to avoid courses that needed public speech and conversation. I strongly disapprove of this behavior. Take the initiative to avoid your weaknesses. You know, courage is more important than satisfaction, and you will need these skills in the future.

When Buffett was 2 1 year old, he was engaged in the securities industry in Omaha. He gives public speeches every day. At that time, he was really reluctant. But when he was 2 1 year old, he slowly began to give a large-scale speech and exercise himself.

Many years later, when he was interviewed by a certain media, he told this little secret. He said that when he was young, he was particularly afraid of talking.

Later, the reporter asked him, when he was 20 to 30 years old, what habits did he think were the cornerstone of his future success?

Buffett replied that his interpersonal skills and speaking skills were his greatest wealth during this period. To some extent, he felt that the school didn't pay attention to this aspect, so he didn't exercise his speaking ability. Later, I was grateful for the "have to" in my career and actually practiced my speech.

So, when you take the first step and find a box that suits you, you will find that the speech is actually very simple.