Why do I usually think too much?

(1) Avoid wrong psychological attributions

The biggest problem for people who have too much inner drama is to make wrong psychological attributions and attribute things that should not be their responsibility. The fault is forcibly attributed to oneself.

For example, when others are angry, a confident person will think: "This person is so emotionally unstable, something is wrong with him", but a sensitive person will think: "He is angry, is it me?" What did you do wrong again?”

Don’t take the initiative to take the blame for other people’s emotions and behaviors. Everyone only needs to be responsible for themselves.

(2) Don’t overly cater to the needs of others

People who think too much are often very good at understanding the psychology of others. After all, if you can't even receive other people's messages, how can you think too much?

This ability can help them effectively cater to the needs of others, so that they can thrive in interpersonal interactions. However, the problem also occurs here. Catering to others for a long time can easily lose themselves and slowly turn into giving. type personality.

So, pay attention to catering to the needs of others while maintaining your own boundaries, maintaining your psychological independence, and learning to reject others, so that you can gain happiness.

(3) Learn to act

Excessive thinking is actually not helpful in life, but will consume your psychological energy. Because it does not solve the actual problem, but will consume your attention and mobility, making you feel exhausted and unhappy.

What you need to do is to act immediately after thinking, because action can effectively interrupt your thoughts and make your thinking controlled and controllable. At the same time, the gains brought by actions will enhance your self-confidence and self-esteem, making you stronger.

(4) Sensitivity is not a problem, the problem is low self-esteem

Many people are confused by their own sensitivity and have a lot of inner drama, so they want to eliminate this sensitivity, and even put forward the concept of "insensitivity" the concept of "power".

This is wrong. Sensitivity itself is not a problem. The problem lies in psychological inferiority, insecurity, invisible narcissism and other problems. Desensitizing yourself won't do you any good if you don't address these root causes.

On the contrary, if sensitivity can be combined with confidence, tolerance, action and wisdom, you can better take care of your own and other people's needs, which can help you be successful in interpersonal interactions.