After breaking up, my boyfriend made a request: I love you so much. You have to relax for a year and accompany me to eat and travel. Should you agree?

A sister submitted a manuscript to me before, detailing the weird things about her ex. I once heard a saying: Your ex is non-recyclable garbage. However, this sister's ex is simply "harmful garbage."

I think this man deserves to be used as a "model" for many sisters to set standards for. Don't look for someone like him in the future!

Let’s call this sister bunny for now! At the beginning of the relationship with her boyfriend, the two of them were just like ordinary college couple, talking about love, romance and sweetness. But the longer they get along, the more Rabbit discovers some strange behaviors in the other person.

For example, not long after the two fell in love, the boyfriend invited Rabbit to his rental house. It's normal and common for boys to be a little slovenly. However, what the boyfriend did next was a bit unexpected.

The boyfriend took out the key to his rental house and handed it to Rabbit, asking her to come over and help him clean every day. Looking at the dark and reflective curtains, the dirty clothes scattered everywhere, the take-out boxes everywhere, and the teapot with five centimeters of mold growing on it, Rabbit refused.

My boyfriend’s financial situation is actually not that bad. He often works during the winter and summer vacations. He earns a lot even if he has no money, so he always spends money lavishly. My boyfriend likes to have fun and spends all his money on eating, drinking and having fun, but he rarely buys things for rabbits, and his dates are always AA.

My boyfriend would rather eat and drink with his friends, drink and sing karaoke, and entertain guests in style, than pay for a rabbit. When I ran out of money, I skipped classes and continued to work part-time. Rabbit himself doesn't care much about this, but other than that, his boyfriend's shortcomings are becoming more and more obvious.

My boyfriend is proud to have many friends of the opposite sex. He proudly told Rabbit that he often video chats with his girlfriends for more than an hour, and the words are ambiguous. The boyfriend says this is a normal joke. Moreover, he has more than one female best friend.

In order to show how generous she was, a female best friend gave Rabbit her unused items as gifts. Rabbit was so angry that he almost blacklisted her.

Rabbit is a traditional girl. She believes that a girl’s first time should be reserved for the wedding night, and she made her attitude clear when the relationship was first established. But later on, the boyfriend always wanted to have a further relationship with Rabbit again and again, even during his period. Fortunately, Rabbit held his ground.

However, the boyfriend suddenly said that after getting married, Rabbit must stay at home to care for his husband and raise children, and cannot go out to work in public. He must give birth to a son and pass on the incense to their family.

During graduation and writing the thesis, Rabbit was so busy that he often stayed up until early in the morning. The number of times he took the initiative to contact his boyfriend gradually became less and less, but he always responded to his boyfriend's messages in time.

However, the boyfriend started to act like a girl. He counted all the times he took the initiative to chat and the number of times he took the initiative to chat with Rabbit, and came to the conclusion that Rabbit didn't care about him at all.

When her boyfriend said this at first, Rabbit felt very guilty, so she took time out to spend time with him no matter how busy she was. But my boyfriend is like grabbing a rabbit by the pigtails. He talks about it over and over again, and he always talks about it when we have a quarrel.

In the end, Rabbit couldn't stand it anymore. When her boyfriend proposed breaking up again, Rabbit simply agreed. Not long after, when the boyfriend saw that Rabbit did not go to him, he regretted it and began to pester him endlessly.

After the breakup, Rabbit did not delete his friends. His ex, who had become a thing of the past, began to struggle. He sent messages and called Rabbit all day long, trying to ask for a reconciliation.

Rabbit begged the other party on the phone to stop pestering him, but his ex made an amazing request: "Because I love you so much, you need to give me a one-year relaxation period. This year You want to eat with me, chat with me, travel with me, and more importantly, I want to go to your house to meet your parents."

The originally soft-hearted Rabbit suddenly exploded and refused firmly. Then, the ex began two years of harassment. After being blocked by Rabbit, my ex changed his account and continued to join, even often blocking Rabbit on the road.

Rabbit thought that his ex really couldn’t let go of him and was very infatuated with him. However, he learned from a friend of the same sex that his ex was having an affair with four or five girls while pestering Rabbit. Qing, even posted on WeChat Moments on May 20, saying that he wanted to have a good time, and the picture was of a couple’s hotel.

Rabbit finally recognized the true face of his ex, and since then he broke up with her and rejected her completely.

Weiguang has been writing emotional articles for so long, and has met many weird people, but this is the first time Weiguang has seen such a "best" person who combines all kinds of "weird points", so, I think You should have a good time with your sisters and briefly analyze the "pits" you need to avoid when looking for a boyfriend in the future.

01. Treating your girlfriend as a nanny

This is a problem that was exposed by Rabbit’s ex from the beginning. Many boys may be a little sloppy. This is normal and understandable. of. But when you invite your new girlfriend to your home for the first time, shouldn’t you just clean it up to make a good impression?

Not only did he not do this, but he gave his girlfriend the key and asked her to come to his house frequently to clean. This shows that he subconsciously believed that it was natural for his girlfriend to help the man with laundry and cleaning.

This is a very dangerous signal. If you let a girl do this not long after the relationship is confirmed, then, sisters, these are your tasks in all the days you are with him in the future, no matter what Is it love or marriage?

If you don’t do simple hygiene by yourself, then your marriage will be destined to be a “widowed marriage”, and he will not share any housework. Remember, your girlfriend is not a nanny, your girlfriend is there to pamper you and love you!

02. Not willing to spend money on his girlfriend

No matter what his family background is, Rabbit’s ex at least seems to be relatively self-reliant. Unfortunately, he loves to squander too much and doesn’t know how to save. Good face.

As the saying goes: money should be spent wisely. In the eyes of Rabbit's ex, the most important place to spend money is to eat, drink and have fun with his friends, and treat guests in a cool and unrestrained way. In fact, it is not sure who is stupid.

The ex would rather squander the money than spend it on Rabbit, and has to go on AA dates, which shows that he believes that the vanity of being sought after is much more important than the affection given by Rabbit.

There is a saying that goes well, a man who spends money for you may not love you, but a man who is not willing to spend money for you will definitely not love you. Some girls don't mind if they are rough-spoken or not, but they have to be discerning.

03. Ambiguity during love

What are girls most afraid of in their boyfriends? The first to bear the brunt is the female best friend. Before you and your boyfriend get together, they have the closest relationship; after you confirm your relationship with your boyfriend, there is no room for two tigers in one mountain, and a man always chooses the person with whom he is most intimate.

It is a partner who can truly spend his life hand in hand with a man and share the responsibility for marriage, reality, pressure, happiness, having children, and supporting the elderly. In order to give his partner enough security I feel that men need to keep a proper distance from their female best friends.

It’s a pity that Rabbit’s ex didn’t understand, but instead took pride in it and engaged in ambiguity openly. When friends of the opposite sex have a partner, friends of the opposite sex should maintain a certain sense of boundaries. This is sufficient respect and a reflection of high emotional intelligence.

04. Sexual openness, but no respect for women

Our country is now very open-minded about "sex". Whether it is premarital sex or cohabitation, society is very open. To a large extent inclusive.

However, we respect other people's "sexually open" ideas, but it does not mean that we must follow the crowd and do the same. It is better for girls to love themselves, and, this Things are enough to see whether the other person is a scumbag in nature.

For someone like Rabbit’s ex, who doesn’t even miss a girl’s menstrual period, she definitely doesn’t feel sorry for her girlfriend, let alone love. Sexual intercourse is not allowed during the menstrual period and early pregnancy. This is very harmful to a girl's body. I hope everyone knows this.

05. Macho chauvinism, patriarchal preference for women

I think it is fortunate that Rabbit’s predecessor showed his traditional chauvinist side in advance, which included forcibly not allowing women to work , I think women should stay at home to support their husbands, serve the elderly, and take care of their children. At the same time, it expresses a strong sense of favoring boys over girls, requiring the birth of a boy, passing incense, etc.

It is already 2020, and it is no longer the last century. Women have their own lives, and they do not have to revolve around their husband’s family.

You are also passing on incense. Do you have a throne in your family that you want to inherit or what?

Warning sisters, men who are pedantic and old-fashioned and still live in the last century must not get married, no matter how much you love them! If you get married in the future, it will be your fault!

06. Too "Xianglin's Wife"

If there are some things or mistakes that have been completely corrected by two people after communication and understanding, don't hold on to the past. Like "Xiang Lin's Wife", repeating a question repeatedly to threaten the other party is moral kidnapping.

If you say it once or twice, the other person will still feel guilty, but if you say it again and again, everyone will get bored. If things go on like this, not to mention the guilt, the love will be wiped out.

Therefore, a shortcoming repeatedly says that this matter is taboo in love, whether it is a boy or a girl. When two people quarrel, just talk about the current issues. Don't always hold on to the past, as it will be annoying.

07. Stalking

We all know the secret to chasing girls: be bold, careful, and thick-skinned. Many people think that as long as they keep pestering, their ex will definitely come back. However, this is only if the other person doesn't hate you, and there is a slight chance that things will turn around.

It is said that "a fierce woman is afraid of pestering a man", but when the other person hates you, no matter how considerate and gentle you are, no matter how long you keep pestering him, the other person will not like you anymore.

A typical case is Zhang Chengcheng in the TV series "An Jia". Zhang Chengcheng cheated on her and his fake divorce with Aunt Xu turned into a real divorce. A co-worker has a bad idea, saying that you will stalk you so that he can get used to you and then he will come back to you.

However, the premise for a habit to become natural is that two people like each other, at least they don't hate each other. However, once the other person starts to hate you, no matter how much you do, it will only push him further and further away.

08. Cast the net wide

There is a saying: Cast the net wide, catch more fish, and choose the best. A simple explanation is to cast the net widely, catch more fish, and select the best ones.

Love is not about finding someone who takes the bait; love is like having three thousand weak water and only taking one gourd to drink it. Does the other person really want to have a serious relationship with you, or does he simply want to flirt with you? Sisters, you must keep your eyes open.

From this point of view, Rabbit’s ex is not really an infatuated person, but he still has “reluctance” and “desire to conquer.”

Hug this reader Rabbit with heartache. To be able to meet such an "excellent ex" who has countless "big pitfalls" in one body, she must have spent the rest of her bad luck on It's up here!

Writer Nuan Xiaotuan once said: "Women strive for three major goals throughout their lives: to make their past boyfriends regretful, to make their current boyfriends amazing, and to make their future boyfriends decent."

Sister Hope We can, while loving ourselves, bypass these "big pits" and find the Mr. Right who is truly destined.