Good news, bad news, which one should be said first?

There is such an interesting topic. If you have good news or bad news, which one should you say first?

Maybe you will ask, is there any difference if you say it first and then say it later? There is a difference. The same thing, said differently, will really produce different effects.

? For example, a general is fighting on the battlefield, but he is always defeated. If he uses "successful defeats" to describe the battle situation, will it make people feel discouraged?

? But if we say that this is "successful defeats", the battle situation is exactly the same, but the meaning is completely different, wouldn't it seem more positive?

Among them, "repeated battles" is good news, representing a brave and fearless spirit, while "repeated defeats" is bad news, representing a situation in which the enemy is strong and we are weak.

? "Repeated battles and repeated defeats" means telling good news first and then bad news. The emphasis is on failure, which will discourage enthusiasm and give people a feeling that they cannot reverse the defeat.

? "Continuous defeats and repeated battles" means telling bad news first and then good news. It emphasizes that even if the battle situation is unfavorable, the courage will not diminish.

? There is also a very classic joke, which is also related to the order in which good and bad news are expressed:

? There was a smoker who went to church for worship. He asked the priest: "Can I Can I smoke while praying?" The priest immediately rejected him: "Of course not!" After a while, he asked the priest again: "Can I pray while smoking?" The priest readily agreed.

? Smoking in this joke means bad news, and praying means good news. It can be seen that telling the bad news first and then the good news amplifies the positivity of the event.

So we can grasp this principle to propose plans, first tell the bad news, then the good news, and use the "bitter first and then sweet" method to make others readily accept our plan.

Teachers are very good at using this method: they usually leave homework first and then announce the holiday tomorrow.

Parents often say this to their children: You finish your homework first, and then I will take you out to play.

Let’s bring this method into a proposal scenario and try to convince others.

Suppose you want to persuade your five-year-old sister to clean up the room with you. You clean up the bedroom while she packs up her toys.

If you want to make a request directly to your sister, she may cry and refuse, or she may take her time and tidy up while playing.

At this time, you can make tidying up the room a part of your plan by using the bitter method first and then the sweet method. Say this to her:

"Sister, let's compete." Come on, I'll clean up the bedroom and be responsible for folding the quilt and sweeping the floor. You can pack all the toys into your storage box. Whoever packs it first will get the remote control!

? If you win the remote control. The remote control will be yours, and you can watch cartoons. If I win, the remote control will be mine, and I will watch variety shows. No cheating."

In this way, it will be yours. Turning something that your sister doesn't want to do into an effort to watch cartoons, turning a request into a plan that can motivate others can increase the chance of persuading others.