The ancients said, "If father and son don't sit at the same table, uncles shouldn't drink." What does that mean? What's the point?

Husband is polite, so make friends, be suspicious, be different, and distinguish right from wrong. -Book of Rites Quli

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Proverbs are not as profound as history books, poems and songs are so charming, and piano, chess and calligraphy are so distinctive, but they are close to life and the masses.

Proverbs can reflect the broad masses of working people's yearning for a better life and people's cognition of life.

Proverbs were formed in the Western Han Dynasty and have a history of thousands of years.

Every time I go back to my hometown, I can always hear the old people in the village saying common sayings, some of which I can understand and some of which I can't understand.

Father and son don't sit at the same table, and uncles don't drink.

At first, I just couldn't understand the meaning of the sentence "Father and son don't sit at the same table, uncles are not serious". It was not until I asked the old people in the village that I understood a little.

This proverb is adapted from the Book of Rites Quli, "Father and son are not at the same table".

Literally, this sentence is: father and son can't eat at the same table, and uncles can't drink opposite each other.

Why were there such taboos in ancient times?

Before talking about this issue, we must start with the drinking culture in China. In modern society, many people like drinking, especially in their free time on weekends. Sit down and have a drink. It's very artistic. With the continuous development, there is now a wine table culture, and what everyone generally knows is the seating on the wine table.

Father and son are not at the same table.

In normal life, each of us should have experienced it. When a large family goes out to eat, there is always a table for children and women and a table for men. The reason why I don't sit at the same table is mainly because I am afraid to instill the concept of "drinking" in my children. Once this idea is instilled in them, the child has poor self-control and is prone to accidents, which is not good for him at all.

So how do you explain that father and son are not at the same table? Many people should understand it as seniority, but it actually means something else. As the head of the family, the father must be dignified, so that the children will respect and admire you. If the child and the father sit at the same table, once the father gets drunk or makes a fool of himself on the wine table, the father's position in the child's heart will be greatly reduced, which is not conducive to the child's growth.

At present, children can't sit at a table with adults, but when they grow up, children can sit at a table with their fathers, at least in our side.

Uncle is not drinking right.

Although this relationship is close, it should be orderly. If two people drink, it is inevitable that they will talk nonsense when they are drunk. We can often see uncles and nephews calling each other brothers online, which will make people laugh and make each other feel embarrassed after waking up.

In fact, this sentence is the same as the previous one, which not only illustrates the problem of seniority, but also illustrates a person's majesty. When an elder drinks a little wine, he will be called a younger brother. Where is your majesty? Will the younger generation still take you seriously?

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Since ancient times, many things have changed, but some etiquette has not changed, that is, the order of respecting the elderly.

The purpose of saying this proverb today is, of course, not only to make people pay attention to manners, but also to hope that people can pay attention to moderate drinking and not do things they shouldn't do, which will bring unnecessary influence to others.

It must be said that our ancestors were still very wise, and the truth contained in some proverbs is also worth pondering.