How to pursue the person you like when you meet the right girl at work?

How to pursue the person you like when you meet the right girl at work? Recently, a friend asked me privately, and my girlfriend said that he was not considerate. What should I do to be mature and considerate?

How to become mature in the process of chasing girls is a very serious problem. If you search online, you will see many posts and topics like "Never marry an immature man". Of course, maturity is a long process and cannot be achieved overnight. However, there are some operational little things that can enhance your "maturity and thoughtfulness" in the other person's mind.

Tango, a well-known pick-up girl, mentioned it in Bad Boys Teach You How to Attract Girls on a First Date. First, be a gentleman. For example, open the door for the lady, move the chair for the lady while sitting, and so on. These actions reflect your upbringing and how hierarchical you are in the process of chasing girls. These gentlemanly manners are appropriate in any situation and can be shown at any time: whether it is a first date or in a long-term and stable relationship. In the eyes of girlfriends, this gentlemanly demeanor is not only considerate, but also shows others the high value of boyfriends, which is naturally useful.

Secondly, it is always right to ask more questions and remind more. When ordering in a restaurant, ask the other person, do you eat spicy food? Are there any taboos? You can't go alone. If you want to buy a girl a drink, you should ask her. Do you want something cold? After all, women have inconvenient times every month. If you buy a hot drink, remind the other party: be careful. It should be noted here that if it is a long-term relationship, please try to remember each other's likes and dislikes: no spicy food, no seafood, no internal organs; Such as sweets, such as cheese, and so on. If you ask your girlfriend if she eats spicy food every time, your girlfriend will think that you don't care about her at all; On the contrary, if you show that you remember each other's likes and dislikes when ordering food, for example, you prefer fish to spicy food, how about a steamed fish instead of boiled fish? That will definitely make the other person feel that you attach great importance to her and make her happy. What is said in this paragraph applies to all social occasions, for girlfriends, colleagues, family members and relatives. Finally, in order to avoid dogmatism, I remind you again: 1. Ask more questions, ask what you don't know, and don't always ask questions unless you have to (for example, ask girls if they want iced drinks in summer). If you can't remember it after asking it many times, that's your problem. 2. More reminders are reminders of the reminder, not nagging.

Third, have an eye for children. This is Beijing dialect, that is, knowing that others are in trouble and offering to help (inaccurate). Whether the other party has difficulties, although subjective judgment is needed in the process of chasing girls, I think it is not difficult to push others myself. If the other person takes a lot of things, take the initiative to share; When the other person brings the food to the table, you should move the plate ahead of time to make room. Don't wait for the other person to bring it to the table before grabbing it. Of course, there are different ways to help each other. For example, girls carry a bag in their hands, and because it is not heavy, they all carry it by themselves. That's when you find your opponent's shoelaces open. What you can do is, 1. Take the initiative to remind the other party that the shoelaces are open, and take the initiative to take over the other party's things and let the other party tie their shoelaces. 2. Prompt the other person that the shoelace is open, let the other person stop and kneel down to tie it. 1 is the most commonly used situation, whether with girlfriends, colleagues or friends, men or women. It shows your thoughtfulness and love. For your girlfriend and the rising opposite sex, you can greatly increase their affection for you, but for ordinary colleagues of the opposite sex or the opposite sex they just met, doing so may make them feel too close and uncomfortable.

Fourth, show your consideration for each other. For example, "it's so hot, I brought you a bottle of water"; "You have been running for a long time. Are you hungry? I brought you some snacks "; Or "I'm tired of wearing high heels, so I won't go. I'll take a taxi here." These details can touch each other. I once read a post saying that girls can be moved by buying a hot drink for girls in winter, and then putting two layers of napkins outside the drink cup to remind girls to be careful when ironing the cup. This move reflects the consideration for the other party, as well as the consideration and gentleness as a man, thus winning the favor of the other party. The key is to say "I did it for you". "I was afraid you were hungry, so I bought some snacks on the way" is much warmer than "I just bought some snacks on the way, if you are hungry, please eat".

Fifth, don't blame. Tango, a spice girl, mentioned in "Bad Boys Teach You How to Attract Girls on a First Date" that many people are used to chatting with cheap friends, and when they are with their girlfriends, they always say "You are stupid/you are stupid, you won't". If the relationship between the two sides is equal and belongs to the relationship of lovers who can joke with each other, it is not a big problem to say so. However, when there is a clear gap between the two sides in age or values, this is undoubtedly a kind of repression and will bring great psychological pressure to each other. In fact, many times, there is no need to say anything, just help each other do it right. I was with a good friend and met a new thing that I didn't understand for a long time. Ordinary people will say, "Why are you so stupid? First, then, isn't it ok? " Not yet, fool. Give it to me and I'll get it for you. "As a good friend, it is normal for him to say so. But all he did was silently take something from my hand and hand it back to me when he was done. I have forgotten what I played, but I remember his actions deeply, which makes me feel that he is very mature and generous. Later, I observed that the same was true in his relationship with his girlfriend (now his wife). He always corrects the little things that the other party has done wrong (things are not put right, things are taken upside down, or things can't be played), and he never says "You are so stupid" as a joke. However, this does not mean that he is not joking, but in his eyes, it is meaningless to joke about these boring little things. Of course, you can't say "you are so stupid" as a joke, let alone really blame each other.

How to pursue the girl you like? I am a girl. I am disgusted to see that some boys want to chase girls who they like but dare not chase, and want others to chase them backwards.

From a girl's point of view, I know more about girls' psychology. Most girls don't take the initiative to pursue the boys they like, unless they really like them too much or are the kind of girls who are very brave and brave. So, if you like a girl very much and think she is a little interested in you, take the initiative and don't engage in a tug-of-war with her, you will feel uncomfortable. Maybe the person you like will also suffer.

When girls are being chased, their psychology is very complicated. She may be happy, but she is a little scared. She has ambivalence towards the boy who intruded into her quiet life. She didn't mean to. Don't think she is testing you, but she is actually fighting herself. She is afraid of getting hurt.

Don't be afraid that your initiative will bring her disgust. If you don't take the initiative, she won't take the initiative, and it will fade slowly. It's normal if your initial confession is rejected by her. Don't be discouraged, who knows what this girl is thinking?

Maybe if you confess twice, she will be moved by you. A good girl with a kind heart is easily moved.

If you encounter setbacks, leave immediately, never reply to this girl again, protect yourself tightly and lick the wound silently. And when you are in pain, as everyone knows, that girl may be regretting, regretting! Maybe she will secretly cry and regret rejecting you, and then she will be sad to see your indifferent eyes, but she won't tell you, and she will never let you come back to chase her. Your excessive self-esteem may hurt a girl's sensitive heart.

She will think that you don't really like him, otherwise how could you just give her up?

Some people say that it is really difficult for boys and it is not easy to chase girls. But my feeling is that this phenomenon is inseparable from the social role orientation of men and women. From a physiological and social point of view, women are always passive. If, on the other hand, men are ashamed and women are brave, the world will be in a mess! Women's shyness is always beautiful ~ ~ ~ I always hear that a brave man overcame many difficulties and finally won the heart of a beautiful woman. There are few examples to the contrary.

Some boys are afraid that others will say that they are dead and pester them to fight, leaving a bad reputation. But I think boys pursue the girl they like and continue to be nice to this girl after encountering some setbacks, which shows that people really like it and are sincere. If it doesn't work, there's nothing to regret. It's nothing. Who makes people like it? I hate people blindly following me, and I hate boys who have no opinions and care too much about what others think of them. They deserve not to find a girlfriend.

If you are a man, be brave. Girls are emotional and easily immersed in love. Although you work hard, once your heart touches her, you will get more and more love. Such examples abound around us. Girls are gentle and considerate to their boyfriends. What was the sweetness of the original hard work? And most good girls are devoted and single-minded.

First, what kind of first impression should I leave on MM (time: I just started to contact MM)

1, I think the most important thing is to let MM see your self-motivated.

The greatest charm of a man lies in his successful career. Young people can't be "successful" if they don't work long hours. At this time, you should make MM feel that you are a self-motivated person.

Others can talk nonsense, but this question cannot be vague. You must tell MM that you are full of confidence in the future, that you are not satisfied with the status quo, and that you have a long-term plan. In a word, your future is not a dream.

2. Be confident and responsible.

Don't be a child. Girls are lazy and want to find someone to rely on. You should show your confidence and sense of responsibility.

It's better to have a wrong choice than no choice at all.

Not too formal, but not too casual.

Where it is serious, it is serious. It's funny when it's funny.

Girls like men who are a little cynical, so it seems that they don't care about anything, which is too dull.

Step 4 look mature

A leisurely man has fatal attraction to mm.

Second, how to further contact MM (time: the stage of starting to chase)

1, the most important thing at this stage is not to worry, not to make things so clear that people can see at a glance that you are chasing others.

Think about it. Most people don't like you at first sight, but they don't hate you at first sight. They are all children of ordinary people (unless you look like Chow Yun Fat, Andy Lau or kevin costner). Good feelings need to be realized through constant understanding, so the key to the problem is the opportunity for further development you want.

Think about it from the girl's point of view: if you rush directly to have sex, the girl must be under psychological pressure. If I find that I don't like you after a while, it won't be a lie, will it? So if you start with ambition,

When you come out with a winning attitude, you will basically be bored back immediately.

Step 2 start with a low profile

First of all, we should position the relationship as a "friend", which is originally an "ordinary friend". You want to be a "good friend". Those with taste can also ask the other party to be a "confidante" or something. In short, don't say "chasing you".

Think about it, if you don't mention "chasing" at all, then there is less chance for a girl to "refuse" you-how can you refuse if you don't chase her? !

This can relieve the psychological pressure of girls and let you have a smooth relationship. Don't fantasize about agreeing to marry you after three days. You should communicate fully and understand that feelings don't come out of thin air.

Don't be too impatient in the process of communication.

Relax and don't pester others all day. Anyone who does this to you will get tired of it. A good friend of mine told me that the key to chasing girls is eight words-"hot and cold, playing hard to get" (this is the crystallization of my classmates' efforts for many years).

Staying with people all day, naturally you won't think you are good. If you are indifferent for a day or two, girls will remember the benefits of your existence.

Also, don't show the ambition of "you don't want to marry". It is not good for the price to drop too low. Sometimes you can play a little trick.

4. Create opportunities appropriately.

I said before, don't turn things into "you are chasing others" right away, you need to get close to girls. At this time, it depends on your creativity.

You can collect information and find ways to turn waiting for rabbits into encounters; You can also pretend to be casual and find the best reason to invite someone to do something with you.

In short, this is the most technical place. If it is really not feasible, you can consult your predecessors.

5. Never: It is impolite to give gifts to others casually.

Some people are eager to chase girls and like to buy things for others often, but they don't know that chasing girls is the most taboo.

As the saying goes, "something for nothing". You are putting pressure on others by giving them something like this. People will feel indebted to you, so they will try to repay you. If there is no way to pay you back, they will try to stay away from you so as not to owe you a favor all the time.

If you want to show your sincerity, please invite girls to spend money together, such as finding a good restaurant to eat or an expensive place to play together. Girls can naturally see that you spent a lot of money, but after all, the money was spent by two people, not taken home.

Third, what is a "girlfriend"?

1, "girlfriend" is a fact, not a promise.

You start dating girls, from "ordinary friends" to "good friends" to "very, very good friends who talk about everything". On a sunny afternoon, you "accidentally" held her hand; In "Willow Shoot on the Moon", you suddenly attack and kiss her. At this time, she is already your girlfriend. Whether she admits it or not, she already thinks you are her boyfriend.

I know the best. I didn't ask "Would you like to be my girlfriend" until I went to bed. Finally, the girl was anxious: "Why don't you ask me to be your girlfriend!" "

So, don't rush to pierce enough paper, the more hazy the situation, the better for you.

2. What is "confession"?

As I said before, confession is actually just a form, and the correct order should be: in fact, you have become your girlfriend, and you can confess to others. Many people don't understand this problem, and always feel that people promise to be their girlfriends first, and then what? I can only say.

He is very, very "simple" and very, very "stupid".

3. Have you ever had to confess?

Yes, for example, there is a third party, or your relationship with a girl is immature, but two people may be separated for a while.

At this time, confession is an immature confession, which is very risky. It is similar to the grim situation when playing Go. The backward side was forced to release the "winning hand". If you win, you win. If you lose, you can only say that you are born with bad luck.

4. Don't export the word "love" easily.

I often see a "bold confession" in the forum. To be honest, I really think this is a very immature performance. "Love" is a sacred word, which means pursuit, commitment and even a responsibility.

A man who casually says "love" is irresponsible.

Fourth, civilized love cannot be forced.

1, not every MM can catch up.

There will always be many people chasing good girls, and it is impossible to satisfy everyone's wishes. There will always be losers. For example, even if you study hard and master the principle of chasing MM, you can't catch up with either twin.

Look at the problem from another angle. Even if a rural nanny who has never graduated from primary school is kind to you, earning 600 yuan a month and buying you 700 yuan as a gift (overdraft), and willing to be a cow and a horse for you, you will not fall in love with her. If she cries and pesters you every day, you must feel bored.

So love needs a material foundation, at least a balance.

2. Chasing MM is a serious social activity.

Don't bother others, leave yourself a way out. Why don't men have wives? Some MMS are snobs (few). If you are not convinced, you can prove with facts that "she was blind at that time". Never mistake others for yourself.

Finally, don't be cynical in front of MM, cynicism sometimes means "you are a loser".

Therefore, it is suggested that some boys be brave and pursue the girls they like, instead of being so timid. One is that people think you are unmanly, and the other is that you feel uncomfortable. But, most importantly, you get nothing in the end. Happiness is always earned by yourself, don't expect others to give it to you!

By the way, I think it's good to take the initiative, because your goal is what you really like. Girls are often passive and can only choose to accept and refuse, so I would rather take the initiative and love what I love without regrets!

How to pursue a girl you like! First of all, chasing girls and girls chasing you, you should follow a principle, that is, whether the two sides like it or not, landlord, if one of the two people is not sincere, then this relationship will end from the beginning. One way to keep changing is not to be impatient when you like a girl. The first thing to do is to find a way to make her like you.

Excuse me, how to find a girl you like? Dear friends, I don't understand the emotional world of you young people. All I know is that my wife and I have deep feelings. /kloc-I was deeply attracted to my wife when I met her 0/5 years ago. After so many years, our feelings are stronger than gold, our love remains the same, and our tacit understanding remains the same. Let me see how I found my wife. It seems that I am hungry in the middle of the night and want to go out to buy a snack. As a result, I met him in the elevator, which was amazing, so it was predestined. Young man, I wish you good luck and always accompany you!

How to pursue a girl you like, a big principle is to always appear in front of the other person intentionally or unintentionally to show your good feelings for him, but don't show too much intimacy, so that he can always feel your existence. For example, if the other person has a xx mobile phone or likes a particularly weird pet, you might as well go to Baidu Post Bar from time to time to see the relevant information, and then discuss the relevant content with him every once in a while. This is an important principle for ordinary salespeople to do sales, so that the other party can feel your existence and think of you first when meeting any needs (when looking for someone to chat or share interesting things).

Some people say that this is a common phenomenon among ordinary friends, not the privacy between couples. Then why did you do it? In fact, this is just to create contact opportunities. In the city, the most important thing is access. The more opportunities for contact, the more turtles and horses can see each other correctly. But if he is unmoved, does not take the initiative to contact you, does not take the initiative to reply to you, you are probably not his type. The probability of this catch-up has dropped to 40%. We need more action-oriented dialogue.

For example, on holidays, you should send him a message to say hello. Give a simple example: "This message is sent to the bad guys who didn't take the initiative to say hello to me during this important festival. Well, although you haven't made a mistake, I still generously wish you a happy holiday. " Come on, put your appeal in a joke. The point of 1 is to make people see that it's a mass mailing, and the point of 2 is to arouse the guilt of the other party. In this way, you can go in or out. If he's interested in you, he should hit the snake with the stick.

Next, you need to find a reason to contact him from time to time. For example, if he has a car, you can text him and ask him if he knows where to go. You can thank him when you get the answer. People are curious. If they are curious twice, they will always be curious and ask you for an explanation. You can say, "A friend of mine asked me how to get to the xx restaurant. I don't know, but I think you should be familiar with the road when driving, so I ask you. " 1 focuses on making him feel happy, and 2 focuses on satisfying his psychology of helping the weak. At the same time, it is also an opportunity to create a little favor between you, whether it is to thank him for inviting him to dinner or to celebrate the success of dinner.

Similarly, there are computers ... well, even a woman as smart as me who can operate a water heater will often be at a loss when the computer goes wrong. It is natural to ask a boy for help when there is something wrong with the computer. To this end, please protect your important information first, and then click on the virus link sent to you by others. Show your helplessness and weakness as much as possible, and he will definitely lend you a shoulder to lean on.

On the other hand, you should constantly create a topic around him and let him catch the ball you throw. Even if he is not very interested, you can continue to motivate. For example, Doritos. Around a bag of Doritos, there are five dialogues for your reference:

1. I ate the kind of cornflakes that you often eat the other day. It's really delicious. What's its name again? Ha, I told you I remember correctly. What's the spelling in English? Wow, I won the bet! Bet on what? I'll tell you another day ~ …

I actually won a pack of Doritos in the supermarket lottery yesterday, but I don't like the smell very much. Shall I bring it to you tomorrow? Don't give verbal thanks, but take practical actions? Seriously, I want to change the mouse. Can you help me? ……

It is said that Doritos is now voting for the speaker. I think you can try! Why can I try? ) I think you have always had a personality, and what you often say is also very interesting! (Thank you [feeling refreshed]) I saw a player talking like you. (oh? )……

Today, I quarreled with a friend. I said cornflakes were delicious, but he insisted that potato chips were delicious. Which one do you think is delicious? Ha, you are the fifth person I have collected who thinks cornflakes are delicious. Thank you. I'll send you a bag next time to show my encouragement! ……

I read in the book today that Aries people like to eat cornflakes. Do you like them too? (Yes) But it says that Aries people are more likely to get fat? (no! I am not fat, and many of my Aries friends are not fat. It seems that you are the only Aries among my friends. I don't know about other Aries, I feel that Aries is very mysterious! (Yes, we Aries &; *%%$#……)……

The focus of the conversation is whether there is anything wrong. Arouse each other's curiosity, but don't put too much pressure on each other, or even be reasonable. For example, the other day I dreamed that you were sweeping the street. If he asks you for details, just say a few words casually, and then sell it on the matter, saying, I don't know. I'll tell you next time I meet you.

In this way, in his mind, you have made a sign of "See you next time" and added two more similar conversations. For example, I went home last week and met my best friend in elementary school. Her husband looks like you. Or: I mistook others for you in the street the other day. It's embarrassing. He has to ask you out.

We often talk like this, but he still doesn't ask you out? Then wake up, because the reason is natural, and the points are artificial. You two have neither "fate" nor "separation". He is not stupid, but he can't reciprocate your friendship, so he has to play dumb.

How to find a girl you like? When you see her, you will have a wonderful feeling that you like her. When you wait for someone to call for a long time, you like her. When you see her happy, you will wish her happiness forever. When she is unhappy, you will bear it silently with her. Find according to this.

About how to pursue the girl you like. She can have anything she likes. It depends on what she likes. In addition, be sincere. It's best to look at fate.