The complete collection of interesting things said at the wedding

Readers who are familiar with me may know that I seldom mention this topic, not because I am not interested, nor because it is not worth talking about, but because I feel a sore throat when I think about it.

Yes, it's like a fishbone stuck in my throat. I can't swallow it or spit it out. To put it bluntly, I just feel sick.

However, what I find disgusting is not the quarrel between husband and wife itself, but the attitude of some people towards it.

Remember the incident that my father-in-law picked up ashes a few years ago. At that time, there was a lot of noise, and it was a smash hit on the Internet, which also made me remember it vividly and never forget it.

In the video, the father-in-law, egged on by the guests, made a very rude move to his daughter-in-law on the stage of the wedding banquet, which can be said to be shocking.

Obviously, the bride is the victim. It was ridiculous from the beginning. After it was exposed, some comments on the Internet were even more frightening than this incredible event.

Most of these remarks are a severe condemnation of the activity of marriage, which speaks for women and promotes positive energy, but there are still some, some bad voices mixed in.

They think it is a traditional wedding custom to get married for fun. Getting married for fun is more festive and blessed. Even if it is out of line, forgive it on the big day.

People who take this matter too seriously are too serious to make jokes. This is an attitude they should not have.

Every time I hear such remarks, everyone can't help but want to vomit his face. Fuck the joke!

What's so funny? If both sides find it funny, it is a joke. If you think it's funny and the other person doesn't, then your so-called sense of humor is just wishful thinking.

If the other person is not only not amused, but also annoyed, then I'm sorry, your joke can only prove that you are bad and low-level, that's all.

About half a year ago, I once listened to a reader's conversation. Shortly after the marriage, she came to talk to me about some bad things that happened on the wedding day.

"I got married for the first time and have no experience. I didn't know I would meet that kind of emergency. I didn't even think about it beforehand. There may be something really wrong with my handling, but that's my temper. I really couldn't stand it at that time. I was angry and made something like that. I regretted it later.

But I don't regret my impulsive mistake, but feel wronged for myself. I feel really weak and timid. I am really weak. Why didn't I put everything in order then? I feel uncomfortable when I think about it, and I can't breathe. "

The reader's name is Zhou Han (a pseudonym). What happened on her wedding day that made her so unwilling? I was shocked when she told me.

"Well, actually, at my own wedding reception, I hit people in front of all my relatives ..."

Zhou Han and her husband talked about getting married. Ten years ago, when her husband was in elementary school, Zhou Han's in-laws went to the local area to do business. Later, they bought a house in the local area, moved their family to the local area and moved their hukou. Now they are considered as justified locals.

Although relatives and friends are in their hometown, Zhou Han's husband's family has taken root in the local area and will definitely not go back. Therefore, when Zhou Han and her husband fell in love, Zhou Han's parents were not satisfied, but they didn't stop them. They developed their relationship freely.

"My parents didn't agree at first. They think my in-laws are not local, and their living habits and customs are different. Friction will inevitably occur in the future. At that time, I felt that my parents just wore colored glasses. They always want me to find a local and look down on my husband's family.

You can't blame me for thinking so. My mother once said that my in-laws had a strange accent, which sounded particularly rustic. I scolded my mother at that time and told her to stop saying anything.

But I didn't think later that my parents might have a problem with their expression, but they were right ... "Later, Zhou Han and her husband talked about marriage, and Zhou Han's family didn't want it very much, and they were very accommodating. After all, Zhou Han's pre-marital conditions are very good, and of course her husband's conditions are not bad. In terms of material conditions, the two families did not care too much. They soon talked about marriage and booked a wedding date until the wedding day.

"Their relatives over there are not local. Basically, I haven't seen many before marriage. We didn't formally meet until our wedding day. Only then did I find out that the wedding atmosphere in their family was really tough.

There is basically no marriage in my family. At least I haven't heard of any marriage around me for 26 years. At most, it is not too much to make a noise to please your parents-in-law. But their relatives can really fight, thinking about the torture of the law.

To be honest, I don't want everyone to be happy when I get married. As long as it's not too much, I will put up with it. If I can't bear it, I will refuse it directly. Most of my relatives over there will still be a little concerned about their children. I don't want to be cold-faced, and I won't push my nose and face again. However, there are still some ungrateful people, and I really can't be polite to him!

At the wedding reception that day, my husband's second cousin, in his thirties, had no serious job and was glib. After drinking a few more drinks at the wedding banquet, he began to speak with an unknown address, insisted on picking up my husband and me, and encouraged others to live together at night and make trouble in the bridal chamber.

I really can't say what he said. What I said depends on me sleeping with my husband and making a video or something. What I said is quite elegant. His original words were simply unbearable, and he was still laughing when he said them. I really can't stand it. At that time, I directly rejected him, saying that our family had no habit of having a bridal chamber here.

My attitude at that time was very clear, but he was still very affectionate there, saying that if I got married as their daughter-in-law, I would have to do it according to their customs.

Then I was speechless. I couldn't get through to him, so I ignored him. But when he saw that I was unhappy, he came to provoke me and asked me if I was angry, and he said it loudly. He also complained that I was too angry, saying that how can I be angry on a big day, mixed with some vulgar jokes.

His endless chatter really annoys me completely, and I can't hide it. I went up and slapped him in the face and told him not to be angry on his big day. I'll give it back to you now, but it's no fun if you're angry.

My husband and in-laws saw it from beginning to end and didn't help me before. After I beat people up, they came to scold me in front of each other and asked me to apologize to my second cousin.

I really wanted to scold my husband and in-laws, but I held back, but let me apologize. I just ignored it all and went to my parents, leaving the rest alone.

But because of this incident, my in-laws seem to have been unhappy, and intentionally or unintentionally mentioned that they lost face at the wedding. I don't know. Every time I hear it, it makes me feel good. Obviously, this is not my fault. They have to blame me. Me, too. I don't want to divorce like this. I don't want to make trouble at home. I really dare not argue with them. I only dare to be cruel to unimportant people. Square face, am I a special failure? "

What happened in Zhou Han reminds me of an article I wrote about marriage. Both relatives know that the bride is pregnant and married. As a result, she was persuaded by that boyfriend. No matter how the bride shirks, the girl is forced to submit by "don't give me face if I don't drink", and her husband's family is also proud. Finally, she helped persuade the bride to lick and dress. Don't make too much noise.

That bride is really brave and strong. If it were someone else, she might be reluctant under heavy pressure. If she worries about the children again, she will still pretend to have a drink, or she will take risks to win back face for her husband's family.

But she didn't. She didn't drink at last, not only didn't drink, but also spilled the wine on the face of the busybody. Not only that, but the husband's family did not escape responsibility as an accomplice. Seeing the character of the man's family, the girl decided to divorce and run away from the family that didn't respect her.

Zhou Han said she was too weak to challenge her husband's family, but she only dared to challenge an insignificant person, but I think she was brave enough.

Zhou Han's husband's cousin told Zhou Han a vulgar joke at the wedding because she was a relative of the man. Zhou Han's husband's family saw this humiliating situation, but didn't come to save her. Zhou Han didn't dare to make a fire in her heart, but she just punished the perpetrator and spared the accomplice. What she did was really not as decisive as the bride who immediately decided to divorce, but not everyone could stop the loss in time regardless of the consequences. This is enough for Zhou Han.

She has proved to her husband's family with her own attitude that she is not a soft persimmon and will not be held hostage. She will not submit to humiliation when she is wronged, but will resist when she is bullied, so that her husband knows that she is not easy to provoke. Although I don't know what happened to her, I don't think she will be wronged compared with her life in her husband's family.

Not only that, but she really suppressed the arrogance of the troublemakers with her own attitude. Some people just regard a "big day" as a universal shield. No matter what they do, as long as they say this sentence, the other party can't get angry or get angry.

To put it bluntly, they feel in their hearts that I can give you face when you get married. You have to make me happy, make me obedient and make me unhappy and uncomfortable. That's your responsibility and fault. This is naked moral kidnapping. But even though everyone knows that this is a moral kidnapping, it is surprisingly easy to use, because many people are too proud to be unhappy in their own wedding date. Most of the time, they just smile and endure, and let nature take its course.

It is this kind of psychology that makes some people's attitudes more arrogant, even worse, and they don't know how to converge.

To make this behavior disappear completely, I think the first thing to be eliminated is not the one who supports the marriage, but the one who acquiesces in it.

Only when there is no connivance, no silence, and only when you stand up and loudly reprimand and stop, the behavior of marriage will really die out.