Help the boss. I ate half my meal. The boss invited me to dinner. Say that many dishes can't be eaten. I was called halfway. Is it normal for the boss to do this?

Liu, the leader of Xiao Wang, is a famous social worker in the company. Xiao Wang, who just joined the company, became the secretary of General Liu, which made many people envious.

On one occasion, Xiao Wang followed General Liu to a banquet to discuss business. After dinner 10 minutes, Mr. Liu asked her to rush the food. Xiao Wang was puzzled and said, "Teacher Liu, the speed of serving seems to be ok. Can I do it later? " Mr. Liu didn't say anything to the opposite customer, but since then, Mr. Liu has never taken her to dinner parties. ...

China people's wine table culture is really profound, and there are all kinds of argots and hidden rules. As a professional, especially as an administrative secretary and assistant manager, you need to know what the leader means when you accompany him to eat and drink, such as "buy me a pack of cigarettes or rush food". Don't do stupid things and ruin your career.

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First, the leader asked you to make vegetables or buy cigarettes. There may be something important that needs to be said to the guests alone.

Halfway through the dinner, the leaders and guests also chatted, and the two sides gradually transitioned from greeting to discussing important business issues. At this time, the leader suddenly said to you, "Xiao Wang, go outside and help me with the dishes."

As a secretary at this time, do you understand the subtext behind the leadership?

Secretary A: I didn't know that the leader wanted to talk to the guests about confidentiality in the previous session, so I went out to rush the food. I really went to rush the food and came back in less than two minutes. The leader was very unhappy. The leader said, "Help me go out and buy a pack of cigarettes." At this time, Secretary A was still very upset and thought: Why didn't the leaders sleep together just now? I have to run twice!

Secretary B: From the beginning of the dinner, I carefully observed the conversation routine between the leader and the guests, and found that after greeting, when the leader was ready to talk about important details with the other party, he wanted to go out and urge the food, so he left very carefully! At this time, Secretary B may have urged the food, but she didn't come back in time. 10 minutes later, B noticed at the door that both the leader and the guests looked relaxed and didn't talk seriously. B returned to the box and said shyly, "Sorry, I went to the bathroom, and the food has been urged." Hearing this, the leader quickly said, "Nothing, sit down and eat." The colleague leader smiled and was very satisfied with the secretary.

After reading the comparison between secretaries A and B, what do you find?

Obviously, Secretary B's EQ is much higher than Secretary A's, and she has a clear idea of the leader. Such a secretary is more likely to win the trust and favor of the leader, and the probability of promotion and salary increase in the future is also greater.

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Second, the leader asked you to wash vegetables or buy cigarettes, perhaps just to meet the needs of the guests.

In some cases, leaders will make such a request, which may be just the need of the situation.

For example, a few minutes after the wine table was seated, the leader found that the food in this restaurant had not been served yet, so he could only accompany the guests to drink tea, and the wine could not be dried directly (in most cases, drinking needs to wait until after serving).

So the leader will ask you: "Xiao Wang, hurry to wash the vegetables."

When the leader said this, he also showed a kind of concern and attention in front of the guests, meaning "I was afraid that you were hungry, so I sent someone to rush you."

For another example, the leader knows that an important guest likes smoking at ordinary times, but he forgot to bring cigarettes when he went out, so he had to whisper to you, "Xiao Wang, go and buy me two packs of cigarettes."

For leaders who love smoking, this kind of thing may be more important than eating.

As a secretary or a subordinate, if you don't understand the temper and habits of the leader, then it's hard for you to understand why the leader will let you do such a thing.

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Third, it may be a test for you if the leader asks you to wash vegetables or buy cigarettes.

At the important banquet, as a new subordinate employee, you are led by the leader to attend.

Halfway through the meal, the leader suddenly said, "Xiao Wang, help me buy a pack of cigarettes!" " "

One of your new employees panicked when he heard the leader say this, thinking: I don't know what kind of cigarettes the leader likes to smoke, and I don't know where to buy cigarettes. What should I do?

At this time, the leader is secretly observing your expression and reaction.

If you stammer and ask him: Leader, what brand of cigarettes should I buy? Where can I buy it?

I don't think the leader will be very comfortable. He will think that this subordinate usually doesn't pay attention to my smoking and lacks independent ability! I am afraid that embarrassment will be of great use in the future.

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How to solve this problem at this time?

First, it is best to pay attention to the brand that leaders usually smoke. If you don't remember, you can ask an old employee who is familiar with leadership habits on the spot. If not, you can call people around the leader to ask. Attention, try not to ask the leader himself directly, because the leader is still receiving guests. You should ask the leader for instructions on such a small matter, which shows that you have no ability to think and solve problems independently!

Secondly, the quickest way to buy cigarettes is to ask the hotel front desk or manager directly. They must be more familiar with it. Maybe there are some in the hotel. What we need to understand is that this matter can't be delayed for too long, otherwise the leader will probably think that you are incompetent.

Ladies and gentlemen, what do you think of the topic that the leader asked you to grab food or buy cigarettes at the dinner? Welcome to share your opinions.