What do you think of parents working for their sons to pay off debts, and daughter-in-law has savings but doesn't help pay off debts?

This pair of parents are respectable and pitiful types. The old couple made two mistakes. One is that they overreached and married their son with great fanfare. They don't know how much they weigh. As a result, they were in debt. The other is that since you want to have a face, you must make up yourself. Daughter-in-law has no obligation to help you pay this debt, you have to pay it yourself.

We can know that the old couple are working, and they owe 6.5438+0.5 million yuan for their son's marriage. In other words, they have nothing except spending a lot of money on their son's marriage. They have gained face and suffered physically, which is not worthy of sympathy. As the saying goes, the old couple obviously don't know the size of their ass.

There is nothing wrong with working to pay off debts in order to save face. It is difficult to buy money, but it seems that they are out of balance. Why don't their daughter-in-law pay her debts when she has money? Can we ask questions, too Why should your daughter-in-law help you pay your debts? The old couple obviously miscalculated. This is their old debt, which has nothing to do with the small one.

Sometimes the old couple really don't understand. How much are our faces worth? Why do you have to do everything beyond your ability and die for face and pain? In fact, I really deserve it, and I really can't get sympathy.

I feel that my situation is similar. Husband's parents also bought a new house for the down payment. The down payment is 700,000, and the principal owed to the bank plus interest is 2 million, which is an astronomical figure for me. I never thought about buying a house in my life, because my mother's family prepared a small suite of 90 square meters for me, and my husband's family didn't know. My brother said to keep it as a backup in case I have a bad life.

After getting married, I heard from my husband and in-laws that we should pay back the mortgage in the future, and the key house only has my husband's name. He also told me that he wanted to add the names of me and my mother-in-law, but because the mortgage was not paid off, he was not allowed to add names. He also said that he would definitely add my name when he paid off.

I am a rational and principled person. I don't think I can trust such an oral examination. I told my husband that I am pregnant now. Your monthly salary is 4400, which is only enough for gas and my living expenses. With a monthly mortgage of more than 5,000 yuan, it is impossible for you and me to help. Even if the child is born and I go out to work, the combined salary of the two of us is only enough to support you, me and my children, so whoever buys this mortgage will pay it back. You can't change my mind. If the house is sold, it will be mine.

Then my mother-in-law found out and refused to sell the house anyway, saying that she and my father-in-law would try to get a mortgage. My mother-in-law does manual labor at home, 3000 yuan a month, and my public van is guaranteed 1.500 a month. Buying a house is not easy. In my husband's village, only two or three families bought houses in the city.

We got married in June this year. 1 1. My husband looked married and asked me to pay the property management fee half a month ago One * * * is five thousand. I know I can't let go. I'll get used to it as soon as I open it. Resolutely refused, on the grounds that the new house has not been renovated, and even the light bulb has not been turned on, I have to pay. I am pregnant with a child and have no income. What should I do if something happens to my child in the future and you have no savings? Two people had a quarrel. I was so excited that I had a nosebleed and scared him. I haven't mentioned it since.

I think women should be selfish sometimes. Of course, if we all have no money, we can't open a pot at home, and I can't watch my in-laws starve to death. It's just not yet. I have to think about my children.

It's nothing. My husband paid back all the money I borrowed to buy a house and decorate it just before I got married, and gave her more than 10 thousand and 20 thousand every time I went back to my mother-in-law's house. When we got married, we didn't give me a bride price or anything, so we bought a car and wrote my name (my husband can't drive). My husband paid 80 thousand yuan himself, and the remaining 40 thousand was taken by my parents (I didn't have much savings after working for a long time). I bought a house before we fell in love. The total amount is about 420,000 yuan. My father-in-law's name says. My husband was not at home when I bought a house. We both work in other places and don't care about giving money. Before marriage, my husband basically sent his salary home after working for six or seven years. He basically didn't spend much money on his work. We didn't have a wedding for his work. I didn't take any presents. I wonder how much it costs. I also returned the 10 thousand yuan my mother-in-law gave me to her intact. After I got pregnant, I resigned for various reasons, except that my mother-in-law gave me 1000 yuan every month before I gave birth at home. It was the first time for me to give it to my parents. I didn't take my mother-in-law's money. After the pregnancy check-up, the children are all our own money, and I began to pay back the account after giving birth, about 70 thousand to 80 thousand. My husband didn't give me money for a long time after giving birth.

My family and my mother-in-law's are not in the same city, and it's not too far away. It takes me more than three hours to drive. My parents-in-law are farmers and have no skills. They are only doing odd jobs in a few acres of land at home, and they are already sixty years old. The old couple are good to me, too. They will ask my advice on many things, at least things related to children. My husband is now 13 to 40 thousand a year. His job is very special. He spends very little money on his own, and he gives me all his salary. My husband came back several times to earn more money. For various reasons, my mother-in-law can't always take care of my children in the city. I spend more time at my mother's house and less time at my husband's. I buy things for my in-laws and nieces every time I go back. When I am not at home, I will buy something for them online from time to time. I don't think I'm a good wife, and it's not easy for the elderly. No matter how hard my children work, there is nothing I can do. Not everyone is Wang Jianlin and Ma Yun.

Far from the point, the above is a simple family situation. I didn't think much about paying back the money. Every family is different, and the daughter-in-law has no obligation to pay for her in-laws. This is a bit like a mother-in-law with or without children, with different responsibilities and different feelings. Moreover, she is not alone, and there is no need to blame who is right or wrong.

Say one thing, the man's married parents said that he had no money and borrowed hundreds of thousands. The man told the woman that when he heard about the marriage, he basically borrowed it. She loves the man and his parents dearly, and the woman even wants nothing unilaterally. She didn't buy a house, didn't pick up a car and didn't have furniture, so she didn't want it all night. It's just a bride price for her parents. Every time she raises her daughter, she goes to be filial to her parents. On the wedding day, her home was very shabby. There is only one wedding photo to save money for the man. After marriage, the man feels more and more taken for granted. From the first few days, he said that he wanted the woman to pay back the money together. The woman didn't disagree at first, but soon after the marriage, the man's mother fell ill and the woman's health care during pregnancy was paid by the woman. The man's parents never ask about the life of the woman and son, and occasionally mention that the man either laughs or changes the subject. The woman went out to work with her husband to earn money from the third day of marriage. The woman's husband also said that they work hard every day. The woman unilaterally tries her best to buy all kinds of things for her in-laws, which is better than her parents. As a result, because of some things, the woman miscarried while taking care of her mother-in-law during pregnancy. After the operation, the man's parents not only didn't visit, but also didn't say a word to her, and didn't even mention letting her go home to raise a baby. Women are heartbroken from now on, because they pay too much but are ignored or even indifferent, and they feel very uncomfortable. She remembered that she had paid for it before. Why do you want to marry yourself and borrow hundreds of thousands when you think of the debts you owe when you get married? Isn't this equal to babysitting the man for nothing? Before marriage, the man didn't have any savings. That's what men do before marriage. Why, when he got married, the bride price was all over, and the woman suddenly understood that the bride price was her only lifeline, and her convenience was no longer taken out. The attitude of the man's parents is getting worse and worse, and the woman finally understands. No matter how much you pay, you will never get a man's good. Women are becoming more and more sober. It suddenly occurred to me that I shouldn't get married and borrow so much. Because I can't do accounts, I have a feeling of calculation. The wedding gift money received by the man's parents is paid by the woman. As long as the man's parents get the money in their hands, they never give the woman and his son a penny. Even if they work hard, they can't even eat, and they never subsidize. Even if they had a son, even if his son was ill, they never saw a penny. Women suddenly woke up and began to see the essence of things. When the man suddenly said that he only borrowed tens of thousands of dollars to get married, the woman's head was blank. It turns out that the man's parents lied to the man and gave him and her the means to marry the woman without spending money and let her earn money to serve her filial parents. Women are really cheated, and their hearts are extremely painful. She values the man's parents the most but hurts them the most. Recalling the past, the man's parents were indifferent and ignored. The woman knows that she is the lowest in the man's family, but she is too obedient to the man's requirements. Without self, when men see that women are so gullible, they look down on her more and more and never care about her. Even if the woman is pregnant again and gives birth to a child, the man's parents are like a vulnerable group for various reasons. They never cared about her and the child in their hearts, and even disdained her, because that woman was easy to cheat and soft-hearted, and easy to bully. The woman's heart fell into the abyss, and people around her parents slowly told her the behavior of the man's parents. Without friends and relatives, neither of them wants to go out. The woman ha ha smiled, but her heart was turned upside down and calm as water. I thought I would take it one step at a time and be able to do things well for them myself, but from now on, I will give priority to myself and the children in my belly. Saying so much is to remind girls who are too soft-hearted, what to return with whom, and the truth of the matter. Being kind to others will not change back to being kind to others, but just using you to improve their lives. I am the woman. You can judge me from the heart, but you are not me. You can't feel how rude I am to the man's parents, how used I am, and look down on all kinds of experiences.

People in their fifties are still young and have to work even if they don't pay their bills. When they gave birth to their son, they planned to give him a wife, a house and a bride price. This is a national custom, not a rule that this daughter-in-law suddenly made. In addition, in the case of poor economic conditions, don't get married prematurely. Parents are only over 50, and the son should not be very old. How much can I do? I'm almost 50 and I'm still working as usual. Besides, who can borrow it? At present, the social conditions are generally good, so there is nothing to comment on. From a daughter-in-law's point of view, it is definitely unacceptable for her to pay off her debts as soon as she enters the door. She has not enjoyed the happiness of the newlyweds! I saw the day when I borrowed money. Although I didn't marry a rich wife in the past, I left her in debt. As a husband and in-laws, I am embarrassed to say this. From the article, I can see that my in-laws have only one son, and they are young. A son married his daughter-in-law and the family had to borrow money. It is estimated that the daughter-in-law has a bride price of 70 thousand. Judging from the total amount, it should be that the daughter-in-law didn't spend any money on her-my nephew and my sisters-in-law saved the money early to save money for themselves. When they got married on New Year's Day last year, they all spent 654.38 million yuan on three gold ornaments. Because the two sons are about the same age, they got married one after another, so they also borrowed money, and they didn't say that they would use their daughter-in-law's money to pay it back. Do things with principles. Personally, according to the current socio-economic situation and the case of marrying my daughter-in-law, this in-law let them just enter the door.

Code for code.

China's parents are the best parents in the world. The obligation of parents begins with raising children and at least extends to getting them married. Many of them even extended to grandchildren.

Therefore, it is the job of many parents to earn enough money for their sons to get married.

Daughter-in-law here, because you have the ability to marry Han, dress and eat before marrying you. After you got married, you told me it was a lie? You don't have that ability, so don't marry me Therefore, the old account before marriage has nothing to do with me, and it should be borne by the relevant people.

If you get married, you'd better be realistic. If you don't have that ability, don't put on that face. In the end, you will be in debt and miserable. As a woman, we should also understand the man's difficulties at that time. If your husband is an enterprising and plastic talent with a bright future, he can help repay the loan. Otherwise, you might as well keep your own private money, which you will always need in the future.

I have always advocated that marriage should be suitable for everyone and do what you can. Since the son owes money for marriage and the daughter-in-law has savings, it must be that the woman is better than the man, so this matter should be split in two. If the woman knows that the man owes money before marriage and is willing to get married, it is best to share it together. If the woman doesn't know that the man owes money for marriage, I think both the man and his family have personality problems. Not only should she not help, but she must be vigilant and protect her private property.

Not that I'm vulgar. Money is definitely a magic mirror to test human nature and marriage. If a girl doesn't make it clear to her husband about the bride price, dowry and economic dominance after marriage, then don't talk about marriage easily.

One of my classmates met her husband in high school. After graduating from college, she married her son. There is no bride price or wedding ring in the man's house. He just bought a house and wrote the woman's name separately. After getting married, my classmates saw that my in-laws lived a simple life and could not eat or wear. She knew that the old man had given her life savings to buy a house. She didn't say anything. The first thing every month is to buy things for her in-laws and give them living expenses. The relationship between husband and wife is getting deeper and deeper.

I also have a classmate. The man is an only child and bought a suite in full. When talking about marriage, the woman was pregnant. As a result, the man not only refused to pay the bride price, but also asked the woman to pay the decoration fee on the grounds of buying a house with a loan. The woman was pregnant and had no choice but to agree, but she remained in a daze. The child divorced just after the full moon.

There are always people who think that talking about money hurts feelings. In fact, being affectionate does not mean drinking enough water. If you really want to live a peaceful life, you must talk about money, especially before marriage, and then whatever happens after marriage, you must follow the prenuptial agreement. You can't be too poor to make sense.

Hehe, this is my living example. My husband and I are college classmates and have been married for five years. Before getting married, he said that he had to buy a house to get married. The man's parents just paid a down payment of 200,000 yuan. As a result, his parents said they had no money, so I said, forget it. It's not like I can't get married. His father said he would borrow it if he had no money and pay it back slowly. After more than a year's delay, the down payment of 200,000 yuan was barely enough 1.35 million. Finally, the money I earned from my own work for several years, plus the 20 thousand yuan given by my parents and the salary of his boyfriend at that time, made up enough down payment, so I got married, without bride price and hardware, and his parents didn't spend a penny on their marriage. After marriage, her mother-in-law urged her to have children every day, saying that she would help bring them when she was born. As a result, someone else was born. At the back of the play, the father borrows money from relatives and others urge him to pay it back. My father-in-law was 52 and my mother-in-law was 48. They are lazy and don't work and pay back the money. My husband secretly paid back the money behind my back. I went to work with a big belly and didn't take a vacation until I died 15. I go to work by bus twice a day. I scrimped and saved money to have a baby. When my child was over two years old, I found that my husband had been secretly paying back the money. I had a big fight. My husband righteously said that the money should have been returned by us, but it was for us. My father-in-law also said that I should have paid back the money long ago, which was used for our wedding. I said you borrowed the money. Why should I return it? But he went on to say that I had to pay back the money borrowed from the building built in his hometown. What does the house built in your hometown have to do with me? His father built the house to save face, for fear that his brother's girlfriend would not like his brother when she came home. Father and son agreed that I should pay back the money. At that moment, no one could understand my feelings. I borrowed money to get married. If I promised to pay back the money before I got married, I wouldn't get married. Really feel cheated.

So, marriage is really important.

In my opinion, this problem can't be entirely the fault of the daughter-in-law. What is the son doing? At first, the old couple earned it to please their daughter-in-law. They should think of the later things and make it clear to their sons that the debts in the future will mainly be paid by their sons. The old couple should cooperate with each other if possible. Don't always find fault with your daughter-in-law, because they don't handle things well. The family should sit down and negotiate to solve the problem and explain the interests to the young couple.

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