How to gracefully refuse the elder's urging marriage?

For the matter of urging marriage, face the elders and say that work is busy and take work to block it. Or this kind of thing, marriage, depends on fate, not fate, so I haven't met the right person yet. If the elder is in a hurry, be serious and say that he is also in contact with people at this stage, but take it slowly.

1. Tell relatives directly and clearly about their planning arrangements.

When relatives at home keep urging marriage, you can calmly tell your elders about your current arrangements. Because family members may have traditional ideas, as long as you are not married at school age, they will try another way to promote marriage. Faced with this situation, if you have your own life arrangement, you can speak your mind and let them know that you have your plans. After all, getting married is the most urgent thing, and the more urgent it is, the more likely it is to make mistakes. As long as you have a firm attitude and know what you want to do next, go ahead at your own pace.

2. Reveal your current living conditions and reassure your elders.

The elder's urging marriage is nothing more than a concern, but this concern sometimes makes you feel pressure invisibly. If the elders bring up this topic, you always avoid talking about it, which will make them more anxious. Then, you will fall into a cycle, you won't talk, they have been urging. At this time, the most appropriate way is that you can talk to your elders about your emotional situation. For example, at present, you have new contact with members of the opposite sex, just because the contact time is short, so you can't get married for the time being. Or you have no plans to fall in love at present, or you can tell your elders in a relaxed tone that I have been concerned by everyone, but I have other important things to do at present, so I didn't talk about it. But, if there is, I will tell you.

The more you are urged to get married, the more you can not panic.

Since relatives are kind enough to urge marriage, you should look at this problem calmly. When people ask, you can confess to your relatives. After all, it is inevitable to get married when you are old. The most important thing is to see how you handle it yourself. Talk directly to your elders and let them know that you can listen to them. However, due to objective reasons, you haven't met them yet. If you talk like that, there will be nothing. You can also say in a joking tone, Oh, I want to get married as soon as possible, but this is not something I can do unilaterally. Isn't that the right person hasn't shown up yet?

Therefore, in the face of urging marriage, first of all, your mentality should be stable; Then take a roundabout strategy to chat with elders. It seems that the elders are urging marriage, but they are actually concerned about your life.