Some people speak concisely and to the point, while others talk nonsense.

Language is an important tool for communication, but when to say it and what to say are very different. If you don’t know how to speak, if you don’t speak to the point, if you can’t hit the other person’s heart, or if you even make people feel disgusted, it’s better to remain silent

? As the old saying goes: If you are short of talent, you will be resourceful. If you don’t know enough, you will worry too much. If there is not enough power, there will be too much anger. If you don’t believe enough, talk too much. If courage is insufficient, there will be more work. If there are deficiencies, check more. If the reasoning is insufficient, there will be more arguments.

Someone once told me that if you try to limit what you want to say to ten sentences a day, your life will be greatly changed.

When a persuasive person speaks, he does not talk too much, but gets to the point. In this regard, my son is outstanding.

Give two examples:

My son has been working in real estate in Australia, but he doesn’t talk much, but his grades are very good. This is determined by his thinking.

The first thing was when he first started working as a real estate agent. Through an introduction, I met an owner from Shijiazhuang in Beijing who owns several nightclubs and bathing centers. After talking for about 20 minutes, the boss had never even seen the houses in Australia, so he booked seven houses at once. Later, we became friends and I stayed with him in Australia for two weeks. I have always been curious about my son selling seven houses at once, so I asked him, Mr. He, when you saw such a young child, he was able to make a decision to invest in seven houses in such a short period of time, could you tell me why? . Mr. He only answered me with one sentence. I think what he said makes sense. Later, Mr. He and his wife were leaving Sydney. I told my son that Mr. He and his family were going back to Beijing tomorrow, so why don’t you invite them? The son replied calmly, why should I treat them to dinner? I helped them invest and make money. This is my son's thinking logic. He never sells houses to people, but conversely thinks that he will help you make money.

The second thing is that when I returned to Australia a few years ago, I originally wanted to learn professional knowledge about Australian real estate with his company, but I ended up staying there for two years. Then one day, we came back from a meal in southern Sydney. My son and my cousin drank a lot of liquor and beer that day. My cousin refused to accept it, so he went to the house to drink foreign wine. Finally, I sent my drunk and confused cousin back. Home, this is just an interlude. During this period, we talked about my problem. My son wanted me to return to Beijing. He didn’t say many words, but he moved me with just one sentence. He said, grandma is very sick, you should go back quickly, don't regret it later. In fact, this sentence is what he really worried about his grandma, but it is very convincing.

To be concise and effective, there are several principles:

First, go straight to the topic.

When you want to express your opinion, you might as well go straight to the topic without saying a lot of useless preamble. What is the country’s policy? What is the original text? When was it posted? The current situation is Well, three minutes have passed and you haven't gotten to the point yet. You can just say, "I want to talk about some things to note about saving electricity..."

Second, don't deviate from the topic. .

Still taking "saving electricity" as an example, you can express your topic as concisely as possible. For example, remind everyone to turn off the lights, etc., and don't make unnecessary extravagances by telling people the principle of generating electricity. As the foreign proverb goes: When I ask you what time it is, don't tell me how the watch works.

Third, the semantics are clear.

Before speaking, sort out the logic of your language and determine what you want to express. Don't say one thing here or the other. It will make the listener confused after speaking for a long time, and it can easily cause misunderstandings.

Fourth, use more short sentences and less long sentences.

In our daily speech, we should pay attention to using more short sentences and less long sentences while changing the sentence structure. Because long sentences are not easy to understand, while short sentences are bright, lively and powerful, and can also express excited emotions, firm will and affirmative tone. Therefore, in terms of application, short sentences that are easy to say and easy to listen to are more popular. In addition, we have to note that in our daily life, we inadvertently find that we can get happiness and interest from talking with certain people, so we want to prolong the conversation, hoping that this good feeling can be If it continues, the results are often counterproductive, and in the end even the effects achieved are destroyed. Therefore, when it is time to end, you must end it resolutely, decisively, and happily. Sometimes it is this kind of unfinished meaning that leaves a deep impression on the other party.

Fifth, be sincere, praise more and criticize less

This may be very important. We don’t need to talk as much as speakers and salespeople, and you probably won’t have as big an audience. Listening more and speaking less, and speaking lotus flowers not only reflect a person's cultivation, but also a kind of wisdom.

How do people talk a lot but all they talk is nonsense?

Why can’t one in five Americans find their country on a world map? Faced with this question, Miss Carolina of the Southern United States beauty pageant responded to the camera: "I personally think that Americans cannot find the location of the United States on the world map because some people do not have maps, and I think our education , same with South Africa and Iraq...and...I think they should...our education here...American education should help the United States, should help South Africa, should help Iraq and other Asian countries, so that we can build our The future." This video was uploaded all over the world on YouTube, the world's largest video sharing website.

Do you understand what she means? You may think that there is no need to demand the language and thinking skills of a beauty pageant. Well, let’s take a look at a passage from Alan Greenspan, the 13th Chairman of the Federal Reserve.

Richard Paul quoted this passage from Greenspan in "Critical Thinking": "It is indeed difficult to find such an adjustment method in time to moderately curb the risk premium by reducing returns. Growth does not end prematurely due to the decline in risk premiums caused by inflation.”

You still don’t understand what he is talking about. Of course, you don’t have to think that this wise elder’s words are too profound and that we can’t keep up with his thinking. On the contrary, the fact is that Greenspan himself admitted that words like the above were not meant to be understood.

Words like the above, whether they come from a beauty contestant or the chairman of the Federal Reserve, can be called nonsense as long as they are not understood by others. This also shows that everyone has a tendency to speak nonsense.

Everyone talks nonsense, but not for the same reasons. Some people don't like the ignorance and confusion caused by thinking, and some people deliberately hide their true feelings but don't want to show others their thoughts. But no matter what, endless nonsense cannot really hide the flaws in thinking. Clear thoughts will lead to clear expressions, while confused thoughts will lead to nonsense.

Therefore, it is best to clarify your thoughts before speaking and make your expression clear and easy to understand. This will make the other party feel the sincerity of your communication instead of being evasive or perfunctory. If you really don’t know what to say, don’t say it yet. Don’t do what Jack Welch, the former chairman of General Electric, said: “You don’t believe how hard it is to keep it simple and clear because people are afraid of themselves. Being regarded as a fool by others actually has the opposite effect. "Sometimes it is better to remain silent and let others think you are a fool than to say nonsense and make people think you are really a fool.

If a person talks a lot but still cannot be understood, it means that his logical thinking must be a little confusing, or he cannot organize and express the problem well, and he may even need to cover up something. Take care of everything else.

Language is the main tool for information transmission. If you cannot express your views concisely and clearly, or effectively persuade others to achieve your desired results, then it must be that there are too few effective components in the language and too much nonsense takes up too much space. .

Cherish those who can listen to you talk nonsense

People who like to talk nonsense sometimes also have a desire for expression and hope that their language can be valued so that they can exist. feel. But this is only limited to certain relationships.

The more mature a person is, the more he knows silence, and the more silent he is, the more he understands that having someone by your side who is willing to listen to your nonsense is actually a blessing in life. Not everyone is willing to hear you open your heart, not everyone can empathize with you, and many people just see your jokes.

Being able to have a relationship where you talk nonsense should be a very happy thing in life, and it is what life is pursuing. In the dead of night, when people are wandering, when they are lonely and helpless, many people would like to find someone to talk to, but when they open their address book, it is often difficult to find someone who can talk to them without any scruples.

In the vast sea of ????people, you can meet many people in your life. You can listen to yourself talk about your tiredness, chat with yourself, and complain to yourself, so that your soul can take a rest in the noisy world and let yourself be impetuous. There are really not many people who can find peace of mind in the world of mortals. Those are rare bosom friends and the people with whom we have the most comfortable relationship.

A sentence written by Liu Tong: A comfortable relationship is when you talk about any topic and the other person can continue to talk, not because the other person is well-informed, but because the other person is extremely interested. Yes, the person you have the most comfortable relationship with is a good listener to you, even if what you say is not nutritious, even if what you say is all nonsense.

Only people who really like and love you are willing to listen to your "nonsense". If you say anything to a person who has no feelings for you, he will get bored. The most comfortable relationship is when two people talk about everything, talk nonsense, don't annoy each other, and Tottenham can't break up. Just like the period of love, no matter how much nonsense you say, it still feels sweet.

There is such a psychological study: if more than 90% of what a person says is nonsense, this person will be more likely to feel happy. If the nonsense is less than 50%, it is not easy for this person to experience the feeling of happiness. The former is characterized by talking eloquently and smiling happily. The latter manifests itself as sullen and depressed.

On the surface, talking nonsense is a waste of each other's time, but the small joys in life are often made up of those nonsense. The interactions of friends' gatherings, whether it's memories or small talk, actually don't have much meaning in life. They are all dispensable nonsense, but they make each other happy.

Most of the eternal vows between lovers are love quotes copied from books, which are well-known nonsense, but people in love still enjoy them and linger on them. Even in business negotiations, they are not serious and serious, and there is still laughter and nonsense.

The gossip between husband and wife, the commonplace talk between parents and children, which one is not a lot of nonsense? It seems that these are not nutritious and cannot bring much help to career and future. Some people even feel bored after hearing them, but happiness is hidden in them. Without these nonsense, life would be so boring.

When someone who used to have a good relationship with you starts to get tired of your nagging, except that he may want to be quiet due to stress or other reasons, you should think about whether the relationship between the two people is good. There have been twists and turns, and he no longer wants to listen to your "nonsense" and is no longer tolerant of you.

Of course, everyone's temperament will be different. Some people like quietness, and some people like liveliness. People who love peace and quiet may not want to listen, which is understandable. But a person who loves to talk and is willing to listen will not change easily. If he changes, then the relationship has changed.

People who have experienced it will find that there is someone by your side who allows you to say whatever you want without worrying about which words are wrong or wrong, and you don’t have to think about which words are nonsense. Don’t be afraid. Chatting for too long will delay rest, which is full of happiness. Nagging is a kind of love, nonsense is a kind of happiness. The most comfortable relationship is like this.

Society is cruel and everyone’s life is very tiring. Not everyone is willing to give you time and listen to what you say; not everyone has the patience to chat with you all over the world. It's not easy to talk to each other, and it's even more of a luxury to talk "nonsense".

In life, there are costs, and people expect to be able to speak in one step; in work, efficiency must be emphasized, and speech needs to be concise and clear; in interpersonal communication, one needs to consider each other's feelings, and there will be people who talk too much. If you find it annoying, you will either find various excuses to leave, or you will bluntly say that you are long-winded.

Even blood brothers and sisters, even close friends, cannot talk about everything. They are either afraid that the topic is too sensitive, or they are afraid that their complaints will convey negative energy, or they are afraid that what they say is inappropriate. Too many people will curse secretly in their hearts, or they are afraid of accidentally offending others and causing trouble for themselves.

No one can have smooth sailing, and not everyone has an indestructible heart. It is inevitable to feel irritated, depressed, unwilling, sad, sad, melancholy, and hesitant, and you want to find someone to talk to. , nagging, venting, this is human nature and natural.

However, many times, when I look through my address book, I can't find anyone who can really talk to and listen to the "nonsense" I want to vent. Even on social media, I am afraid that Being called hypocritical. Therefore, there are so many things I want to say, but I can only hold them back and bury them deep in my heart, making myself feel more uncomfortable and depressed.

Many people have been asked, when do you feel most comfortable and least stressed in life? All their answers were to say, find a friend to talk nonsense and nonsense.

It is always difficult to release the pressure of adults. Unlike children, they can cry heartlessly or laugh without anyone watching; they are also different from the elderly in having such an open mind. , they can take everything lightly, they have to face the pressure of life with bosses and subordinates.

But every adult has his own fairy tale in his heart and a childlike innocence. They also hope that they can focus on watching the ants move, stare at the sunset, and fight on buffalo. No need to chase time, appreciate the joy and happiness of that moment of leisure.

In this era, everything forces adults to seize the time, work hard, study, and live. Indeed, these are very important. If you want to get ahead and have a successful career, you must fight for the top. In this life, there must always be a place to take a breath. The most comfortable and happiest thing is to have a relationship where you can talk nonsense.

A thousand pieces of gold are easy to get, but a close friend is hard to find. You are very lucky to have a close friend in your life. So, you don’t have to force everyone to empathize with you, and you don’t have to open up to everyone. As long as you have someone who can listen to your nonsense, this life is enough.

Writer Su Qin once said: Happiness is probably finding someone who is willing to listen to your nonsense. Yes, if someone can listen to your nonsense, then this person should value you very seriously. If you meet such a person, please remember to cherish it.

Whether it is pithy words or nonsense, please pay attention to the target. Whenever you want to boast about something strange, remind yourself how many pairs of eyes may be watching you. Maybe no one cares about what you say, maybe they are snickering secretly.

We don’t have that many viewers, so be careful to keep your mouth shut. If you talk too much, you will make mistakes.