There is a saying in the countryside that "a good son doesn't eat separated meals, and a good woman doesn't wear wedding clothes".

There is a saying in the countryside that "a good son doesn't eat separated meals, and a good woman doesn't wear wedding clothes". How to understand?

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Release time: 03-0822:26

In rural areas, families have more children, no matter before or now. If you grew up in the countryside, everyone knows that there are many brothers and sisters in your parents' generation, ranging from three or four to five or six. For the rural elderly, it is a blessing to have a full house of children and grandchildren and face in the countryside. And we can take care of each other in the future, but it is precisely because there are many children that contradictions are difficult to solve. In rural areas, if children get married, they are often separated. If there are many children in the family, the property will be distributed to their sons. If there is only one son in the family, there is no need to divide it. They must all be sons. For the daughter at home, when she grows up, she will always get married. When getting married, she will walk into the marriage hall in a wedding dress and take away the clothes that accompany her. This is also called a wedding dress.

In fact, when it comes to good children not sharing meals, every family has its own problems. Here is an example. There is a family in the local area. The old man has four children, including three sons and a daughter. Since childhood, four brothers and sisters are very close. If they bully their brothers and sisters, others will argue. Later, with the growth of age, the child got married and got married. Unfortunately, my father left early, leaving only an old woman. The old man has no son, only two daughters; The second child has two sons; The third family has 1 son. After all, the old man is old and doesn't want to see children quarreling, so he is afraid of offending any child. The old man also has several houses and scattered plots of land, and of course he has accumulated a little money for most of his life.

In rural areas, when old people are too old to work, they go to their children's homes to take turns eating. But until then, we will divide the property. Just like this old man, because of the division of property, the three brothers kept silent and let their wives fight with each other. The boss's wife said, we are the boss, so we should choose first; The second child won't give in, saying that your family has no son. Who will you give my two sons after you choose? The third said, what are you robbing? When my father was here, he said he would give us the two acres of land. Seeing the quarrel getting worse, the old man's daughter couldn't help it. She can only keep crying and saying, you make a scene, and you are not afraid of others' embarrassment or our mother's anger here. The old man was just crying.

In fact, it's not that all three brothers don't persuade their wives. They often want to divide their property in their hearts, but as men, they can't face it. So I had to let my sisters-in-law rob me.

Of course, although this phenomenon does not exist in every family, it exists in almost every village. As the saying goes, a good son does not eat alone, and a truly filial and ambitious son will not fight for the family property and will not miss the family property of the elderly; Good women don't wear wedding clothes, whether they are daughters or sisters-in-law, ambitious women often don't miss the clothes they wear when they get married.

In fact, one of the reasons for the contradiction in the above story is that as a man, he acquiesced in his wife's fight for property, otherwise why didn't anyone stand up and speak? My son doesn't eat the food of the whole family, and my daughter doesn't wear wedding clothes. This also tells us that what belongs to us should be, and what doesn't belong to us should not be taken. You can't expect to get wealth from your inheritance, but you should get your own wealth through your own struggle.