"I want to buy another suite and need a gift." My mother-in-law wants her present back. Should I give it to her?

For marriage, many people begin to have various contradictions after marriage, and quarrels sometimes become a part of daily life. In some marriages, if two people understand and forgive, life will get better and better. Some people will never give in because they care more about their feelings, and finally the relationship between the two people becomes inseparable, and finally they go their separate ways.

After two people get married, some people may choose financial independence, that is, their own money is managed separately. But more often, one person is in charge of finance, and most of the time, it is a woman. Some women are strong, may be in charge of all finances, and may only give their husbands a little pocket money every month. When two people get married, there will be a lot of money, plus work savings, it is still a lot of money, but everyone may have different views on how to deal with this money.

Jiaxin is 30 years old this year. In spite of her parents' objections, she married her husband, who is four years younger than her. There is a saying that "she is a junior girl with a golden brick in her hand". However, after getting married, she found that her husband was more and more naive, and she was always doing nothing, playing games all day, not working hard, and having no plans for her future. Jiaxin is more and more disappointed with her husband, and now she doesn't care about and take care of Jiaxin. Schwab thinks she needs to be raised. I feel that my husband simply doesn't know how to take on the responsibility of a family.

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She and her husband met by playing games, but her husband was very kind to Schwab. When they first met, her husband stewed her ribs. Jiaxin is a nurse. Actually, nurses are very tired. Sometimes they have to work night shifts, and sometimes they have to endure scolding from patients and their families. Jiaxin felt that her husband was very careful at that time, stewing ribs for four hours, and felt that her husband should be very good to himself.

At that time, parents strongly opposed that women were four years older than men. Do men really take care of Schwab? At that time, parents judged that this man must be naive, but Jiaxin felt that her husband was very kind to herself, so she refused to listen to her parents' advice and insisted on marrying this man.

Jiaxin works hard. Sometimes there are four night shifts a week. Her husband said he would pick her up after work, but there was no one left and right after work, and no one answered the phone. Finally, Jiaxin had to take a taxi back. When she got home, she found that her husband's car had just entered the door and he had gone to dinner with his friends. Because there were some things in the middle, he delayed the time, but he didn't tell Schwab either. After returning home, my husband ordered a takeaway for himself without asking if he had eaten, which made Schwab chilling. I feel that my husband doesn't feel bad about himself at all.

Once her husband was playing games at home, she said a few words about her husband's cooking. As soon as she got angry, she dropped her cell phone. Another time was in winter, the weather was cold, and the battery of mobile phone was not very durable. Then Jiaxin said, "Throw it away." Husband felt that Schwab was a little irritating and threw away his mobile phone directly.

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After getting married, her husband gained 40 pounds. Jiaxin was concerned about her health, asked her husband to go to the hospital for examination and told him to drink less. But her husband thinks that her purpose is not pure, and she wants to deprive herself of the right to drink. Her husband often plays games and drinks, and she can't live without three meals a day. Jiaxin is for her health, but her husband just doesn't appreciate it.

My husband found a sales job, but after three months, his performance was still zero. He plays games at home every day, so that Schwab cannot see the future at all. After working overtime, her husband didn't say a warm word, which made Jiaxin feel very chilling. Although my husband doesn't make money, it costs money to play games, buy members and buy backgrounds. Jiaxin hopes that her husband can save the money.

Now Jiaxin just wants to save their gift money and save some money to buy a house of her own. The present house was given to her parents when they got married. Jiaxin wants to buy a house because two people quarreled and her husband asked her to go. She wanted to have a place to go.

Because my husband's car, house and wedding money are all given by the family, and part of the money for playing games is salary. If it is not enough, I will use the savings given by my family. Husband thinks it's normal for two people to quarrel and say some cruel words. I feel that Schwab is thinking too much. Jiaxin hopes that her husband can become mature and understand himself too much.

But my husband wants to use this money for a better car, and Schwab strongly disagrees. When her husband told her parents about it, her mother-in-law called directly and said, "The gift money is a subsidy for you. I have bought you a house. Don't think about buying a house with a gift, or I will take it back. "

At this time, schwab panic. She and her husband are basically moonlight clan now. Her husband often plays games. Sometimes the money is not enough, they also use the deposit. If parents take this money, they will be on their own in the future. Husband thinks that the down payment for buying a house now is not enough, which will also reduce the quality of life. Husband thinks that buying a car can be enjoyed earlier.

Actually, Schwab doesn't have to buy a house. She just wants her husband to make progress and the two of them can live in harmony. Now Schwab doesn't want his parents to know these things, and he doesn't want his parents' words to be verified. I don't want my parents to worry about watching jokes.

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In fact, many parents don't really care about how to use the gift money, but parents certainly hope that both of them are well. If it's just a quarrel, they will buy another suite, so there is a place to go when they quarrel. This can not help but make the relationship between the two people better, or even worse, and make their quarrel more unscrupulous. The fundamental solution is to solve the problem of two people. Only in this way can marriage be happier.

In fact, Jiaxin asked her husband to drink less drinks, which was of concern, but was misunderstood by her husband. This is the love that should be felt in marriage. But when dealing with the relationship between husband and wife, Jiaxin is always sharp-edged. Home is not a reasonable place, but more about friendship and trivial matters in the family. There is no need to spend money arguing about right and wrong.

In fact, Bian Xiao doesn't support her buying a house. The money for buying a house is a gift, and the wedding is also arranged by parents. In fact, this gift should have been returned to parents a long time ago. However, Jiaxin's husband is also the status quo of many married men. He is old-fashioned, unwilling to make progress and bear hardships. Jiaxing's husband should be able to grow up slowly and be a bloody man. Two people should be able to understand each other and let each other grow up quickly.