"I don't agree with your nephew going home" is about adding a pair of chopsticks. Why are you so stingy?

How can this be a stingy question? This is not just adding a pair of chopsticks. Does my nephew take up space when he lives at home? Sleep without a bed, go to the toilet without a toilet, brush your teeth and wash your face? What a big joke!

First, you can help your family before you get married. After marriage, please respect yourself, whether you are a helper or a Phoenix man. Before you get married, you can not pay attention to helping your family, not to mention that your nephew lives at home, even if your eldest brother lives at home.

However, if you get married, you have to help your family. You are not alone. There are wives and children behind you, as well as parents-in-law and so on. The money you earn is not yours alone. You need to send flowers to your wife and children, and you need to honor your parents and in-laws.

There is nothing wrong with helping brothers and sisters and parents. What is wrong is that there is no boundary. In Dwelling House, seaweed takes Pinghai, her sister, as her own business and asks Beckham to lend money to her sister and brother-in-law. However, the money saved by Beckham after working for many years is to marry seaweed, buy a house and settle in the city. Later, seaweed's brother-in-law needed 60 thousand yuan to borrow usury, and Beckham refused. Beckham said that he can help the poor but not the poor, but seaweed is indiscriminate. Whether he likes it or not, he first helped his sister and brother-in-law through the difficulties and borrowed money from Song Siming again and again.

There is nothing wrong with helping your family, but it is wrong without the help of the border. Harm yourself, harm the other half and harm the future.

A young man's parents took 3 million yuan for house demolition, but his wife asked 200 yuan to buy a house for his younger brother. He disagreed and divorced. The young man tried to persuade him many times but failed. Finally, he had no choice but to borrow money from his parents to divorce his daughter-in-law. In the end, his family was in pieces and his brother's house was empty.

It's no problem to help eldest brother and sister-in-law, but you should have a correct position. As an uncle, you have no obligation to help eldest brother and sister-in-law raise children, and your aunt has no obligation to help eldest brother and sister-in-law serve children. You think adding a pair of chopsticks is enough. In fact, it also includes the issue of responsibility. If you are allergic at home, get sick at home and fall down, who will take care of you?

How to criticize and educate people who make mistakes at home? It's a nephew. It's an awkward relationship. It is impossible to beat and scold. If there is a little problem, my parents-in-law will come to criticize me, and my eldest brother and sister-in-law will also come to criticize me. How can an aunt afford it?

Second, see the true face of a man and his family before marriage, face the unreasonable demands of his in-laws and relatives, and refuse as a daughter-in-law. At this time, a man who can distinguish his position needs to stand up, analyze and solve problems. If you meet the Phoenix man, then the woman will suffer, either obey the Phoenix man or divorce.

If you meet a man who thinks you can handle it, you can easily face the unreasonable demands of your in-laws and relatives without worrying.

Women must see the true face of men and their families before they get married. Marriage is not a problem for two people, but a collision between two families or even three families.

Marriage is not only love, but also rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea. Women should always maintain spiritual independence and economic independence, but also know how to stop losses in time. When they meet Phoenix Man, they should try to get away as soon as possible to avoid being hurt.