What happened to the educated youth girl who angrily married a farmer because of a joke?

"Talking about Marriage": "There is no competition for marriage. The unfortunate reason. "

Marriage is not necessarily the grave of love, but it must be a watershed in life. Especially for women, the happiness of marriage determines their life. From the "parents' orders and matchmakers' words" in ancient feudal society to the "arranged marriage" in the early days of liberation, countless female marriages were brewed. Of course, there are also many people who dare to get rid of the bondage and pursue the freedom of love and marriage. Zhuo Wenjun, who sells wine, is willing to win a person's heart and has been going through twists and turns with Sima Xiangru; Pan Su lived a bitter life, was trapped in a brothel, and was tenacious and fearless, and finally lived happily with Mr. Zhang Boju.

With the progress of society, love and marriage have more freedom, but it doesn't mean that love and marriage have become synonymous with happiness. On the contrary, times are changing and society is progressing, but the tragic color of marriage still has the color of the past. Freedom of love and marriage cannot completely end the tragedy of women's marriage. Some women enter marriage because of love, while others do not. Just like the female educated youth Bai Qixian we are going to talk about today, she angrily married a local farmer because of a joke. What happened to such a special marriage?

In the 1950s, under the call of the state, a large number of educated youths went to the countryside to study and live in remote rural areas of the motherland, and also contributed their youth to the motherland. The educated youth who went to the countryside were all knowledgeable and well-educated young men and women at that time. After they came to the countryside, they formed a new collective with farmers, learning from each other and working together.

Not only that, educated youth can also help local people to carry out cultural education and knowledge dissemination after going to the countryside, which greatly improves the bad habits of the old society in some remote areas. Bai Qixian was also a female educated youth who went to the countryside at that time. Slightly different from other educated youths, she started a life-changing marriage because of a joke in her career.

From 65438 to 0968, the youthful and lively Bai Qixian set foot on the land of Xiangguozhuang Brigade in Cangzhou, Hebei Province with full enthusiasm and began the long-awaited educated youth life. At first, due to the differences in educational level and cognition, Bai Qixian was not very integrated with local farmers. With the long time spent together, the beautiful Bai Qixian touched the local villagers with her enthusiasm, openness, frankness and liveliness. After getting along for a long time, Bai Qixian has been able to get along well with the surrounding villagers and often talk and laugh together.

As an educated youth, it is very rare to get along well with local villagers. After all, to some extent, there was a gap between the educated youth group and the villagers at that time. Educated youth are mostly educated youth in large, medium and small cities, while local villagers are unpretentious ordinary workers. Their world outlook, values and outlook on life are very different, even in their living habits. This is also the reason why educated youth go to the countryside, that is, we should strive to improve the gap between the two groups and promote mutual learning.

At that time, with the direct mutual acceptance and learning of two different groups, many educated youths fell in love with local young men and women, and many people were lucky to get married. Bai Qixian made a very hasty decision, just to show that as an educated youth, she has no barriers to local farmers and is completely acceptable. It turned out that when Bai Qixian was chatting with local villagers, a person who secretly loved Bai Qixian jokingly asked her if she could accept rural people and choose to marry local villagers.

The young Bai Qixian is impulsive and willful. In order to show that she is an educated youth and doesn't dislike rural people at all, she blurted out that she is willing to marry and have children with local villagers. It happened that at this time, someone asked Bai Qixian in public if he would marry Bi Zhenyuan, a local single clerk. Considering what I just said. In a rage, Bai Qixian agreed to marry Bi Zhenyuan, who had never met before.

Bai Qixian knows nothing about what others call Bi Zhenyuan, so he is a complete stranger. Even so, she didn't give up a joke she once said. So in 1979, Bai Qixian got married with Bi Zhenyuan, an older single man in the local village. Bai Qixian is not without expectations for this marriage, but what she wants is to prove that she was not wrong at the beginning, but also to maintain her face. What she wants more is to live a good life after marriage, that is, to prove that she is right about primitive people.

In this way, Bai Qixian completely ignored the strong opposition of his parents and started a new life without hesitation. In fact, the real married life is not what Bai Qixian expected. Bai Qixian is an educated youth with talent and looks. She is educated, knowledgeable and life-oriented. On the other hand, Bi Zhenyuan is just an ordinary rural man, who only knows how to farm and live casually, and he is far from being a virtuous man. The huge difference between the two makes the marriage life full of quarrels. The endless quarrel made Bai Qixian exhausted and disappointed with this marriage. So she took her young children to live in the classroom apartment assigned by her work unit. The separation from Bi Zhenyuan did not make their marriage relationship better or even worse.

After living in a teacher's apartment, I thought I could live a quiet life, but my desire not to be so simple was shattered by rumors in reality. Seeing the separation of Bai Qixian and his wife, there are rumors in the village that Bai Qixian has moved out because she doesn't like Bi Zhenyuan and is beautiful because she has someone she likes outside. The speaker has no intention, but the listener has intention. Although it was an unfounded rumor, it touched Bi Zhenyuan's inner weakness. Angry because of rumors, Bi Zhenyuan went down to Bai Qixian's residence and started an endless domestic violence, dragging Bai Qixian into a hellish life.

The husband's incomprehension and domestic violence, the villagers' ridicule and distrust made Bai Qixian's life worse and he lost confidence in marriage. Suffering from physical and mental torture, Bai Qixian suffered from chronic nephritis in her long-term depressed life, which made her more unbearable for this failed marriage. Later, Bai Qixian filed for divorce, but it was useless and even ridiculed in the rural areas where male chauvinism prevailed at that time. In desperation, Bai Qixian could only ask the Ministry of Justice for help and file a divorce complaint.

The truth is always ruthless. It seems that from that joke, Bai Qixian's life was doomed to tragedy. Just when the court was about to agree to divorce Bai Qixian and Bi Zhenyuan, Bai Qixian found it difficult to give up the children he raised and finally gave up the idea of divorce. The unfortunate marriage made Bai Qixian numb, and the only emotional sustenance was his own children. What is even sadder is that Bai Qixian, who suffered for most of his life, died unexpectedly in a gas accident at the age of 38. For Bai Qixian, it seems that it is not a disaster, but a relief from a miserable life.

Marriage is not equal to love, nor is it just a material life. Simple love or material needs may not make marriage happy. Marriage is both realistic and full of fantasy. It is necessary for both sides to make joint efforts, operate together, gain a foothold in material life and maintain long-term spiritual and emotional harmony. Facing the choice of marriage is to have a sober and rational judgment, not an impulse.