The poor boy was treated as a joke.

In life, people will come into contact with all kinds of people. No matter how good a person is, there will always be people who look down on you in one way o

In life, people will come into contact with all kinds of people. No matter how good a person is, there will always be people who look down on you in one way or another. So, what should we do at this time?

Many people's first reaction is to win others' approval through excuses. However, it's no use making excuses. People won't respect you just because you say a few more words.

The poor boy's despised love really fell through.

Many years ago, a friend talked about a beautiful and elegant first-line aboriginal girlfriend when he still had nothing. In the early days of love, they were very happy and satisfied.

Then, all the friends around me think that friends are "not worthy" of this girl, a poor boy with nothing. The girl has a good family, is beautiful and can dress up. What can a friend compare with?

Sure enough, a few months later, the real torture came, and the girl's parents asked to meet friends. At the dinner table, facing my girlfriend's parents, "What are you doing now?" "What is your annual income?" "Do parents have a pension?" And "How many houses do you have in * * urban area (first-tier cities in China)?" I asked a series of questions such as "What are your plans for the future".

This meal is very uncomfortable. The next day, a friend said to his girlfriend, "Your parents look down on me from this small place. Let's break up. " The girl said, "No, they just ..."

Beautiful love was put on hold as soon as it surfaced.

People look down on you, which means you are not strong enough.

The boy calmed down and began to think carefully about a question: where is his future, what does he want to do in the end, how can he give the girl a stable future, and how can he let the other parents entrust her to himself?

After carefully analyzing his current situation, my friend decided to escape from the first-tier cities and return to his hometown to open a dessert shop.

My friend is a considerate person. After several months of preparation, plus my own copywriting and promotion ability, the store is running very well. In less than a year, my friend opened a branch. Now many years have passed, and my friend's dessert shops have spread all over more than a dozen large and medium-sized cities in China.

Later, my friend had his own house and car in a first-tier city, but he never went back to find the girl. He said that he was very grateful to the girl and her parents. It was their "questioning" that made him start thinking and change.

I remember reading a favorite sentence on the internet: life either grows and rises in pain or decays and dies in pain.

When we are looked down upon by others, we don't have to rush to be angry and wronged, but should admit the fact that we are not strong enough and try to change this situation.

If you realize this and act in parallel, the pain will last for a while, otherwise you will be looked down upon for life.

Don't ask the poor in downtown, the rich have distant relatives in the mountains.

This society is beautiful, but it is realistic and cruel.

It is human nature to hate the poor and love the rich, and this "poverty" and "wealth" not only refer to the economy, but also include ability, appearance and behavior in many cases.

In life, people will look down on you because you have not achieved enough; Because your achievements are not great enough, others will ignore you; Because you are not strong enough, others will bully you; People will laugh at you because your EQ is not high enough.

Once your efforts bear fruit, others will change you. Their affirmation and recognition of you is the best proof for those who once looked down on you.

Everyone longs for respect, love and kindness from others, but many times, except for the practice of Buddha and Bodhisattva, most people don't love for no reason.

Only if your efforts are worthy of your ambition will you get the respect and love you deserve.

So, what should we do when we are looked down upon?

Especially when people reach middle age and are looked down upon by others, instead of feeling sorry for themselves, it is better to do the following:

1) strive to improve their professional ability.

It is undeniable that many times our self-confidence actually comes from our strength. Only with excellent professional ability can we make a correct judgment on things, thus generating a sense of value and winning respect and recognition.

2) Be neither humble nor supercilious, and don't care too much about other people's opinions.

It's normal to be looked down upon in this world. No matter how hard you try, you still can't make people all over the world like you. Therefore, as long as you have a clear conscience, stick to what you want to stick to and don't care too much about other people's opinions.

3) Prove yourself with actions and achievements.

Romain rolland said: "There is only one kind of heroism in the world, and that is to love life after recognizing the truth of life." Those who face doubts and contempt, face bravely, do not flinch, and persist in their efforts need not say anything, and their actions and achievements will prove it for him.

1999, Ma Yun wants to create Alibaba. Everyone thinks this is a fable, looks down on him and doesn't believe what he can do. However, even if everyone thinks it is impossible, Ma Yun still firmly believes in his own judgment.

In 20 15, Alibaba's total market turnover exceeded 3 trillion yuan, making it the largest retailer in the world. Those who once questioned and didn't like Alibaba have long been ashamed and their intestines are regretful.

As the old saying goes, everything depends on human effort. The same situation, different mentality and different practices may be completely different results. When you are looked down upon by others, I hope you don't suppress in silence, but explode in your efforts.

Encourage each other