Five groups of six-person dormitory

"The degree of intrigue in college girls' dormitories is not inferior to that of palace fights! "

The first time I saw this sentence was somewhere, and the first time I learned this sentence came from my own personal experience.

When I was struggling for the college entrance examination, I didn't fantasize that I would have anything to do with "Gong Dou", but the unsatisfactory dormitory relationship in the university gave me a rough lesson-

I came to a six-person dormitory to really understand the irony behind this sentence.

It turns out that the place where the girls get together is really like the queen's palace plan.

It's not surprising that there are six people in five groups in a dormitory.

A few days before they first met, it was still calm. Everyone is unfamiliar, and they don't know each other very well.

But the longer we spend together, the faster the problems will be exposed.

One day, five people in the dormitory secretly built a group behind another girl's back. It doesn't matter, but the world has become a treasure house for them to speak freely.

The girl who was left out in the cold unfortunately became their talk after dinner.

This reminds me of the sentence I saw before …

It turns out that this kind of intrigue really exists.

After this period of time together, I found that the reason for this situation is nothing more than another girl's behavior touched some people's ridicule-

"It's still so ugly with makeup."

"Who is she trying so hard to show it to?"

"She seems to have gone out for the night with her boyfriend ... tut tut, that's rude ..."

(2)

The voices in the group are getting worse and worse, and the "lobbyists" are becoming more and more active. People in the same boat have succeeded in winning friendship, while people on the shore have become different among them.

Unfortunately, I was on the shore, and I became the 2.0 version of that girl.

At first, our "five-person group" began to slowly reduce the frequency of news. I was not interested in their happiness, so I didn't care at first.

Until one day after lights out, two or three roommates' laughter came tacitly, mixed with surprise, ridicule, got, contempt ... Then another person began her joy.

I have long been used to their "gathering behavior", which is nothing more than someone discovering the joke of the sixth person somewhere.

But when I opened the group chat of five people, I found nothing.

A series of negative emotions, such as fear, panic, doubt and self-doubt, come to mind instantly. The laughter of my roommates hasn't stopped, and I only feel half cold.

Since then, similar situations often happen, I know:

When I can't get their interaction point more and more, this malicious nail is getting deeper and deeper in my self-esteem.

As an "eliminated" person, I deeply remember those contemptuous eyes when I got up the courage to ask them one day.

Maybe a long time ago, I was already part of their after-dinner conversation.

(3)

All cautious doubts were finally confirmed in an accident-

One day, a wrong message popped up on the interface, which was quickly withdrawn, but every word has penetrated my heart.

"xxx with high cold all day long, for whom? Is she going to make faces? "

As I expected. ...

Some dirty words I once saw in the chat records finally fell on me.

At that time, I felt surprisingly calm. After all, I don't have to worry about it anymore, which also makes me thoroughly see the other side of them.

But calm is only temporary, and in the later life, more is still terrible.

My daily behavior has become a live broadcast, and every movement and every frame of my expression will become the object of collective "crusade" by several other people.

So this is college life, and it's really depressing.

This situation lasted for some time, and I had to learn to accept the malice from this group of roommates and express empathy for the first "victim".

It turns out that the joys and sorrows in the world can still be connected temporarily.

When these comments fall on your head, you will understand how boring and brainless the person who labeled you is.

Make-up has become a scheming, shopping has become showing off wealth, and making friends has become "no proper relationship" …

All daily behaviors will be circuitous to people wearing colored glasses.

So I became a target. It's not my fault.

(4)

I thought that people with keyboards were sui generis, but surprisingly, the reversal came suddenly-

One day, I accidentally found a group chat on the list, with only four people, and the other two "lucky people" became the excluded objects.

This is their usual routine.

If you have a problem with someone, you will quickly win over others and let your ugly remarks and ideas ferment in the darkness that others can't see.

It turns out that there is so much "friendship" in one boat. When the content appeared in the gang of four, I seemed to see a joke.

As far as I can see, there have been three group chats in a dormitory, but I believe-

There are more ugly people in places I can't see.

I set up several group chats without being disturbed, so that all the noise has nothing to do with me.

After all, the Internet has no memory, and so do some people.

After I really breathed a sigh of relief, I recalled how low-level and naive my original idea was-

In this "masked ball", I actually wanted to cherish this cheap friendship.

I just tried my best to fight for it, but I forgot the meaning.

The sentence "The more people grow up, the more lonely they become" explains the psychological process of "socializing" to a great extent, but I think the reason for "loneliness" probably stems from another sentence-

Birds of a feather flock together.

I feel sorry for my dormitory experience, but it is the existence of this "masked ball" that makes me understand a lot of truth and see all kinds of faces.

I finally understand that the social phenomenon of "six roommates and five groups chatting" in college girls' dormitory is not terrible. What is terrible is that they become sensitive, inferior, suspicious and lose confidence because of these remarks.

What's even more frightening is that in order to get on the boat and get cheap friendship, he is willing to be an accomplice in "verbal criticism".

(5)

Disputes in the dormitory have become the norm. After a semester, I finally made up my mind to apply to the counselor for a dormitory change.

After reading my application materials, the counselor's reaction was beyond my expectation. Only then did I know that small groups in the dormitory happen every year.

While agreeing with the data, I have to worry about my new roommate.

Perhaps my resistance is in vain, and another brand-new kung fu drama is waiting for me.

With a lesson from the past, I began to carefully observe the temperament of everyone in the new dormitory. As before, I deliberately kept my distance.

Surprisingly, however, the atmosphere in the dorms of the two places was very harmonious for a while, and there was no intrigue, nor did they comment on unsociable people in groups.

It turns out that not all girls' dormitories are the scene of palace fights, and not everyone is malicious.

I am glad that I made this decision and let me see a different college life.