Only incompetent men want second-hand houses. How to treat 38-year-old leftover men mocking second-married women?

Compared with the ordinary profession, my professional nature often meets some frustrated or bitter people.

After chatting with them, you can easily find a rule that most people's feelings are abandoned, abandoned and left behind, except for a few lucky reasons, mostly because of personal character and ideological reasons.

I once saw a weak girl who was always hurt by love rat, but after in-depth communication with her, I found out why this girl was called "love rat Harvester", not because of others, but because of herself and her personality, which led to her always making wrong choices and trusting, and playing good cards again and again.

Because of the lack of love, she became very fond of feelings, so when a person is a little nicer to her, she is willing to give everything for her without reservation. She cares too much about each other, so she lowers her posture to the dust and lives for each other, regardless of her own gains and losses and even her dignity.

Although she is pitiful and worthy of sympathy, to be honest, don't say it's me, and the arrival of Luo Xianxian can't save her. Only when she wants to know the truth can her life experience change.

Similarly, some people stay because of an easy-to-understand truth, but this is also a problem that many people knowingly commit, that is, their eyes are superior and their eyes are inferior.

That girl cares too much about each other's feelings, and when she is in love, she is very humble, making the other party feel that she can do anything. She can do whatever she wants by controlling this relationship. Even if the other person is not love rat, she will be spoiled as love rat, and those who are high or low are the opposite of that girl.

They tend to think too highly of themselves. They usually think that they are awesome and powerful, and they can always see their own advantages, but they deliberately ignore some fatal shortcomings, or think that these shortcomings can be completely ignored in front of their own advantages, leading to self-cognitive deviation.

When choosing a spouse, they use their unreasonable conditions to measure each other, and they don't know how demanding they are. They think they are valuable and qualified to make demands. Over time, this biased cognition will become the biggest bottleneck that hinders them from getting happiness in life.

Zhou Heng is the teacher of my friend's children. He teaches Chinese in primary schools. The personality is not too rigid, and the teacher is not pedantic.

Although he looks ordinary and fat, and his body shape lowers the average height of men, he is still dressed quite young. If you don't know him, you can actually look at him in his early thirties.

It is because my personality is still young and I play well with my friends, so I am familiar. I don't know him very well, but I have met him several times and went out to play together several times. He also broke my impression of regular teachers.

There are many scholars in my family. My uncle is a university professor and my brother teaches mathematics in a middle school. The impression they gave me was actually quite dull, but Zhou Heng was really more like an ordinary person.

He likes playing, making trouble and doing naughty things. If he is a friend, he is still a good choice. After all, people who have fun can eat anywhere.

But after getting along for a long time, I also found a problem in Zhou Heng. I thought it was just a small problem and there was nothing to say, but I never thought that this was the biggest obstacle to his marriage. Of course, this is another story.

Let's talk about the emotional experience of Zhou Heng, a 38-year-old young man from a small town who teaches in a private primary school in the town. As for his appearance, you don't have to judge by the standards of celebrity network, but it's also a passing sight. It can be said that his conditions are quite good. Plus, he can eat and play, and his circle of friends is very large, so he should not worry about marriage.

Surprisingly, however, he is single, unmarried and has no girlfriend. His orientation is normal, men like women, there is no need to doubt.

Not because he doesn't want to get married. On the contrary, he really wants to get married. He once told me personally that the nature of his job often brought him into contact with some young parents, such as my friends, who would also play together. They will become his army of urging marriage, and they will always introduce his girlfriend endlessly, reminding him that he is old and it is time to get married.

Note that it is not that no one cares about his marriage. On the contrary, many people spontaneously help him manage. Why is he still single? The reason is actually easy to guess, there is no suspense, because he is very picky.

To what extent? He didn't tell me much anyway. He just said that the girls introduced by the parents of these students were too low for him. But in the end, he was vague about what they didn't like. Anyway, they don't like to call or make a hole. Even when they heard the conditions and looked at the photos, he refused directly.

Later, after getting familiar with it, he once drank three rounds, and he said a sentence through the strength of wine, indicating his mate selection conditions:

"My requirements are not high, but they introduce either their sisters or their best friends. What level of people are they? They are uneducated and uneducated. Many of them are bumpkins from the countryside.

What kind of good people can they introduce? That makes no difference. They either wear clothes and die, or speak dialects, but they also deliberately speak plastic Putonghua. Who's disgusting?

I just don't like those women who are married and come from the countryside. What's wrong? In my profession, should I find a village girl? Am I looking for a second-hand house? I'm embarrassed to take it out. Even though I have been single, I will never marry such a woman. This is my principle.

Not that I'm demanding. I just want to find a beautiful first-time city girl like me. Is it that hard? "

Maybe he thinks his metaphor is mysterious, for fear that others will not understand it. He also specially explained the second-hand house he mentioned:

"The second married woman is a second-hand house, and the rural woman is a remote house in the suburbs. I don't live in a second-hand house Everyone else has lived there. Why should I take the rest? This is especially true in rural areas. Rural houses are cheap, far away and partial, and will not appreciate after eight generations. If you buy them, you will lose money. If you buy them, you will be stupid. Even if you have no room to live in and no rent, I won't buy this kind of house. " Zhou Heng said a phone call, but I didn't answer it. I just perfunctory with a smile. At that moment, I really found out that the problem was with him. What a hidden danger he was.

His problem is narcissism. In fact, I can detect this from many times. He especially loves to be a leader, likes to be the most outstanding one, and likes to see the feeling that his words are amazing and others' eyes are on him.

For example, people like me who never say a word and don't like to show off are more likely to see through his character. He is really narcissistic and pretentious. Even in a group of people, even if his salary is higher than his and his position is higher than his, he still feels that his career has a halo, is respected, is respected, and has that kind of aura of superiority.

It is this deviation from self-knowledge that makes him feel that he should be worthy of a better person. Even though he is 38 years old, he still thinks that age is nothing. If anything, he thinks he is fully qualified to choose, and he is not old enough to get married passively.

So he has to choose, he doesn't lower the standard, he thinks he can afford it completely.

But some time ago, he came to me again and said something at a loss. He shouldn't have told anyone about it, perhaps because he was too angry or because he wanted to vent his depression and no one told him. After all, everyone around him is inseparable from work, and only I am independent.

So although he always looked down on my work and my unorthodox career, he said it.

Some time ago, he had a blind date with a second married woman. The first time I heard it was a second marriage, he immediately refused, but in the end, under the threat of his parents, he went anyway. It is said that this second married woman, who works in a middle school and teaches chemistry, is also good-looking, but she was divorced once but had no children.

It is said that he is not bad, five years younger than him. You are quite right about him. But he was rude as soon as he came up. He told her frankly that he couldn't secretly love her, just to cope with errands, so that the woman wouldn't even leave her contact information or add social ways. Just eat him as a meal and leave after eating.

This blind date girl has a good personality and is not angry. After all, she had to work hard to get enough to eat, so she asked him with interest why he didn't like her. So he moved out of the metaphor of women's property.

"Men who have no ability to buy second-hand houses. I don't like it anyway. " As a result, the blind date laughed without anger and asked, "Your metaphor is wonderful. I'll take it as true. " Then I also want to ask you, you say I am a second-hand house, then what are you? "By such a rhetorical question, Zhou Heng suddenly choked. After all, no one dared to refute his theory and no one answered him. He naturally doesn't want to say anything. While he was thinking, the blind date continued.

"You don't want to good, then let me help you locate. According to your thinking logic, you are a house in a small town, but even in the best location, you are still a house in a small town, not a city. There is a word difference, but there is a big difference. You don't deny that, do you?

Moreover, at your age, it is also an old house, neither an elevator nor a villa, but a dilapidated house in the old city. It is possible to wait for the demolition, but if it is valued, where do you think the gap between you and the second-hand house is? What's worse than a villa in the suburbs?

To tell the truth, you may overestimate your value. I would rather find a newly renovated second-hand house than an old town house with outdated equipment, even a villa in the suburbs. Who wants to live in the shabby old city?

Well, I have eaten this meal. I'll give you half of this meal. I saw a joke today. I'm glad. Keep the change. Let's go. "

The eloquent Zhou Heng couldn't say a word on the spot and watched the woman leave. He was so angry that he almost vomited old blood and came to me to vomit.

"She said what is this? It's not that I don't like her, but that she doesn't like me, second-hand. How dare she say such a thing? Am I no better than her? "

As a 38-year-old leftover man, Zhou Heng has his own persistence and thinks he is good enough. Although his conditions are not bad, they are far from what he imagined.

Let's just say that his teaching career is really a stable and decent job, and it is also a popular career with advantages for women when choosing a spouse. But how much money, how special and rare it is, can't really reach this point.

Being a teacher is actually divided into professional titles, and the square face is actually unclear. I only know that if I have the ability to pursue further studies, teachers can also become high-paying occupations beyond the public's imagination, such as senior teachers. Naturally, it is extremely difficult to get this title, but if you don't work hard at all, don't have the heart and just want to eat and die, you are doomed to have no chance.

Zhou Heng, 38 years old, is mediocre. He doesn't know how to continue his study and promotion. He only regards this job as a living thing. What qualifications does he have to add color to his sense of superiority with the glory brought by this job?

Teachers are a glorious profession, but they do not represent individuals. He is not only arrogant, but also disrespectful to women, disdaining second marriage and rural background. He is just a young man in a small town, objectifying women. This idea is really incomprehensible.

Square face finally didn't convince him anything. After all, some people don't want to wake up because they live in a dream. They knew it was a dream, so why did you wake him up?

Even if you do, you won't wake a person who is pretending to sleep. People will also blame you for disturbing his dreams and being thankless. It is better to let him continue dreaming and keep his high demands. What's the story?

Yes, God has his own plan. It's up to him. No one can save him and I can't save him without changing his concept and attitude. Leave the rest to fate, wait, one day he will regret it and cry.