Spring Festival Evening sketch "Mother-in-law": Effective expression of anger can strengthen relationships.

On New Year's Eve, at the CCTV Spring Festival Gala, I was deeply impressed by Jia Ling's essay "Mother-in-law".

Jia Ling, the mother-in-law, lives in her son's house, and the son is filial to his mother and cherishes his wife. He works hard and helps his mother and daughter-in-law do housework after work. He believes that as long as the mother and wife are happy and harmonious, they will be happy no matter how hard and tired they are.

There are frequent quarrels and disputes between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law because of their different concepts and living habits.

For example, in the eyes of the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law has several major sins: First, when the mother is distressed by her son, she doesn't like the daughter-in-law always ordering her son to do housework; Moreover, the daughter-in-law bought dozens of lipsticks, wasting money; Also, the daughter-in-law asked the nanny to do housework and spent money that she shouldn't have spent. This is obviously a dislike of her incompetence; There is also a daughter-in-law who makes the decoration of her home "simple" and can't see whether it is a door or a wall, which often causes her to hit the wall.

At the same time, the daughter-in-law argued that her mother-in-law did something rude, but she insisted on hiring a nanny in order not to make her mother-in-law too tired; She is very opposed to her mother-in-law's kind of garlic in the living room, especially watering it with "farm manure", which causes serious indoor air pollution.

But because they both love the same man and don't want him to be sad because of disagreement, they all pretend to be happy, harmonious and beautiful when their son or husband is at home, just like good sisters.

On this day, three people were eating at home, and the leader of his son was drunk and went to take refuge because of a quarrel between his mother and his wife. In order to make the leader happy and prove that every family has a difficult experience, the son asked his mother and wife to pretend to quarrel and comfort the leader.

Unexpectedly, the mother-in-law immediately entered the role: the daughter-in-law happily pulled out the seedlings and destroyed the garlic seedlings that her mother-in-law had worked so hard to grow; Mother-in-law violently broke several lipsticks beloved by her daughter-in-law, and wrote a word "demolition" on that simple door! The two men quarreled so much that their son was dumbfounded. The leader hurried forward to stop the fight, and then left in comfort.

The two men had a good quarrel, and their anger subsided, so they sat down and had a heart-to-heart talk. Both of them think the plane is noisy and worthwhile, because after the quarrel, they become really friendly.

It turns out that when a daughter-in-law is angry or happy, she always calls her mother-in-law, who never leaves her mouth. My mother-in-law may also love my family and my dog. Although she is dissatisfied with her daughter-in-law's "waste" and "simplicity", she still cherishes her daughter-in-law.

So my mother-in-law said, "I'm not afraid of quarreling, as long as my heart is together." The daughter-in-law recognizes her mother-in-law's words.

No matter how fierce the quarrel between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I found out what the content of their quarrel was. As far as things are concerned, there is no attack on the other person's personality, and there are no four killers in intimate relationship (criticism, contempt, defense and building a wall are the four killers of marriage). Therefore, their quarrel did not escalate and did not destroy the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

People often have a wrong understanding of anger, sadness, fear and other emotions, thinking that these emotions are negative and bad. In particular, men can't be sad, men don't cry lightly, and men's sadness and fear are all manifestations of weakness; And women don't express anger. Angry women are rude and uneducated. Some people even regard anger as a scourge, and so on.

In fact, all emotions are a part of people, a part of life, and there is no positive or negative distinction. The angry message is: pay attention, this is very important to me.

At the same time, emotions cannot be suppressed, just like Dayu's water control, emotions can only be channeled; Otherwise, it will explode at an unexpected moment and with unexpected intensity.

At the end of the sketch, her mother-in-law told her daughter-in-law: She and her mother-in-law used to

We had a big fight and were angry with each other. After that, her relationship with her mother-in-law became closer.

Anger is very important in a relationship. It means that you are teaching yourself, teaching each other and learning to respect yourself and him, which is also a respect for the relationship. If you don't express your anger, the other party may lose this opportunity to learn.

May we all learn to express our anger effectively, that is, talk about things, not criticize and attack each other's personality. In this way, I not only expressed my feelings, but also enhanced my relationship and became a master of interpersonal relationships.