Some people listen to jokes, others watch your jokes.

I don't know if you have experienced a shortcoming that you really want to hide, or something else, but someone wants to uncover it. The more you try to hide it, the more the other person wants to get to the bottom of it. This person may be your neighbor, your relative, your colleague or close friend. How would you respond?

A person with a hot personality may forget "none of your business" directly. It's cool, but the atmosphere is awkward. And many people can't do it directly, but they don't. They are always asked, and their mood is always spoiled and annoyed. Is there a better way to respond without worrying yourself and blocking the other person's mouth?

Tell me a personal experience, hoping to give you some reference.

Married on 20 15, with no pregnancy plan for one year after marriage. When people ask me when I want to have a child, I frankly say that I have no plans for the time being. 20 16 pregnancy is on the agenda. I didn't expect a lot to happen. I'm not pregnant. After half a year, I'm a little anxious. Both sides went to the hospital for examination and found nothing wrong.

Soon, the year-end of 20 16 is coming!

During the Spring Festival, when visiting relatives and friends, I am most afraid of seven aunts and eight aunts asking questions. When I was a student, I asked you how your grades were. After work, I asked you about your salary. No one. Did you find someone? When are you getting married? When do you want to have a baby after marriage? After giving birth to a child, when will you have a second child?

And I'm in the middle of my marriage, and after two years of marriage, I didn't have a baby smoothly. I was in a bad mood, even a little inferior, afraid of being questioned about not having children, so I tried to avoid the topic of children.

However, some relatives will not let you go. You say vaguely, let nature take its course, and the other party will come up with a lot of reasons and tell you all the benefits of having children early, without any scruples about your embarrassment.

Working outside all the year round, relatives rarely meet, so it's ok to cope. But colleagues can't hide, and they are together five days a week. I can't bear to ask from time to time, are you pregnant? During the whole year of 20 17, I was extremely anxious when I saw the office where I was pregnant out of wedlock and I was pregnant with a second child. But there are always one or two colleagues who deliberately pretend not to know, and from time to time they bring the topic to me. It's like, always let me show you the wound. At first, I forbeared, but I said I was in no hurry and let it go, but I was bored.

I analyzed my psychology at that time. I don't want to admit that it is difficult for me to get pregnant. I am afraid that others will say that I have physical problems, so I am afraid that others will ask me. Over time, my mentality has changed and I want to open my heart. When others asked me again, I faced it frankly and sincerely said that I also wanted to get pregnant quickly and went to the hospital for examination. I didn't find any problems, so I was anxious. What can you do? Magical things happened, and the other person wanted to see a joke from the beginning to comfort me and let it go, and never asked me that question again.

Finally, I found myself struggling with the problem for almost a year, which was not a problem at all. If I answer sincerely from the beginning, I will face it calmly. I am afraid of being asked by others at all, so I will be so embarrassed.