Huang Lei's jokes about educating children.

In college, Huang Lei liked to tease her roommates to call herself "Dad", hoping to grow up quickly.

Later, he really went from "youth" to "middle age" and became a father. More and more people began to say that he was "full of dad", and he missed himself and those people in the past more and more:

"1990, I especially like Jonathan Lee's" Endless Loneliness "and think it is a terrible thing to live to 30 years old. Always want to grow up quickly. As a result, I accompanied many students to school that day and watched the students running on the playground. I felt that it was good to be young. "

Before Xiao Min's home, Huang Lei seldom missed it. Star teacher, "God Operator", good man, Huang Chu ... There are many labels on him, but few can be overturned, and "perfection" is closely related to him.

But at the age of 50, Huang Lei began to face a "crisis of confidence".

Jia's reputation and highly similar role setting make public opinion question his ability to shape roles-

Aside from the highly subjective topic of "acting", the audience wants to know whether he can play a role other than "Huang Lei-style good man".

Huang Lei's "Xiao Min Jia" stills

This discussion began about six years ago.

In 20 16, Huang Lei became "Fiona Fang" in A Little Parting, and three years later, he appeared in A Little Joy with the same name.

In fact, there is not much connection between the two TV series in plot setting and character relationship, but the names of the hero and heroine "Fiona Fang" and "Tong" are still used. Huang Lei, one of the screenwriters of Little Joy, gave the following reasons:

"They are the most common names, and everyone will meet people named after' circle' and' clean' in their lives." Compared with a single character, he hopes that the audience can see the real life through the characters in the play.

In his view, this is also the most important element of realistic works-observation and thinking about present life.

So in "Little Parting" and "Little Joy", those traces of Huang Lei's life are clearly visible.

Stills of Huang Lei and Christina's Little Joy

Like Fiona Fang in the two plays, Huang Lei in real life also attaches importance to family and friends.

He and his family lived in a villa on the outskirts of Beijing until his eldest daughter went to middle school. The house is far from the city, not far from the mountain. He doesn't go to town or make any unnecessary dates unless he has to. His greatest pleasure in daily life is cooking in the kitchen and making bread and biscuits with his family.

Huang Lei likes to invite his friends to his house for a party on days when filming is not needed. Those friends are also neighbors-because they like the feeling of getting together very much. Many years ago, they bought a house in the same place, including the famous violinist Lv Siqing.

Huang Lei, Lv Siqing.

Comfortable and free, calm and exquisite.

This is the life that Huang Lei yearns for and is experiencing. He wrote it into the script, and a phenomenon appeared. In his works, the audience has never seen the real "poor" and "sleepy":

The mother who holds five school districts in Beijing, the father who spends tens of thousands of yuan to buy a birthday present for his daughter, the child who will go abroad to study and take an examination of Tsinghua Peking University, and the "most ordinary" children who earn tens of thousands of yuan a month. ...

These are real people who have appeared in Huang Lei's life, but they are of little reference significance to the ordinary audience.

Stills of Huang Lei and Christina's Little Parting

The suspended "realism" is more obvious in Xiao Min's Home.

Huang Lei was only 50 when he played Chen Zhuo in the play.

As the chief screenwriter, he tried to discuss the love and choice of middle-aged people at this age from the perspective of "an experienced person", but as a result, almost none of the entanglements, helplessness, redemption and reconciliation he desperately wanted to express were seen by the audience.

Instead, it is an "eight-point dog blood drama" that is completely divorced from real life.

In order to pay off his father's debts, he skipped class and went to the Internet cafe to practice games. Before the college entrance examination, it only took him a few days to repeat his studies, and he was successfully admitted to Tsinghua University's son.

An out-of-touch mother left her hometown because of the scandal and lived independently for more than ten years, but she didn't even learn to fry eggs;

In his thirties, he was confused by the sweet words of his new boyfriend after divorce, and met aunt PUA after his second flash marriage;

When a man quit his job and started a business in middle age, his father who was diagnosed with cancer was about to have a fruitful career and love.

Looking at the role setting in Xiao Min Jia alone, the problem is obvious: putting too many labels on the same role will only blur the key points and make people feel jumbled and false.

As for the plot setting, as the chief screenwriter, Huang Lei also chose a very "pleasing" way, that is, no matter how tortuous and bizarre the process is, it must have a happy ending in the end.

Huang Lei Zhou Xun's "Xiao Min's Home" stills

In fact, there is nothing wrong with Huang Lei's choice, because most of today's film and television works adopt the same narrative method.

When Huang Lei participated in the script creation of Little Joy, she took her friend "Sister Wang" as the prototype and wrote the role (played by Yongmei), a gentle and capable cancer mother.

"Little Joy" Yongmei plays Liu Jing

It's just different from the ending of the characters in the TV series. The real sister Wang didn't wait for a "recovery and discharge" ending. She died at the beginning of 20 15, leaving a sad husband and young children.

In order to make up for the real regret, Huang Lei chose to give Liu Jing a perfect ending in the play. He interprets this behavior of relieving depression as "TV works need to comfort people and need simplicity", so he doesn't like too naked conflicts and regrets.

Stills of Huang Lei and Christina's Little Joy

On the one hand, it emphasizes "listening, seeing and feeling", on the other hand, it selectively abandons reality in order to cater to "happy reunion".

This kind of Huang Lei seems to be contradictory and self-consistent.

According to his theory, if the core of realistic works is to feel and think about the current real life, then the "little joy", "little separation" and "Xiao Min's home" he described are the reality he saw.

Just like people who have never experienced hunger, they can't understand what hunger means; Huang Lei, who has not experienced hardships and setbacks, cannot deconstruct the forms of regrets and setbacks.

Stills of Huang Lei and Zifeng Zhang's "Little Parting"

"He has been used to being superior since he was a child." This is Sun's evaluation of Huang Lei.

In Sun's view, Huang Lei, a good friend, is the most unacceptable person in the Extreme Men's Gang, because it is a life he has never experienced.

Huang Lei loves drama so much that he co-sponsored Wuzhen Drama Festival with Lai Shengchuan, Meng Jinghui and Chen Xianghong, not to make money, but to commemorate and realize his dream.

Today, drama has been classified as "minority culture". Once upon a time, Huang Lei could not accept this classification. "I heard that I am 4 or 50 years old and have never been to the theater, so I don't understand, because I grew up on the stage." .

Before indulging in the role of a "good man" with his wife and children around the stove, Huang Lei left the deepest impression as a "literary youth".

1990 Huang Lei has just been admitted to the Beijing Film Academy, and she received a phone call from her assistant Chen Kaige before school started. When Chen Kaige was casting for the film Walking and Singing, he was asked if he would like to audition at the Beijing Film Studio.

Huang Lei didn't care, just thought it was a fun thing, so he rode his bike to the studio. It's sunny in summer, and the more he pushes, the more excited he becomes. When he finally reached the place, he pushed open the door of the reception room and shouted, "Who is Chen Kaige? He wants to see me. "

At this glance, Chen Kaige decided that Huang Lei could play Xiaoshi, a blind apprentice, in the film. This role was "a little melancholy and awkward between the eyebrows", so it was very suitable for performing literary films.

Huang Lei's "Walking and Singing" Stills

When Huang Lei played "Walking and Singing" 19 years old. He didn't learn anything about acting in one day, but he was familiar with it.

Huang Lei's father, Huang Xiaoli, is a national first-class actor and has been busy in the National Theatre all his life. When Huang Lei was a child, he went to the troupe to find his father. At the age of five, in order to "save the scene", he disguised as a man and played the role of a walk-on, which was the first time in his life.

When the performance is busy, adults often neglect him, so he stays in the side lamp and quietly observes the actor's every move. A few years later, he learned drama-

In the future, the same experience was also engraved on the growth path of Huang Lei's eldest daughter Huang Duoduo.

During the tour of the drama Peach Blossom Spring starring Huang Lei and Sun Li, Duo Duo often accompanied his parents. After the curtain call, Huang Lei used to listen to the audience rustling through the curtain.

At this time, Duoduo will run on the stage and celebrate the success of the performance with the actors. The curtain falls, applause and career come first, and love and family come last. "It was the best moment of my life."

Huang Lei's childhood stage stills (the "girl" sitting on the actor's leg in the first row)

Huang Lei's lofty and romantic nature is innate, which is a gift from an artistic family and a temperament endowed by the times.

In the 1990s, China was in an era of "literature and art" flooding.

Huang Lei studied in Beijing Film Academy. In order to catch up with fashion and times, he grew long hair and bought a dozen identical white shirts in one breath. No matter how cold it is, he wears a pair of tight jeans. "You can't wear long pants inside. Anyone who wears them will laugh."

At that time, he was very sad every day. There were always two points of contempt in his eyes, three points of sadness and five points of indifference. He likes to play guitar under the tree alone, sing a campus folk song and occasionally light a cigarette. At the age of twenty, smoke covered his face. Everyone is at a loss and indifferent to the world, but why are they sad? He doesn't know that "Wen Qing" has to be suppressed anyway, otherwise people will collapse.

After that, every time someone described him as "cold", he would smile and say, "At that time, everyone was like this. In fact, the times were too cold."

Huang Lei as a student.

Growing up in such an era, Huang Lei was doomed not to associate with vulgarity.

When he was in college, everyone was poor, but even so, he had to find ways to create romance and make life more ceremonial. At that time, he would go to the shopping mall opposite the school to buy some ingredients, candles and beer.

When there is no class, he will wash his washbasin inside and outside with boiling water, then make a bowl full of fruit and vegetable salad and invite girls to hold a small song and dance party in the dormitory.

The party usually starts in the afternoon. After the lights are turned off in the dormitory, Huang Lei will light red candles. Boys and girls who don't know how to fall in love get together. They sing folk songs, play guitar and dance ballroom dancing on the dormitory wall. "Sometimes they secretly hug", which feels really beautiful.

Wen Qing Huang Lei

When no girls visit the dormitory, Huang Lei can only make fun of the people around him.

He likes to study diet. He sliced a steamed bread, wrapped the eggs in an alcohol pot and fried them. The delicious smell instantly filled the whole corridor.

Whenever this time, it is the busiest time in Huang Lei dormitory. Several big boys huddled together to compete for the fried steamed bread slices that had just been made. Huang Lei dodged and jokingly said, "Call Dad, call me Dad and I'll give it to you."

Roommates are not angry, and often follow his instructions and willingly call them "Dad". Among these many "sons", Wu Jiang, a good brother who sleeps in the lower berth, is also included.

"Nortel" students pose with Huang Lei (pink in the first row) and Wujiang (gray in the last row).

Maybe it's because I'm used to it. As a student, Huang Lei was particularly keen on being a "father".

1994 or so, Huang Lei made an advertisement for Dabao SOD honey, with one shot and one line. He can earn 400 yuan money in a day. When he came back to school with his salary, the first thing he did was to invite all the buddies in the dormitory out for dinner. Seeing his roommate eating Haisai, he was extremely proud. "At that moment, I felt that I was the father of people all over the world."

Huang Lei joked with his classmates and said "Call Dad".

"The Flower of Father's Love" keeps blooming in Huang Lei's heart, which often makes Wujiang, who sleeps in the lower bunk, feel ashamed.

Wujiang is the monitor of the performance department of Nortel, but because he is too lazy, he simply started as the shopkeeper of cutting. At that time, Wujiang's mantra was "I take this matter very lightly". Huang Lei thought it was interesting, so he wrote it on a piece of red cloth and hung it on his bed with Wujiang.

Several times, outsiders pushed open the door of Huang Lei's dormitory and saw Wujiang lying on the bed, with a word "light" on his head, commanding Huang Lei to pour tea.

Huang Lei was never angry about it. On the contrary, he likes to be busy. After a long time, he became the "acting monitor", and he had to ask questions about everything in the class.

A group photo of Huang Lei when he was a student. On the red cloth on the right rear, it says "light" Huang Lei (left and blue in the second row), Gu Changwei (left and white in the first row), Jiang Wen (two flowers on the right in the first row) and Wujiang (red in the second right in the second row).

Today, he still keeps this habit.

Now, when you and Huang Lei walk into any cast, he must be the most worried person on the scene. Props, costumes, restaurants, scripts, actors ... He likes to ask trivial details and is willing to solve trivial problems.

Song Jia therefore "laughed" at his nagging, "like an aunt in the street", and the image of "Leng Yan literary youth" was shattered in his early years, but he didn't refute it with a smile.

Think about it, too. At the age of 32, Huang Lei wrote, directed and acted Time flies. His thick hair stood upright and his delicate face was wrinkle-free. He reads and writes in a bookstore in Wuzhen all day, and his watery eyes look at everyone affectionately.

Huang Lei's Stills of Time flies

Many years later, he gained weight and his age jumped from youth to middle age. Let him hold Rene Liu's hand and run in the alley of Wuzhen, just like those years. Even he said, "Isn't that old and not serious?" .

In 2003, Huang Lei and Rene Liu's Time flies.

Listening to Huang Lei is mixed.

Hi, because he talks a lot and can make every sentence clear, which is often quite rewarding;

Worried because he talks too much.

Around 20 17, Huang Lei was pushed to the forefront for the first time because of "talking too much".

During that time, I participated in the recording of popular variety shows such as Extreme Challenge, Life I yearn for and Where is Dad going. More and more exposure has consolidated his image as a "god operator", a good father and a yellow chef. At the same time, the discussion of "Huang Lei talks too much" has followed.

Looking back at Huang Lei's previous video interviews, people can easily see his exuberant desire for expression. Even in the face of the most prosaic topics, he can talk for a long time in Kan Kan.

Some people say that this is Huang Lei's "occupational disease" when he was teaching in Nortel, but his students think that in many cases, it is enough to shock everyone without him saying more.

1997, graduated from Huang Lei, and became popular all over the country with "Midnight Singing". However, out of admiration and love for the teaching profession, he decided to stay in school to teach. In the same year, he became the head teacher of Hai Qing and Huang Hai Bo.

When he became a teacher of Nortel, Huang Lei was 26 years old and the oldest student in the class was 24 years old. The teacher-student relationship between peers is usually subtle, but in Christina's memory, being a student in Huang Lei is a terrible thing. "He is so clever that we are not qualified to fight with him. When he gets angry, everyone is afraid. "

Huang Lei angered the students for being "heartless".

I remember that when I first went to school in Nortel, Christina was quite dissatisfied with Huang Lei as the head teacher. She felt that the young teacher was unreliable. "Besides, she is still a star and feels that she will be in his hands."

Christina has been reluctant to go on stage for a long time to express her dissatisfaction. When others were busy rehearsing sketches in class, she ran outside the classroom and leaned against the door frame to smoke. A few days later, while she was smoking, she met Huang Lei. Before her reaction, Lei Huang opened his mouth and shouted:

"What are you doing? What it's like for a woman to play around with flowers on her head and skip class and smoke! No smoking! "

Because of this sentence, Christina "feared" him for four years.

Many years later, when Christina first met Toto, she would say to Huang Lei, "I dare not look at Toto. Her eyes are too similar to yours. I am afraid. "

Christina, Huang Lei.

Nana and Deng Chao were also "scared".

At that time, Nana lost her admission ticket when she took the Nortel Art Examination. As an examiner, Huang Lei asked her, "Why didn't you lose yourself?"

The next day, Deng Chao also went to the exam. Before the exam began, Huang Lei said, "Deng Chao, put your legs down, your gums are vomiting!"

Huang Lei has a natural deterrent, which is an unquestionable self-confidence.

Huang Hai Bo also said that whenever someone glared at him and said "get out", he would immediately turn around and leave the rehearsal hall, as if standing in the same place for one second was a big mistake.

Huang Hai Bo, Huang Lei, Christina

No one can tell where Huang Lei's "magic" came from.

The smooth growth and fame experience seems to be his self-confidence overlooking everything. This condescending gesture is occasionally interpreted as "arrogance", and Huang Lei is also somewhat helpless:

"I can't help it. I am very strong at work, but I can't control my mouth. "

As a wife, Sun Li occasionally thinks that Huang Lei is "strict". It's just that what she feels is more tacit understanding and consideration between lovers than the fear between teachers and students.

In daily life, Huang Lei is the leader of the family.

Before they participated in the talk show together, Jing Li, the host, asked Sun Li who would compromise first if there was a conflict between husband and wife. Sun Li replied:

"He is in love, I am married. Sometimes I think I'm right, but he keeps talking and I wonder if I'm really wrong. "

Sun Li was helpless, but after thinking about it, she said with a smile, in fact, this is also quite good, "because she is a person with no ideas."

After 27 years of love, Sun Li has been able to live in harmony with Huang Lei's wisdom and strength.

Huang Lei and Sun Li.

The fate of the two began with love at first sight.

That year, Sun Li and her father went to Nortel from Dalian to take an art test, and happened to meet Huang Lei, a graduate student who was a teaching assistant in the examination room. She mistook him for a teacher and always called him "Miss Huang". The other party did not deny it, but promised not to say it. After the exam, she also scolded Sun Li: "How old are you? How can you keep your father busy?"

Recalling the first meeting with her lover, Sun Li said, "At that time, I thought this person was quite nosy."

Shortly after this, Sun Li entered the school, and Huang Lei chatted with girls for dinner from time to time. At that time, he and young artists such as Gao, Zheng Jun formed a music group, and several people got together to exchange music when they were free.

During the rehearsal, Huang Lei often saw Lao Lang accompanied by a beautiful girl. Gao told him that it was his girlfriend Pan's. They began to fall in love in high school-they became husband and wife many years later-they met from 1988 and fell in love with Pan for 34 years.

Seeing the beautiful woman in her buddy's arms, Lei Huang was so envious that she called Sun Li to the dormitory the next day. He asked her, "Can we fall in love?" She lowered her head and said nothing. He said: "If you think you can, just nod your head; No, just shaking my head. " She still didn't speak, just kept nodding.

1995101On October 24th, 24-year-old Huang Lei and 18-year-old Sun Li officially confirmed their relationship. "From that day on, I felt that we were destined to be together all the time."

Huang Lei and Sun Li as students.

Nine years later, in 2004, Huang Lei was busy writing, directing and starring in the second TV series "Yi Tian Shui Sheng".

One day, an actor of the crew found him and said that March 8 this year was a good day and he wanted to take a day off to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau and go through the marriage formalities with his girlfriend.

Huang Lei thought for a moment and turned to Sun Li, who was also in the crew, and said, "Let's get the license on this day, too. The masters are all good. "

A few days later, the two went through the formalities at the Civil Affairs Bureau with their certificates. They didn't have a banquet, didn't wear a wedding dress or buy a ring, and their lovers for many years became husband and wife.

To commemorate, Huang Lei only brought a hand-held DV to track the whole process. Coming out of the Civil Affairs Bureau, he asked his wife what she expected for the future. Sun Li replied, "You will always take care of me."

Huang Lei nodded and said, "good".

Today, it seems that Huang Lei is trying to realize his original promise.

After marriage, Sun Li stopped performing except drama and devoted most of his time and energy to his family.

In 2005, in order to take care of his pregnant wife, Huang Lei suspended all her work and concentrated on washing and cooking for her lover at home.

Until Duoduo was born, Sun Li gained 60 Jin and Huang Lei gained more than 20 Jin. This year, he was 34 years old and gradually began to gain weight.

Except Huang Lei himself, everyone is not ready to get fat.

When she grew up, Huang Lei accepted the invitation of Zhao Baogang and filmed Defending Marriage, with Ethan as her partner.

When they met, Ethan's first reaction was, "Why is he so fat? It is too much to sacrifice for the play. " .

Stills of Huang Lei and Ethan's "Defence of Marriage"

"Literary youth" began to transition to "middle-aged uncle".

20 15, Song Jia and 44-year-old Huang Lei play the TV series "Hey! Old man. When Song Jia learned the news, she was so excited that she wandered around the room. She is nine years younger than Huang Lei. According to her, she grew up listening to Huang Lei's songs.

Huang Lei was just 26 when he wore his first album "Walking and Singing" with a turtleneck, and Song Jia was fascinated by him. In order to be idolized, she learned every song of Huang Lei and watched every TV play of Huang Lei.

Huang Lei's "Walking and Singing"

In those years, Huang Lei in Song Jia's heart was Xu Zhimo wearing a gown and gold-rimmed glasses in April. Rong lingers between love and not love in The Orange is Red. She especially likes Huang Lei's long hair style in the night song, which is "so handsome".

Stills of Huang Lei and Jacklyn Wu's "Midnight Singing"

18 After "Singing while Walking", Song Jia finally got the opportunity to cooperate with idols, and the image of male gods completely "collapsed".

Shoot "Hey! In "The Old Man", Huang Lei just gave birth to a second child, and she is obviously fat and indifferent.

Huang Lei and Song Jia, hey! Stills of the old man

At that time, he sat in the alley and chatted with others every day in big shorts and short-sleeved flip-flops. In order to accompany his family, he chose most of his work places in Beijing. No matter how late it is, he will go home to sleep.

Everyone thinks that Huang Lei has changed. Even his wife Sun Li said that there is no need to spend too much energy and time in the kitchen. "I know he has many dreams, and I hope he can realize them step by step." .

When his wife said this, Huang Lei was stretching his legs and collapsed on the sofa. He was silent for a few seconds, then scratched his head and said, "Actually, I don't have any dreams. Everything is fine now."

I have a career, a family and food and clothing. "Isn't this perfect? I am easily satisfied. "

In recent years, there have been more and more discussions about Huang Lei's "daddy flavor".

There are two explanations for this emerging online vocabulary on popular science websites:

One is that men are full of father's love, whether external or internal, Huang Lei basically meets;

The other is a man who wants to be someone else's father all day, likes preaching, but knows nothing, is too self-centered, male chauvinistic and a little greasy.

From the second point of view, Huang Lei's "The Taste of Dad" has some room for discussion.

Huang Lei has always felt that he is not "boyish".

A few years ago, netizens said that he was "artificially collapsed" and his words became more and more tired. He saw it clearly and said to his friend Gao, "When you interviewed me 800 years ago, I was very talkative and loved cooking. I'm not Pu Shu's type. "

Huang Lei feels that nothing has changed, but compared with the past, she can't see her "cold" temperament now.

Wen Qing Huang Lei

"Uncle" Huang Lei

Compared with the contemporary Wen Qing, Huang Lei was the first person to fall into the mortal world. Today, he is talkative and smooth, and likes to say a few chicken soup quotations from time to time, all of which reveal the ordinary behavior of ordinary middle-aged men.

He likes to recall the past more and more, and often can't say two words, so he began to recall that year and felt that he really had the taste of "dad."

But this is the reality. Some men are eager to be "teenagers until they die", and some men fantasize that they will become "fathers of people all over the world" just after they turn 20.

Different personal choices lead to different results.

There is no magnificent story to urge Huang Lei to "see through the world of mortals". Perhaps, he just accepted the years calmly and gradually gained weight.

"People grow up, become cunning and laugh at themselves. At this age, I may be hesitant, but I decided not to talk about it. I decided to say something about daily necessities. My parents are short and don't delve into it. "

He left that cold time, waved his sleeves and bid farewell to his former self.

After Chen Zhiyuan, the singer's arranger and best friend, died, Huang Lei stopped singing, because he thought the people who knew him best in the music industry were gone.

It was not until several decades later, when his friends Lao Lang and Zheng Jun visited the life of desire, that he sang again. At that time, Lao Lang still had long hair to play the guitar, Zheng Jun was still rocking, Huang Lei was wearing sunglasses and singing "I miss you every day", and then suddenly he said to He Jiong around him:

"This song was written by Chen Zhiyuan."

He hasn't forgotten the past days, but he just doesn't know how to mention it.

1995, Huang Lei, 24 years old, filmed "Midnight Singing" with Leslie Cheung. The night before shooting, he and Leslie Cheung were chatting on the set, and the other party asked him, "Have you heard the songs in this movie?"

Huang Lei shook his head, and Leslie Cheung smiled and said, "Then I'll sing you a song."

At the end of the song, Huang Lei only felt that he was too awesome. "That's Leslie Cheung. He sang three songs for me alone. "

After the film was finished, he followed the crew to Hong Kong to attend the film premiere. Afterwards, he went to the top of Taiping Mountain to see the night scene and the lights at his feet. He thought:

"Sooner or later, I will conquer here." Why conquer? How to conquer? He doesn't know. Anyway, ignorant people are fearless.

Huang Lei, Leslie Cheung.

Later, Leslie Cheung jumped from a tall building, and Huang Lei never appeared in a movie like Singing One Night.

Almost 20 years later, he came to Hong Kong again with the crew of Peach Blossom Spring. He went to the top of Taiping Mountain to see the night scene. The evening breeze brushed his hair, wrinkles and slightly stiff stomach.

Then he thought:

"What can I conquer? I can conquer nothing. "