Why do I always stay up late?

First of all, we should realize the importance of genes and environment. Some people are naturally inclined to stay up late, and lighting, noise and roommates will all affect their sleep time.

Besides that? The habit of staying up late can be preserved because it meets some of our psychological needs. Humans are so smart that they won't do anything completely useless.

Today, I will share with you a hot list of staying up late, listing 7 common reasons for staying up late. Let's see who you are.

0 1 It's your own only when you stay up late.

There is a word called "retaliatory staying up late", which means that some people are too busy during the day and work overtime until nine o'clock at night. Although I am very tired when I get home, I still can't bear to sleep.

Someone in the early bed group said, "It doesn't matter what you do staying up late, sometimes it's just a daze. What is important is that only the time to stay up late is your own. "

Retaliatory staying up late is to compensate for the repressed entertainment needs during the day, to silently resist the occupation of life by work, and to try to find back their sense of control over life. After completing this ceremony, we can finally believe that this is my life, not just a screw life, and then sleep peacefully.

Staying up late shows that I have worked hard enough.

Some highly motivated people stay up late not for fun, but because they don't work hard enough during the day and are embarrassed to sleep without doing something serious at night.

Young people have a lot of anxiety: they are worried about being laid off in middle age; Worried that you can't buy a house and get married; Worried about parents' health; Worried about food quality and air safety; Worried that tomorrow is the deadline again ... these are all anxiety caused by reality.

There are also some anxieties, which come from the requirements of superego: fear of being abandoned by peers;

Worried that they are not good enough;

Worrying about not giving children a higher starting point. ...

All these worries can be summed up as "I'm not working hard enough".

Working late at night is an explanation for superego and strict parents: you see I have worked hard enough, don't punish me.

Fighting death anxiety by staying up late

Fighting against sleep, the symbolic meaning is fighting against death. Every day seems like a short life. Staying up late can get more time (an illusion). As long as I don't sleep, the day is not over, and I won't face death so soon. I can do more.

People who can't sleep because of this idea are not lacking in self-discipline, but are too eager to live and want to make their lives richer and more meaningful.

Hurt yourself by staying up late.

Staying up late may lead to obesity, memory loss, decreased immunity, and increased risk of heart disease and cancer. Like smoking and drinking and not eating on time, staying up late belongs to chronic self-harm. When a person knows that something is harmful to him, but takes the initiative to do it, he is probably attacking himself.

So, why do people do this? Maybe I don't think I have value, I don't deserve a better life, I only deserve a chaotic life. Staying up late is an effective way to make life chaotic.

It is not darkness that stays up late to avoid, but oneself.

Some people insist on not sleeping because they are afraid of the dark and ghosts, so they have to turn on the light.

We are worried that if these impulses are expressed, they will hurt others and destroy the world. When these impulses are unacceptable, they can only be projected to the outside world, as if something would hurt us, such as darkness and ghosts.

It's not the night, it's loneliness.

Some people find it easy to fall asleep when their partners or roommates are around. I often stay up late when I am alone, and I have to play with my mobile phone in bed for a while until I am very sleepy. Stay up late when you are alone, and play mobile phone before going to bed. To some extent, you want to keep in touch with others and defend your inner loneliness.

Adults' mobile phones and children's bears all play the role of alternative objects. Once you fall asleep, you can only put down your mobile phone, disconnect from others, and lose the object you can attach to.

Staying up late is secondary.

Staying up late is a kind of self-discipline. Self-limitation is a defensive behavior of setting obstacles for yourself in advance in view of possible failure.

Although this kind of behavior can avoid the frustration caused by their own lack of ability and temporarily maintain their sense of self-worth, it reduces the possibility of success. Thanks for staying up late, the second in command, which makes us feel full of potential.