What you lack is understanding

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Many years ago, when I was working in a rural middle school, there was a joke that remained fresh in my memory.

One day, Teacher A asked Student B to help him serve two noodles. Teacher A handed Student B 2 yuan of money and a lunch box, and said: "So-and-so, help me bring 2 yuan of sausage." Student B took the money and lunch box and responded readily: "Okay."

After a while, student B completed the task, and teacher A opened the lunch box. Except for the fat intestine soup, not even a single noodle could be taken out. Teacher A immediately stopped the student, gave him another 1 yuan, and said: "This time, please help me bring 1 yuan of noodles."

After a while, student B ran back sweating profusely. . Teacher A opened the lunch box and saw that this time the lunch box contained a ball of steaming, wrinkled noodles. The previous fat intestine soup had been poured out by Student B out of his cleverness.

So, Teacher A told everyone about the weird things that happened to him, and everyone laughed. Then Student B was too "bad". Student B usually feels a little stunned, but no one has figured it out. Why can't he understand that when he serves pork sausage in the morning, it should be pork sausage noodles?

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On the way to Qianhu Miao Village in Guizhou during summer vacation, my daughter was very interested in the intelligent navigation system in the car. Along the way, she asked questions tirelessly: "Xiaoyi, I want to listen to Jay Chou's songs." "Xiaoyi, can you meow like a cat?"... My daughter couldn't stop talking, and she asked: "Xiaoyi, who are you? Man or woman?" The people in the car couldn't help laughing, the smart wing got stuck and ignored their daughter.

This smart little Tsubasa who answers all questions will probably be short-circuited when encountering the situational dialogue in "My Sassy Girl". In the movie, the heroine called the hero and said:

"If you arrive and I haven't arrived yet, just wait;

If I arrive and you haven't arrived yet, Then you just wait;

If you don’t wait for me when you arrive, then you just wait.”

Although the three words “wait” have the same pronunciation, they have different meanings. In fact, not only the scenes in the movie, but also the serious men in real life may have similarities and differences with Smart Xiaoyi.

One day, girlfriends gathered together to chat about their families’ gossip:

Girlfriend C said: My husband asked me: “Honey, today is our wedding anniversary, what do you want? "Flowers? I'll buy them for you." The wife pretended not to, but the husband didn't say anything after that, and C was completely disappointed.

Girlfriend D said: Early on Valentine's Day, my husband said to me: "Honey, I will buy roses for you later tonight, okay? Because they are beautiful and cheap." I guess D was heartbroken at that time...

"Men are from Venus, Women are from Mars" mentioned that the way of thinking of men and women is actually different. Men pay more attention to how to solve problems, while women care about being understood emotionally, focusing on the word "understanding". Everyone does things for a reason. If you learn to understand and think about problems from the perspective of others, perhaps the actions and results you decide will be different. Can it be understood that a person with high emotional intelligence is precisely because he understands thoroughly and thinks deeply!

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This is not only true in life, but also in learning. The difficulty in learning does not lie in memorizing things by rote, but in your lack of understanding and insufficient thinking.

Many people are particularly afraid of math word problems and feel that they cannot understand the meaning of the questions. In fact, life and study are interlinked. First of all, you simply separate life and study; secondly, if you have not experienced specific life experiences such as buying and selling, depositing, etc., you will not be able to understand the meaning of the question at all.

One day, I saw my daughter’s word problem: There is a large bucket. After adding 9 small buckets of water to it, the bucket weighs 145 kilograms. I asked my daughter if she understood the meaning of the question. She nodded. Then, I asked her why 9 small buckets of water were added? What does "bucket" mean that weighs 145 kilograms even with the bucket? My daughter can answer them all. So, I believed that she would have no problem solving this word problem. It can be seen that the basic skills such as Chinese reading comprehension ability and word articulation need to be very solid.

Finally, conceptual learning in various subjects is also very important.

Linguists point out that if a person does not have a certain concept in his mind, he will not be inclined to think about it. If the concept definition is inaccurate or the concept is understood incorrectly, it will also lead to people's behavioral errors. For example, if you don't know the properties of angle bisectors, you won't be able to understand what it means to tell you "the distance from a certain store to two roads is equal" in a ruler and compass diagram. In the same way, if you don't understand which knowledge point this question is applied to, you will be confused. Therefore, it is hard work to thoroughly understand the ins and outs of each knowledge point. At the same time, learning to think from other people's perspective and understanding the intention of the question maker through the question itself is a good way for you to solve questions in a flash and with repeated trials.

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A psychologist once conducted an interesting experiment: two patterns were drawn on both sides of a piece of paper - a bird and a truck. Then have a 2-year-old child and an adult each look at one side of the paper. What the 2-year-old child saw was a bird, and he firmly believed that what the adult opposite saw was also a bird. The level of understanding of a 2-year-old child is that what he thinks he sees is what you see.

This is what psychology calls "self-centeredness." Being self-centered is not selfish. It means that I think that what I see is what others see; what I feel will be what others feel, and other people's feelings are the same as mine...

Maturity is the process of getting rid of self-centeredness. In the experience of life, you will slowly grow up and gradually understand: people are different, everyone is unique, and their opinions will be different. , the ideas will be different. The world is not as I want it to be, but as it is.

Russell said: "It must be understood that diversity is the source of happiness." Indeed, if a person does not stick to his own world, he will jump out of the one-dimensional black and white world; If you understand and think about problems from other people's perspectives, you will discover a unique, rich and diverse world.