The bride opened the red envelope tea on the spot and was slapped by her husband. Do you still want to get married?

I often tell you that in the process of talking about marriage, even after marriage, don't take your aunt's shelf and love as a foot-binding, and put forward unreasonable conditions to force the man's family to agree.

Now that you are ready to start a family, you should understand and understand the difficulties of the other party and your family, be more sympathetic and make some reasonable concessions. This is not only to give each other a step, but also to pave the way for their own happiness, and to gain each other's respect and future goodwill with their generosity.

This is very important. If you just think about yourself and care about immediate interests, then marriage will lose its original meaning. There is no tolerance, no love, only material considerations. Even if you get married, you will be defeated by trivial things and hurt by strangers who can't be intimate in the dull marriage life. After all, it won't last. Unreasonable conditions will only hurt marriage, even hurt yourself, no matter what the reason, it is not desirable.

As the other party, when you are troubled by unreasonable conditions, you have the right to never promise, and the worst result is nothing more than a slap in the face, but at least you are trying to safeguard your legitimate rights and interests, challenge unreasonable conditions, and don't encourage the other party to be arrogant. There's nothing wrong with that.

But if the other party's unreasonable conditions, you agreed, Lian Fang suggested that you should also do it, keep your word, which is the criterion of being a man.

No matter whether the conditions are reasonable or not, when you have promised, in fact, for both parties, you have reached an understanding on this matter. At this time, the nature of things has changed. You have reason not to promise, but once you promise, you won't cash it. It is no longer a dispute about whether the conditions are reasonable, but a quality issue.

People are sincere-oriented. If you can't do it, don't promise. No one can force you to agree. No one can blame you. But if you can't, you can agree. If your integrity is damaged, the problem is no longer the other party, but you.

Xiao Wei got married in his hometown on10.2, and he is also the hero of the story. Xiao Wei is 25 years old and has ordinary family conditions. After graduation, he didn't develop in big cities like his brothers, but returned to his hometown and took an supernumerary job in a public institution.

Due to personal ability and limited university education, Xiao Wei failed to pass the exam for several years in a row. Later, disheartened Xiao Wei quit his job. After his dream of entering the system was shattered, with the support of his parents, Xiao Wei opened a photo studio and a copy shop next to the primary school in his hometown.

Although I don't earn much, at least I have a serious business. Although Xiao Wei is young and his friends in big cities are not married, the atmosphere in small towns is different from that in big cities. In the eyes of the older generation, carrying on the family line is more important than career success. At the age of 24, Xiao Wei began to be urged by his parents to find someone to marry.

Under the introduction of the matchmaker, Xiao Wei met Lily. Lily and Xiao Wei have similar family conditions and are not bad-looking, but youth is capital. Young Lily is cheerful, but some little girls are arrogant and willful, and sometimes they hurt others. Generally speaking, they are not bad girls.

On the whole, Xiao Wei still likes this girl very much. During their one-year stay together, they had no material worries or real worries, and they got along fairly well, and their feelings were very harmonious. A year later, both parents began to plan the marriage of Xiao Wei and Lily. However, in the process of talking about marriage, it did not go smoothly as expected, and contradictions and problems gradually emerged.

When the girl comes up, she needs180,000 bride price, 50,000 gold and 38,800 small gifts. Weddings and wedding photos should be the best, but this set of things will be fatal.

Xiao Wei's family is not rich, so it is necessary to buy a wedding room for the young couple. I really can't get the money, but the attitude of the woman's family is very firm, indicating that there is no room for half a concession. Xiao Wei negotiated many times and failed in the end.

As for his girlfriend Lili, she also threw herself into her parents' home, and didn't consider Xiao Wei's family at all. Xiao Wei always shows Lily her difficulties, but her girlfriend turns a deaf ear to them.

"This is your home, it doesn't matter with me. These standards are not demanded by our family out of thin air. Don't you go out and have a look. Nowadays, there are not so many wives and fewer jokes. Besides, it doesn't cost a lot of money for a boy to marry a wife. Can you marry a daughter-in-law? Really, you want to short gloves, white wolf, I'm not stupid. If you can't agree to these conditions, you can't marry me. "

Xiao Wei was very angry, but in the end, considering various factors, feelings and costs, he finally decided to agree to the conditions of Lili's family and cobble together various gifts.

These gifts made Xiao Wei's family hard up, but fortunately, the woman let go and the marriage went smoothly. Fortunately, everyone got what they needed, but just a few days before the wedding, the woman's family put forward another fee.

How much is the charge? It's tea given to in-laws on the wedding day and red envelopes given by elders. Lili believes that in front of all relatives and friends, future in-laws should give their newly married wives the highest praise, which should not be so superficial with their mouths, but should be expressed with substantive actions, that is, the amount of red envelopes.

The woman's family asked for 100 10 yuan, which is one in a million, and now she wants 10000 yuan. This woman knew that Xiao Wei's family would never refuse. After all, the bride price has been spent, even if she is unhappy, why not get married for this 10 thousand piece? This is impossible, so the woman's attitude is obvious.

This made Xiao Wei very angry, but as this woman thought, Xiao Wei knew that the money had to be promised, and finally she could only hate it. But when the woman left, Xiao Wei became more and more angry and unwilling, not to mention that his family couldn't afford the money now, and even if he could, he wouldn't give it.

So in the discussion with parents, Xiao Wei decided to change the money in the red envelope to "one thousandth". Anyway, the red envelope was sealed, and she didn't know it at that time. When she knows, it will be too late. After marriage, can she still be proud of this 10 thousand yuan? That is not the loss of Xiao Wei's family, but the shame of the woman's family.

After making up his mind, Xiao Wei made up his mind to do it. On the wedding day, everything went well. She took the bride and went back to her in-laws' house. When Lili offered tea to her in-laws and happily accepted red envelopes, something unexpected happened to Xiao Wei's family.

It may be that girls find that their weight is wrong, or that they are suspicious and don't trust the man enough. She immediately opened the red envelope for tea and found that there was not enough money in it. The girl became angry on the spot.

I threw the red envelope on the ground, pointed it at Xiao Wei's family and started to create a sensation.

"Say good one over one million, your home is really tricky to one thousand, I don't do it, you don't give it to me, I want to go home! Family members are always glib! "

After listening to the girl's words, Xiao Wei got angry and immediately jumped up, slapped the girl and pushed her to the ground.

"Give you face? What family is your family? You are a princess. How much do you weigh Don't you have any points in your heart Almost enough. Still have to make trouble in person. Well, if you want to make trouble, I will accompany you to the end. Aren't you going home? That's as you wish, you asked for it! "

After that, Xiao Wei took the girl and drove directly back to her parents' house. Now this thing is really embarrassing. The girl cried and grabbed the land, thinking that she was humiliated, but the man felt that the woman's family was at fault first, and no one would bow their heads and wanted the other party to compromise. I'm afraid this marriage cannot be concluded.

After listening to the story told by the reader, Fang Yan was also very sad. A beautiful wedding suddenly turned into an arena of intrigue. In the end, both sides lose, and no one is good. Why?

It is really impossible to say whether this matter is right or wrong. It is true that both sides want to play a big game of chess.

Is the woman wrong? Of course, it is unreasonable to ask for sky-high gift money and attach conditions.

Is the woman wrong? Not at first, but when he promised the woman's unreasonable request, broke the contract and cheated the other party, he couldn't help mentioning his mistake.

Maybe some people want to say that even if there is a mistake, it is the fault of the woman's family, or the fault comes first. Women's responsibilities are the most important. The man is also forced to do something, so there is no need to stare.

Indeed, the woman's mistake is obvious and excessive, but you can completely refuse the unreasonable conditions of the other party. It's no big deal not to get married before marriage. Since you are interested in marriage, and you have already made a big deal, it is really incomprehensible to tamper with the small head.

Moreover, violence against women, for whatever reason, is incomprehensible and even more disgusting.

We can clearly see that we still can't get married after a long detour. We might as well refuse from the beginning, and it won't be so ugly.

Regarding women, Lian Fang still advises everyone to think more about men than just themselves. For happiness, there is nothing wrong with making concessions, and the other party will appreciate you and be good to you.

As for the man, you have every reason to refuse unreasonable demands, but since you have promised, please don't break your word. A word from a gentleman is a promise. Don't gamble on your character for a moment's passion.

Both the man and the woman should understand that there are always dangers in the process of talking about marriage. Only family members can come together. On the contrary, not wanting to be together will hurt each other. If we can be together, we should cherish it. If they can't be together, don't regret. Maybe it's a good ending not to remember each other.