Famous writer Wang Shuo: I don't remember loving my parents. I'm skeptical about family relations. Why do you say that?

Wang Shuo is a famous contemporary writer and screenwriter in China. He made a lot of money by writing, scriptwriting and selling copyright. It can be said that the development of his career is extremely smooth. In a book, he once wrote about his childhood like this: "I don't remember loving my parents."

In Wang Shuo's view, his childhood was gloomy, without happiness and light. It was the misfortune of his childhood that formed his eccentric character now. Wang Shuo once admitted that his mother was most afraid of lying in a hospital bed, but he didn't look at her. But Wang Shuo thought it was funny. Where were you when you were supposed to love me?

Wang Shuo's bleak childhood

1958 On August 23rd, Wang Shuo was born in a well-off family in Nanjing, Jiangsu Province. He is the second child in the family. Wang Shuo's father used to be a soldier, but now he is an officer's coach and his mother is a general doctor. When I was a child, because of Wang Shuo's father's work, the family came to a military compound in Beijing and started a new life there.

Because my father is a soldier, the family has practiced stick education since childhood. As long as Wang Shuo doesn't listen, he will be beaten to death. And Wang Shuo's father is very strict with him. At the age of ignorance, Wang Shuo was forced not to make mistakes and became "excellent" to meet his father's standards.

Wang Shuo's mother never thought it was a bad thing for her father to beat him, and she also thought that children should beat him if they were disobedient. Today, this situation may be called domestic violence. But at that time, this was a common situation.

Not only did Wang Shuo's mother never stop Wang Shuo's father from hitting him, but even she didn't care too much about Wang Shuo herself. Giving birth to a child was just a task that had to be completed in that era. When it was born, it was born. She has no idea how to raise and teach. As long as Wang Shuo is not hungry or frozen, her breeding is successful. Sometimes Wang Shuo comes to her when she meets difficulties at school, and she only tells Wang Shuo what to do, without any comfort to Wang Shuo.

So Wang Shuo's childhood was gloomy. He lives under the violence of his father and the indifference of his mother, and he doesn't feel any warmth. Not only do I feel pain physically, but even my heart is like a knife. Slowly, Wang Shuo became numb. He couldn't feel his parents' love for him, so he lost the ability to love his parents.

Obviously living under the same roof, the family is drifting away. Wang Shuo grew up and began to understand. He knows that he has the responsibility to be kind to his parents, but he can't pretend to be kind to his parents. Because whenever he sees his parents, he will think of his miserable childhood and feel very sad.

Wang Shuo has no hope for his family, but hopes that his daughter will be happy after giving birth.

In an interview program, Wang Shuo once asked his mother, "If I were a murderer, would you still love me?" Mother insisted on reporting him. I don't know what Wang Shuo's psychological feelings were at that time, and I may feel very disappointed. How did he become a murderer? This is obviously just a joke, but Wang Shuo's mother chose to hurt him.

Wang Shuo's mother once wrote a book in which she actually loves Wang Shuo and will always love him. Unfortunately, this is just talk. Wang Shuo has never felt his mother's love. No matter when I was a child or when I grew up. Wang Shuo is just a child in his mother's eyes. She needs to raise the child, that's all.

Wang Shuo's mother may not know what love is and what affection is. This situation is very common in China and even the world. Parents do not know how to love their children. They only know what is best for their children, and that is to be kind to them. Children must be kind to their parents when they are old, or they will be ungrateful.

Although many people think so, Wang Shuo, who was injured, especially hates this theory. When he has a daughter, all he wants to do is be nice to her. Although Wang Shuo loves his daughter very much, he has never been loved by his parents. He doesn't know how to love his daughter Wang Mi.

When I was a child, Wang Mi was just an ordinary silly boy, but Wang Shuo never felt anything wrong. Just be an ordinary person. Being a different person is too tiring. Wang Shuo's success does not require his daughter's filial piety. He just wants her to grow up happily. Wang Mi brought much more happiness to Wang Shuo than the money he spent on her.

However, the unfortunate marriage between Wang Shuo and his wife deeply hurt his daughter Wang Mi. On the day she left, Wang Mi secretly cried in the room. At this time, Wang Shuo felt that his heart was cold. He hopes that his daughter will be happy and that she will not be sad because of him. He can only try his best to make up for Wang Mi and give her the best education and life.

When Wang Mi held the wedding, Wang Shuo didn't attend that important occasion. Because he felt that he was not good enough to face his daughter. But Wang Shuo's closest friends all went to the wedding and supported Wang Mi. Wang Mi may have been indifferent to her parents' divorce, because Wang Shuo paid much more for her than hurt her.

What kind of education can make children grow up healthily?

Wang Shuo's educational model is completely different from his parents'. The former hopes that children can grow up safely and happily, while the latter hopes that children can become dragons and phoenixes in the world. These two educational methods are different from children's expectations. But how can it be so simple to make dragons and phoenixes in a crowd? Even if you want to be a talent, can you do it by coercion?

This is especially true for parents nowadays. They reported many interest classes to their children, euphemistically saying that they spent a lot of money on their children, but they never cared about their psychology. Maybe the child doesn't want to take any English class or math class at all. At that age, they just want to have fun crazily. But such a small wish has been ignored by adults.

When children find a butterfly in the grass, they often share it with their parents as a treasure. However, some parents never understand their children's feelings. They never care about children's childish words, but only urge them to learn. But if it is Wang Shuo, he will praise butterflies with his daughter.

Sometimes you feel that you cherish your child, but for her, the so-called "cherish" may be just a burden. Unfortunately for Wang Shuo, his parents are such people. They only care about his life and death, whether he did it right or not, but never care about what he was thinking.

People live in this world just to be happy. Why does everyone understand the simple truth when it comes to children? What children need is always care and love, which no amount of money can replace. If you wait for the child to grow up and try to make up for it, you may not have this chance.