Ji Xianlin: "I want to have more women."

It is rumored that Ji Lao's "Tsinghua Campus Diary" was not written by a generation of masters of Chinese studies, but was like the gossip of hooligans and cynics.

Among them, words are not taboo. When his manuscript is not published, he writes "My manuscript is not published, damn it"; When writing a manuscript in class in the morning, he vomited that "sitting hurts"; Stimulated by hormones, the undisguised teenage mentality "I only wish I had more women" shows us a young, frivolous, restless and rebellious Ji Xianlin.

Long before the manuscript was published, the editor felt that there was something wrong with this part and asked Ji Lao for advice on whether to delete it.

Ji Lao refused.

He later said to himself, "should these words be deleted?" I thought about it and decided not to delete it. I still keep it. I haven't deleted a word. I was not a saint 70 years ago, I am not a saint today, and I will never be a saint in the future. I don't want to go to the Confucius Temple to eat cold pork with me. I was exposed in broad daylight. "

Ji Lao doesn't seem to worry about losing his virginity at all. He brought his youth naked to the public, so that everyone could see Ji Xianlin who would swear, do stupid things and lose face. Therefore, people are particularly tolerant of the inappropriate and inappropriate words and deeds that occasionally appear in the diary, and only praise him for Ji Xianlin's not affectation, not climbing to be a saint, but seeking to be himself.

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If there are three realms in life, the first one is the pursuit of utility, "seeking profit will benefit the world, and seeking fame will last forever"; The second is to seek virtue, "a thousand buildings are peaceful, and the poor in the world are happy"; The third is to seek self, with a clear and open mind. "Nothing is tiring, and I am satisfied all year round." Then Ji Lao, who doesn't delete or reduce and doesn't want to accompany cold pork, must be the third most important.

Ji Lao himself has also exported many excellent ideas and works, and is called "national treasure" and "master", but he is not limited to these titles. He was not a saint 70 years ago, but now he is a master. He doesn't hide his true feelings and doesn't want to be a false defender.

I am not tired of foreign things, I am not trapped by fame and fortune, and I don't want to set up anyone for myself. Because Ji Lao understands that everyone has a secular side, a true self who laughs and scolds freely is the most real, and a person is valuable because of his truthfulness.

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Don't delete or change, keep the whole truth, just eight words, it's hard to say. We always waver between other people's eyes and our true selves, afraid of what others say, and strive to gain a good reputation and image.

A friend's colleague, with a salary of 4000 yuan, bought a "famous brand" bag and wore the same style as an online celebrity star. Every circle of friends takes a long time to take selfies. The breakfast photo must use milk bread and some fruits. The soybean milk she drank and the pancake fruit she bought will never get a chance to appear, because these are detrimental to the style.

Recently, her home was renovated, and she was wondering how to look tall and graceful. A friend advised her that it would be nice to live comfortably in the house. That colleague is not because she wants to be perfect, excellent and impeccable all the time.

In these people's minds, the true self is so annoying that they are bored with themselves. Seriously, he can't be himself as long as there are others around. He is always alert to perfection, like a wound-up actor, wearing a mask and tireless.

Play a perfect role in your own world, but the truth is covering your ears. A person who is good at camouflage may please everyone and make everyone like him, but at the same time he is afraid of being caught.

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Crab, owl and bat feel that they have many bad habits, so they go to a bad habit cram school together. They studied very hard and passed many exams. A few years later, they all graduated successfully and got their doctorates.

However, crabs are still rampant, owls still sleep during the day and move at night, and bats are still upside down.

Some things cannot be changed, and some things don't need to be changed. It is better to accept yourself. For example, if someone speaks with a local accent, you can learn Mandarin, but there is no need to deny that you speak a dialect.

In the hit drama Hello, Old Times, there is a new transfer student. When she first came to school, she spoke English with a strong accent, which made people laugh. Yu, a child in a city, taught her "the protagonist's game", to the effect that if you work hard, people around you will like you, and then you will be the protagonist.

So Xin changed her foreign name to Xin Rui, tried to imitate it, studied as hard as her, treated people like her, liked the same boy, and was still unhappy in the end. She questioned Yu: Why should I do what you do? Why am I still jealous? I hit the nail on the head: the protagonist of the game is to be myself, but you even lost Xin Rui.

Why can't you accept who you really are? It is better to be calm than to enjoy temporary satisfaction in disguise like a thief.

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Like Ji Lao, face yourself frankly and sincerely, be complacent and noble. Instead of Xin Rui, although he worked hard, he still couldn't be the protagonist of others and lost himself.

Ryunosuke Akutagawa once said, "If I delete any moment in my life, I can't be who I am today." Similarly, life is not really complete by hiding the traces of the past; People who don't want to talk about the past are essentially unwilling to accept themselves now. Those who refuse to accept themselves are doomed to miss the protagonist.

Ji Lao knows better than many people. He can delete these things or keep them. He chose to keep them unchanged, and showed us his publicity, naughty and narrow-minded of every boy through hormones.

As said in "Amore's Flower Tea Time", "The ultimate of being a man is to be the best of yourself. So if I still can't make you like me today, I'm sorry. Because I just learn to be the best myself, and I won't treat others casually during this period. "

The best thing about Ji Lao is that he can hide those hasty trivial things instead of doing them. Between decorating others' lives and being sloppy, you have the courage to do things and great wisdom to be a man. Ji Lao is like this, and each of us should have such consciousness and self-confidence.

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Someone said, "Never say anything that can't be said in public, and never comment on something that can't be developed in public. Even in private, you never know when it will be made public. Being seen by others is more horrible than being really seen. "

However, no one is perfect, and I am not a saint. It's really hard to expose your true self to the sun for the sake of character. But I still hope you can face up to yourself and accept yourself, whether ignorant or embarrassed; Be kind to you now, be brave and peaceful, and stretch freely and truly in your position.