Your humble appearance in those years made people feel distressed.

There was once a saying, "In a relationship, whoever takes it seriously first will lose."

The beginning of a relationship means the birth of an unbalanced relationship. Someone always has to take the initiative and give more in love.

These people have a beautiful vision for love. They don't care too much about gains and losses, they just want this relationship to have a happy ending.

However, not all relationships have a destination. From the moment the relationship broke down, they completely lost.

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A friend Xiao Ran once told me the story of her best friend Xiao Meng.

The two met on campus. After several months of contact, they confirmed their relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend. Everyone was happy for her.

When love just started, the two were immersed in this sweet love. Xiao Ran felt the imbalance in this relationship through many chats with Xiao Meng, and Zeng Mingli I reminded Xiaomeng secretly, but it had no effect.

Later, Xiaomeng started working part-time in the school cafeteria to supplement the expenses of her relationship, while her boyfriend went his own way as before.

One morning Xiao Ran was eating in the cafeteria and saw Xiao Meng who had just finished her part-time job and was eating. There was some food on the table, but she didn't eat it. She was just eating the steamed buns in her hands and drinking. water in glass.

Not long after, her boyfriend came. The two exchanged a few words, and then he started eating the food on the table, while Xiao Meng was silently playing with his mobile phone.

After seeing this scene, Xiao Ran was surprised and angry. He never thought that Xiao Meng would be so humble in this relationship.

I can’t remember how long it took, but Xiaomeng couldn’t stand the pain of giving without getting anything, so she chose to break up, while the man kept insisting on her. Xiaomeng couldn’t stand the man’s insistence, so she chose to compromise. .

After graduating from college, the two returned to their respective places of life. After the separation and reunification at school, Xiao Meng had already given up on this humble love. After Meng came up with the idea, he ran to Xiao Meng's hometown and cried and made trouble, regardless of Xiao Meng's opinion. Everyone knew about it, but this time Xiao Meng was unmoved, and in the end the two of them no longer had any intersection.

Xiao Meng later told Xiao Ran all these things. Xiao Ran wished her finally out of the sea of ??suffering and told her that a love requires two people to work together, not just one person. That's fine. Your humbleness may seem like a joke to others.

Xiaoran smiled without saying a word, nodded, and started a new life again.

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One time during a holiday, I had a dinner with my classmates. I was just going to have dinner when I met classmate A’s ex-boyfriend on the road. There was a girl next to him. He saw When we arrived, he put his hand on the shoulder of the girl next to him, as if to demonstrate. We briefly said hello, and he introduced the girl next to him as his current girlfriend.

After A heard this, he took him aside alone and didn’t know what he said. Then he told us that he would not have dinner with us today, but would have a meal with his ex-boyfriend to celebrate his ex-boyfriend. The boyfriend found his ideal girlfriend.

We didn’t stop her because we knew she did it on purpose.

Just reminded: Remember to come back to us after dinner.

During the meal, we were talking about the relationship between A and her ex-boyfriend. The two had known each other since childhood, fell in love in middle school, and went to different universities. The boy had never been to A’s school, and both were A’s. Taking the initiative to find him, the two of them failed to survive the pain of being in a different place, and eventually broke up on bad terms.

When we were about to finish eating, the boy came over to us and said to us: "She drank too much. You can send her home."

Then, we helped her Holding A, he comforted her and sent her home.

She was very conscious and still remembered her way home, how many glasses of wine she had had, and what else she had not done. It was just because of her bad mood that she seemed drunk.

After sending her home, we all felt that it was not worth it for A, and felt sorry for all the sacrifices she had made in this relationship. It was an unforgettable but fruitless love.

Since this incident, I haven’t heard from A for a long time, as if he has disappeared from our lives.

When I heard the news from her again, she was already married and had children, and her family was happy, but that person was not the person who had hurt her.

Recently I heard a friend who is about to get married say this: "When you are young and fall in love, if you don't have the mentality that it must be him (her), it will be much easier and you will enjoy it more. This relationship". This sentence impressed me deeply. What I want to express is that in a relationship, if the purpose is not very strong, it is easier for us to be our true selves, instead of blindly accommodating others, losing ourselves, and causing harm to ourselves.

In a relationship, if there is no positive response to our efforts, please remember to choose to give up. Your persistence may be just a humble behavior in his eyes and will not gain his inner love. Approval will not let him know how to feel sorry for you.

After experiencing heartbreaking and humble love, you will eventually grow up and meet the right person.

I hope that everyone in life can meet someone who really understands you early and knows how to feel sorry for you.

I hope that each of you: "Everything you see when you look up is gentleness."