Grandma, you can't treat me as your own daughter, so stop talking.

The first time I heard this sentence was when my mother-in-law and my parents talked about my marriage with Teacher Chen.

Mother disapproved of the marriage. Because my husband's family is in Linxian county, I don't know the situation of their family, and I am afraid of being bullied. But I didn't hold back, and finally let go and agreed.

Not long after, when my mother-in-law and my mother discussed the details of marriage, my mother said, "We don't have many children, and we spoiled her since childhood. If we go to your house in the future, you must forgive me. " My mother-in-law followed up and said, "There is only one son in our family. Your child comes to our family and treats it like his own daughter." I was very happy to hear that, and naively thought that the future would only be happy.

I got pregnant soon after I got married. Those days, I really realized what it was like to be a queen for ten months.

Sleep until you wake up naturally every day, have three meals a day as you like, and leave your clothes to your mother-in-law. I felt really lucky to meet such a good mother-in-law.

Once when I went back to my mother's house, an elder who had seen her mother-in-law said, "How is the life in her husband's family? Your mother-in-law seems to be a difficult person to get along with. " I also retorted that "difficult people are good to me."

At that time, it was also simple. I didn't know that the eyes of my elders were really fierce.

Until the prenatal period, I still felt that my mother-in-law really treated me as her own daughter.

The second time I heard this sentence was in the second month.

I gave birth to a baby by caesarean section because the fetal position was not correct. I don't know how painful it is for a natural mother to have a baby. All I know is that I have never suffered so much.

The nurse said to get out of bed and walk around within 24 hours after delivery to avoid more pain caused by sticky intestines. I moved my legs inch by inch while crying. The distance from the bed to the ground is as far as the earth to the moon. What can be done in one second can be done in half an hour.

Two days before giving birth, the nurse will come every hour to press my stomach and help me discharge lochia. It's as painful for me as it was then. Every time the nurse enters the ward, I look like a frightened bird. I wish I had an invisibility cloak so that I could hide.

Although it has been two years, it is still vivid and unforgettable to mention it now.

After coming home from the hospital, I was afraid that Teacher Chen would not take good care of me, so my mother slept with me every day, washed the baby's milk powder, changed diapers and put him to bed at night. Moreover, the baby is very noisy every night, and it is his mother who walks with him, sometimes sitting with him all night.

But because my younger brother in junior high school started school soon and had to go home to take care of him, my mother only took care of me for half a month and left.

So, the task of taking care of me fell on my mother-in-law.

When my mother left, she said to her mother-in-law, "I'm going back, too." Please take good care of her. " My mother-in-law took it and said, "You can go home and do your own thing. I will take care of her like my own child. " I thought at that time that it was a good thing to have a good mother-in-law, otherwise I would have worked hard.

After mom left, Mr. Chen offered to take care of the children with me. But her mother-in-law was distressed that he couldn't sleep well, so she said she would take care of him. I also think that my mother-in-law is definitely better than teacher Chen, so I unanimously decided that my mother-in-law and I will take care of the baby together.

On the first day after my mother left, I had to endure the pain and get up to make milk powder and change diapers. As soon as the baby cries, my mother-in-law and I will coax each other, but before the end of the month, my mother-in-law and I will turn against each other.

Faced with the crying of the newborn baby every night, the whole family is very anxious. As a new mother, I haven't adjusted my state yet. My mother-in-law, who was a little grumpy, became more grumpy in the days of long-term lack of sleep. Although the mother-in-law gave birth to the baby, she couldn't help the baby sleep. So in the baby crying again and again, the war between my mother-in-law and me broke out.

One night, the baby cried at two or three in the middle of the night and finally fell asleep, but as soon as you sat down, he would cry again. Then the mother-in-law said a lot of ugly things to scold the baby. My mother-in-law has said some ugly things before, but I understand that my mother-in-law is old and it is not bad to help me with my children. But what I said this time is really unbearable. I can't stand it. I said, "This is not your grandson. It's ugly. If you don't want to take care of it, I will take care of it myself. " My mother-in-law scolded me. "I cry every day, or I will be killed by him if I don't die."

From that day on, I told Mr. Chen, "I will take care of the children myself in the future, and I will never ask my mother-in-law for help when I am exhausted."

Only then did I wake up. My mother-in-law said that treating me as her own daughter was just empty talk. In the later days, I also proved how stupid I was again and again.

I used to cook according to my own taste, but now I follow my own ideas; I used to keep all the delicious food for myself, but now they have to make their own bowls and irons at home. In the past, clothes didn't need to be washed, but now no one touches dirty clothes even if they are left for a few days; Too many things tell me that this is a mother-in-law, not a mother.

Because of what my mother-in-law said, I am full of expectations for this new home.

Because of high expectations, there is a great sense of strangeness in the following days and a lot of dissatisfaction with my mother-in-law.

The third time I heard this sentence is today.

Teacher Chen's aunt was playing in our house today and mentioned her daughter who married in Guangdong.

Xiao Yan said that her daughter was pregnant with a second child and had a bad appetite. She wants to eat some sausages from her hometown. She packed fresh meat, nutritious vegetable oil and freshly made sausage into a big box and sent it to her daughter thousands of miles away.

When the courier arrived, my daughter asked her father-in-law to help her move. If her father-in-law didn't want to, she moved with her mother-in-law. When I went downstairs, I saw such a big box. Mother-in-law said she couldn't move it, so her daughter who had just had a puncture had to carry the big box home by herself.

Aunt was very unhappy when she heard her daughter's words on the phone. She said in front of her mother-in-law: "After all, she is not her own child, and I don't feel sorry for her at all."

I took the words "it must be, whose child is distressed."

My mother-in-law blew up at that time and said, "Why, I am not good to you. Don't I treat you as my own daughter? "

When I heard this sentence this time, my reaction was not good at all, and I lost the joy of two years ago.

When I was born, my mother would wait anxiously at the door of the operating room; When the baby is sick, he takes care of it day and night without complaining; Help me in time when I am in financial difficulties; Wait for me to go home and cook a good meal; When the season changes, take the children to buy clothes. What about the mother-in-law

When I got married, I said that the economy was not affluent and I didn't want to have children for the time being. My mother-in-law said she gave birth to her, but the child was ill. I didn't have enough money with me and didn't want to help with the expenses. I promised to buy insurance for my child, but when I renewed my insurance the next year, I said that I had told her that she only cared about one year and ignored the next ten years. I didn't buy new clothes for my children during the Spring Festival. Everything in the past always reminded me not to believe what my mother-in-law said.

I know that my mother-in-law is not pregnant in October, and I am not the one who has lived with her for more than 20 years, so I don't expect her to treat me as my own daughter. I just hope my mother-in-law will stop saying such ridiculous things. It's a joke to me!